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Re: I'm reconsidering ANY type of serious relationship

Postby droid » Fri Oct 21, 2016 7:28 am

MattHanson1990 wrote:
Kradmelder wrote:
MattHanson1990 wrote:
Still, even with the help from tapatio, I'm continuing to have a hard time finding women who would give in return. Gold diggers seem to be everywhere these days, and givers are now like a needle in a haystack.

What do you expect? you are White so they are likely to see you as a source of Yankee dollars, and you will attract that type.


This is why I'm going to avoid low-class Mexican women like the plague. Brown Mexicanas tend to have the "white is better" mindset, and that's part of the reason many of them throw themselves at gringos. On the other hand, Mexican girls with predominantly European blood didn't throw themselves at me but wanted to get to know me as a person. I guess I'd probably be better off relocating to Hermosillo or Chihuahua where I'll blend in better (Northern Mexico has plenty of white Mexican girls, and AmericanInMexico even confirmed that white man are wanted most by white Mexican women).


You're still pretty young Matt, don't rush. Just make friends with those girls and take time to loosen up, i didn't see your video but some said you are still a bit stiff. Just take advantage that girls south of the border -still- can be just friends. You don't have to get into a relationship just yet at your age.
How about the university? If i recall correctly, you were going to try that somehow. Like I've mentioned before you really need a setting where you see the same girls repeatedly, this is a must everywhere but it's almost never discussed.
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
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Re: I'm reconsidering ANY type of serious relationship

Postby Kradmelder » Fri Oct 21, 2016 9:13 am

MattHanson1990 wrote:
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MattHanson1990 wrote:
Still, even with the help from tapatio, I'm continuing to have a hard time finding women who would give in return. Gold diggers seem to be everywhere these days, and givers are now like a needle in a haystack.

What do you expect? you are White so they are likely to see you as a source of Yankee dollars, and you will attract that type.


This is why I'm going to avoid low-class Mexican women like the plague. Brown Mexicanas tend to have the "white is better" mindset, and that's part of the reason many of them throw themselves at gringos. On the other hand, Mexican girls with predominantly European blood didn't throw themselves at me but wanted to get to know me as a person. I guess I'd probably be better off relocating to Hermosillo or Chihuahua where I'll blend in better (Northern Mexico has plenty of white Mexican girls, and AmericanInMexico even confirmed that white man are wanted most by white Mexican women).


Getting to know them is a good idea. I keep quality women as friends and don't stick my dick in there as it will lead to demands for places I don't want to go. As a young man though, for you it is different. If they prove to be decent it may be a potential partner. See it as that, and forget the true love BS. That fades and all you have left is will she be a good partner or not.

As for your choice of women in future, well done.

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Re: I'm reconsidering ANY type of serious relationship

Postby yick » Sat Oct 22, 2016 9:52 am

MattHanson1990 wrote:The indomestiza Mexican girl I went on five dates with nearly took advantage of me earlier this afternoon, asking me to buy her clothes and we like only knew each other for a week (two at most). I got out of the relationship just in time, and now I am reconsidering pursuing any kind of serious relationship with a woman. While Mexican women are friendlier than American women, they can still be cunning and have only one reason to be with a man - extract resources from him. And even Tapatio89 confirmed that there are cunning women even in his socioeconomic class. In my experiences, I have had a far better time with higher end Mexican gals, euromestizas and castizas, whereas the brown Mexican women were ONLY seeking to extract resources from me or get laid quickly. And in fact, that one gordita I dated for a while back in February was much more likely to be a keeper. She never asked anything from me but wanted to show me other parts of Mexico, including her hometown of La Piedad, Michoacan. And she could've been my first serious girlfriend had I stayed in Mexico longer.

Some women, especially in this day and age, are next to impossible to keep in check. In other words they will not take no for an answer. And they will continue to ask men for their money/resources while giving nothing in return, even if the man says no. Unfortunately, this also includes some women who have good paying jobs.

So I'm likely going to reconsider marriage/LTRs and only go as far as short term girlfriends these days. And if a woman and I have good chemistry, she and I can be best friends (platonic) at most. Long term relationships are just way too risky, even in cultures where there are no misandrist laws enforced and where the divorce rate is nowhere near as high. I'm better off being a player or full-on MGTOW. Even many other HAers mentioned that it's not worth it to get into a relationship with a woman anymore.

Perhaps indomestiza women are gold diggers since most are low class and have an inferiority complex.


You can't keep dumping women you like because they do or say stupid shit. She doesn't know your views on spending money (something you need to do when dating - especially in the third world - if you want you and your dates to 'go Dutch' there are American women who will happily do that).

Why didn't you turn it into a joke and say 'Yeah, I might get it for your birthday - if you are good!' or 'What about my present eh?' You might have got laid for the cost of a cheap cardigan. Think before doing stupid rash shit. :roll:
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Re: I'm reconsidering ANY type of serious relationship

Postby MattHanson1990 » Sat Oct 22, 2016 5:27 pm

yick wrote:
MattHanson1990 wrote:The indomestiza Mexican girl I went on five dates with nearly took advantage of me earlier this afternoon, asking me to buy her clothes and we like only knew each other for a week (two at most). I got out of the relationship just in time, and now I am reconsidering pursuing any kind of serious relationship with a woman. While Mexican women are friendlier than American women, they can still be cunning and have only one reason to be with a man - extract resources from him. And even Tapatio89 confirmed that there are cunning women even in his socioeconomic class. In my experiences, I have had a far better time with higher end Mexican gals, euromestizas and castizas, whereas the brown Mexican women were ONLY seeking to extract resources from me or get laid quickly. And in fact, that one gordita I dated for a while back in February was much more likely to be a keeper. She never asked anything from me but wanted to show me other parts of Mexico, including her hometown of La Piedad, Michoacan. And she could've been my first serious girlfriend had I stayed in Mexico longer.

Some women, especially in this day and age, are next to impossible to keep in check. In other words they will not take no for an answer. And they will continue to ask men for their money/resources while giving nothing in return, even if the man says no. Unfortunately, this also includes some women who have good paying jobs.

So I'm likely going to reconsider marriage/LTRs and only go as far as short term girlfriends these days. And if a woman and I have good chemistry, she and I can be best friends (platonic) at most. Long term relationships are just way too risky, even in cultures where there are no misandrist laws enforced and where the divorce rate is nowhere near as high. I'm better off being a player or full-on MGTOW. Even many other HAers mentioned that it's not worth it to get into a relationship with a woman anymore.

Perhaps indomestiza women are gold diggers since most are low class and have an inferiority complex.


You can't keep dumping women you like because they do or say stupid shit. She doesn't know your views on spending money (something you need to do when dating - especially in the third world - if you want you and your dates to 'go Dutch' there are American women who will happily do that).

Why didn't you turn it into a joke and say 'Yeah, I might get it for your birthday - if you are good!' or 'What about my present eh?' You might have got laid for the cost of a cheap cardigan. Think before doing stupid rash shit. :roll:


First of all, she was asking me to buy her clothes when she and I only went on 5 dates and were still getting to know each other. And she offered almost nothing in return. That says a lot about how she saw me only as a walking ATM. A guy paying for the first three dates is a custom here in Mexico, and that's different from a woman asking you to buy her material things when you're just getting to know her. Furthermore, Mexico isn't as third world as Central America (except Costa Rica and Panama) or Peru. There are parts of the country that are first world and other parts that are third world. But even the third world parts of Mexico are still a world apart from poorer Latin countries.
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Re: I'm reconsidering ANY type of serious relationship

Postby Rock » Sat Oct 22, 2016 5:55 pm

MattHanson1990 wrote:
yick wrote:
MattHanson1990 wrote:The indomestiza Mexican girl I went on five dates with nearly took advantage of me earlier this afternoon, asking me to buy her clothes and we like only knew each other for a week (two at most). I got out of the relationship just in time, and now I am reconsidering pursuing any kind of serious relationship with a woman. While Mexican women are friendlier than American women, they can still be cunning and have only one reason to be with a man - extract resources from him. And even Tapatio89 confirmed that there are cunning women even in his socioeconomic class. In my experiences, I have had a far better time with higher end Mexican gals, euromestizas and castizas, whereas the brown Mexican women were ONLY seeking to extract resources from me or get laid quickly. And in fact, that one gordita I dated for a while back in February was much more likely to be a keeper. She never asked anything from me but wanted to show me other parts of Mexico, including her hometown of La Piedad, Michoacan. And she could've been my first serious girlfriend had I stayed in Mexico longer.

Some women, especially in this day and age, are next to impossible to keep in check. In other words they will not take no for an answer. And they will continue to ask men for their money/resources while giving nothing in return, even if the man says no. Unfortunately, this also includes some women who have good paying jobs.

So I'm likely going to reconsider marriage/LTRs and only go as far as short term girlfriends these days. And if a woman and I have good chemistry, she and I can be best friends (platonic) at most. Long term relationships are just way too risky, even in cultures where there are no misandrist laws enforced and where the divorce rate is nowhere near as high. I'm better off being a player or full-on MGTOW. Even many other HAers mentioned that it's not worth it to get into a relationship with a woman anymore.

Perhaps indomestiza women are gold diggers since most are low class and have an inferiority complex.


You can't keep dumping women you like because they do or say stupid shit. She doesn't know your views on spending money (something you need to do when dating - especially in the third world - if you want you and your dates to 'go Dutch' there are American women who will happily do that).

Why didn't you turn it into a joke and say 'Yeah, I might get it for your birthday - if you are good!' or 'What about my present eh?' You might have got laid for the cost of a cheap cardigan. Think before doing stupid rash shit. :roll:


First of all, she was asking me to buy her clothes when she and I only went on 5 dates and were still getting to know each other. And she offered almost nothing in return. That says a lot about how she saw me only as a walking ATM. A guy paying for the first three dates is a custom here in Mexico, and that's different from a woman asking you to buy her material things when you're just getting to know her. Furthermore, Mexico isn't as third world as Central America (except Costa Rica and Panama) or Peru. There are parts of the country that are first world and other parts that are third world. But even the third world parts of Mexico are still a world apart from poorer Latin countries.


Matt, you made the right choice I bet. She sounds like a real taker. You were wise not to drop any gifts since you were not able to establish any sort of romantic connection with her.
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Re: I'm reconsidering ANY type of serious relationship

Postby chibolo » Sat Oct 22, 2016 6:36 pm

MattHanson1990 wrote:Furthermore, Mexico isn't as third world as Central America (except Costa Rica and Panama) or Peru. There are parts of the country that are first world and other parts that are third world. But even the third world parts of Mexico are still a world apart from poorer Latin countries.


Well having been to both Peru and Mexico I would say that in general, you are right, Mexico is more developed than Peru, with better infrastructure in most places (though still far from being a first world country). However, it all depends on what part of these countries you are comparing.

Not all parts of Peru are the same either. The coast ("la Costa") is wealthier, while the highlands ("la Sierra") and Amazon region ("la Selva") are very poor. Upper middle class Lima (where most of the wealth in Peru is concentrated) is just as modern and developed as the best areas of Mexico City. Other major cities like Arequipa and Trujillo have very nice areas too. Peru isn't as undeveloped as you may think (at least not everywhere).

And some parts of Mexico, like the outskirts of Acapulco for example are VERY third world. I even saw pigs and chickens running around freely in the streets there :lol: , something I never saw even in the poorest parts of Peru (that I have been to).

Also, while Peru may be still be poorer than Mexico it also has one of the fastest growing economies in Latin America:

http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20160816-is-this-south-americas-unexpected-boomtown

Anyway, just wanted to clarify a bit. :D
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