How can finding a suitable mate in a population of 34 MILLION be so hard... there must be a suitable man amongst the many men who live and work in Shanghai... oh I forgot, they are CHINESE - silly me, that won't do.Shanghai might have one of the largest foreign communities in all of China, but this certainly doesn't make it any easier for foreign females when it comes to dating.
Of course, this isn't the case for every Western woman in China, many whom are already married and just tagging along on their husband's expat package. But for the most part, finding a suitable mate here is not at all as easy nor fun as back home, as the odds are simply against us.
This is not really true.Most everyone knows by now that Western men are god-like figures in China, attracting hoards of local women who are drawn to their masculine appearances and dominant personalities in comparison to the average effeminate, small-sized Chinese men. Generally speaking, Western men are also more blunt about what they want than the average local fellows, which seems to appeal to the native women, ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex.
There are lots of western men who get very little in the way of attention from Chinese women - a lot of western men are indeed small, non masculine, some are bald and fat and ugly whereas some Chinese men are tall and well built (though not all that common, these people do exist). Chinese men - the rich, tall, well built and masculine ones - get more quality tail than any white guy.
And nothing to do with the vast majority of you and your inbuilt racism - of course...Unfortunately, the same principle does not apply to Western women when it comes to dating Chinese men. If anything, we're considered too dominant, turning the majority of them off with our independent personalities and strong opinions.
Aaaaaaaaaaaah now we know who are pissing in her chips - not the many Taiwanese, Korean, Malaysian, Singaporean, Nigerian, Congolese expats - but the white ones - if some guy from El Salvador is f***ing half of Shanghai then so what? Stephanie doesn't give two shits about his black ass.White males seem to fall into a frenzy of dating as many local women as they possibly can with absolutely no commitment to any of them. They become spoiled by choice, knowing that there's a different option waiting for them at every bar and each English corner.
Oooooooooh - those white guys again - when are y'all going to come to your senses?New expat women to China, whom are derisively called "fempats" by expat men, quickly understand this phenomenon upon arriving and either have to accept their singleness or grow old waiting for white guys to come to their senses.
I have never heard the term 'fempats' before - cat ladies is a term that gets bandied around a lot though....
This is the unbelievable arrogance of most of these expat women.One night stands might be fun for the first several years in China, but the constant merry-go-round of meaningless flings here gets old pretty fast. Human beings are hardwired to eventually make emotional connections, and considering the cultural clashes that many mixed couples seem to encounter - whenever you see a mixed couple in public they always look miserable - it's inevitable that most foreign males in China will ultimately prefer to marry a white woman than go native.
It isn't enough for the message to be rammed down their throat - but they still think that they are the bee knees - now, there are a few men who date white in Asia but I know loads of guys who have dated and married local women in Korea, Japan, Taiwan and China. Once most white men have had a long term local girlfriend and has made a choice of monogamy - he isn't going back to some white woman the size of a tank. f**k off you deluded cow - go and tell it to the cat!
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and considering the cultural clashes that many mixed couples seem to encounter - whenever you see a mixed couple in public they always look miserable
You know who looks more miserable, the white blokes who have brought their girlfriends from home - I haven't seen a bloke look as miserable since basic training in the army.
The vast majority of you would have to let go of your racist views about Asian men in general, there are lots of Asian men who would love to date you and your bloated, pale sisters but you won't give 'em a chance - maybe it's time to stop shagging everything that moves, stop being bitter and angry, become more pleasant and maybe fellows of all races might want to spend time with you.It would be nice to see the culture gap between Westerners and Chinese eventually narrow in order for foreign women to have a fighting chance at dating Chinese men.
This is the truth about both genders of the expat community in China.In turn, it would also be interesting to watch Western men finally get a reality check and discover that most of them are hardly "God's gift to women" and could never get this much action back in their home countries.
The women are no better looking than the men - they are about the same in regards attractiveness.
The facts are - for a western woman to get no action in the west, they have to be really disease ridden and repulsive, outside of that, most western women in the west can command a sex life.
I think most western men in China don't get all that much action - not that I know, most of the guys I know all over Asia (must be hundreds) have married something of their physical equal, have been in long term relationships with them before tying the knot and are happy. What's wrong with someone getting their physical equal? Nothing.
The only thing is happening is that the women now know their true station - they aren't that appealing if there is an option B - and the only reason anyone puts up with them back home is because there is no option B.
Liar, liar, pants on f***ing fire.While there are exceptions, the plight of dating local men in China is still a bittersweet experience for Western women. We crave the chance to experience Chinese-style love and romance, but we don't look forward to getting ditched once marriage is brought up. We're a resilient bunch however, and won't be giving up hope anytime soon, so for all you single Chinese men in Shanghai, watch out because here I come!
One thing about white women, they hate being called out on their racism.
They won't be honest about their massive preferences for their 'own kind' so they will disguise it and pretend that us darkies and slant eyes have a chance with them when the facts are - we stand no chance with them.
But instead of just telling the truth, the lying slags just make shit up and confuse the likes of myself, Winston, Zboy1 and others into thinking there is something wrong with us, some of us go to pastures new and be happy, some of the thicker ones stick around and fight life and death battles for the attention of below average women who happen to think they are better than you because they are white.
If Steph was interested in Chinese guys - she wouldn't give a shit what some white dork is getting up to in some expat bar in Shanghai. She would be too busy having a good time, instead of watching her Friends DVD's with her cat.