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Can you tell if women of other races are considered beautiful by people of their own race?
For me personally, if a woman has Subsaharan African features, it is unlikely that I'll find her attractive. I've seen Ethiopian women I thought were attractive. But I remember watching black TV shows growing up. Men on 'Sandford and Son' were talking about how pretty a certain black woman was. I couldn't see it. She didn't look pretty to me. I had rarely seen a black woman I found attractive.
After I'd lived in Indonesia for a while and went back to the US, I was more likely to see a black woman and recognize that she was attractive. I have kind of a loose sense of what black women in the US a black man might find attractive.
But I can think of a few now I think are quite pretty, Halle Berry especially when she was young, one of the villains on Gotham, one of Dr. Who's assistants a few years ago.
I remember my mom trying to teach me not to be racist when I was little, but I lived in the South and had some racist relatives. Some of them would make negative comments about blacks and maybe their looks. It's possible I heard that when I was forming the ability to perceive attractiveness and it influenced me.
I can tell if I think an Asian woman is pretty. I think the TV stars in Indonesia are better looking than the average Indonesian, and Indonesians consider Indonesian women I think are pretty to be pretty. There is individual variation. I also notice that they'll choose a woman with kind of white features to be beauty contest winners when I see the winners in the paper, for example, while I'll think the runner up who looks more local is prettier. But the girl I considered prettiest would never win a beauty contest in the western world either.
So, how many white guys out there don't generally perceive black women as pretty? What about Asians or those with a lot of Native American blood?
I am wondering especially about those who do not seem to care much either for certain races or racial mixing, such as Cornfed or Kradmelder. Do you see any black women and think they are pretty? What about Asians?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, all races have attractive females and males. Most black women are not very attractive but a few are very very attractive. Unlike the great Corny I find certain blacks and their talents amazing and I can see where the rest of us get our gifts through them and I do realize as a whole they are a mess and probably the best representative of the flower of humanity being mostly a cluster f**k and a few shining examples.
I now personally realize from being here many decades the most beautiful women in my opinion are white but we are talking that one in a million and they are short lived. As stated beauty is in the eye of the beholder but when I think of the most incredible breathtaking features and eyen candy the white girls usually got it the best.
Some blacks are just as attractive are and more so in some ways as any of the other races but that rarity of one in a million is usually white.
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I personally don't find any African or black women attractive. To boot, I find them interpersonally objectionable to boot.
But I realize that is only my opinion and I respect any person's right to find anyone attractive or not.
Truth be told, most women of all races are horrid-looking. It is but a 5% sliver of white and Asian women who catch my attention. Latin women are about 2% attractive, but they are culturally not to my liking. .
1% of black women might get my second glance without follow-up due to lack of interest.
There is no shame in the game of liking what you like even when it does not comport with the views of unmitigated morons.
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Regardless of sociaeconomical class, Latin America doesn't do it for me anymore; I'm not just picking on the Anglosphere. If anything, the UK is seemingly more interesting than all of Latin America nowadays. In Latin America, the Stockholm Syndrome is very prominent; most people have this pretentious White archetype they only respect. Everything else is highly-loathed. Latin America is probably one of the most classist places on Earth, with such uber-North American socioracial constructs (not South American). Due to being on this messy vacation, I have learned that my hey-days of Latin America are behind me now, and it's time to check out Eastern Europe. It's any country with post-slavery colonialism that needs to be avoided by such guys like me. In addendum, the Western Hemisphere is toast.
I personally feel I'd do better in ZA (South Africa) than in Latin America; I would only hang out with afrikaaners and coloureds - not - the Blacks. Brazil is going through a serious crisis now, and it should be avoided; do not let that 3.xx:1 currency exchange fool you. The days of Club Help, Bundalele are over. Yeah, the Acai among other juices are the best juices on planet Earth bar-none, but it's simply not worth going there just to sample them.
It's time to expatriate to evade your fate; it's time to expatriate before the barn door permanently closes on "US" sheep.
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CE nails it with 'most women are unattractive'.
But I like all women of all races, ethnicities and colours
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but I think human nature is you like what you see in the mirror, that definitely goes double for women - not in every case of course, but in most cases.
Most of my female students think the above guy is VERY hot.
Don't ask me why, would a classroom full of twenty year old british girls think the same, I highly highly highly doubt it.
My case is sort of interesting. As a kid, during my 'whitewashed' stage I dreamed of marrying a white woman and only found white women attractive. As I got a bit older I found all races of women attractive, but then my preferences began shifting back to my own race / ethnicity, where it remains now and will remain for the rest of my life. Now i simply don't find women of other races appealing. White women may look good from afar, but they don't age well and up close their brown or yellow body hairs freak me out. I'm also not into light features (eyes, hair) except skin. Black women, I simply find them unattractive. Latinas, South Asians, Middle Easterners, meh.
I don't like women with sharp angular faces and high, protruding cheekbones. They bring bad luck and are overall unpleasant to look at. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. What ignorant guys living in the West (non-Happier Abroaders) consider attractive is considered trash to me. Mr. Murdoch and Mr. Zuckerberg's tastes are LOL to me. Deng Wendi would not be able to find a decent man of her own race.
As far as I know, women of other races are still women. So are there attractive women in other races? Well they are still women. So there must be at least a few of them that are attractive. At least physically.
Now, how is her hygiene? Is she filthy or is she clean?
How's her personality? Is she sweet and submissive? Or does she bust your chops and refuse to do the things you ask?
Is her breath okay? How is her body odor?
Is she excessively lazy and refusing to take care of food preparation?
Is she a pathological liar?
Is she overly opinionated or an adversarial personality type?
Does she look for ways to please her man or does she just not care?
There is much more to a woman than just how she looks. That is only the very beginning of what the woman is.
Some black women are very attractive and just if not more feminine than other races. Yes they are very rare and I find them very refreshing as being such a break from the norm...
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Whitney or Sade?
"One of the saddest lessons of history is this: we're no longer interested in finding out the truth." - Carl Sagan
Whitney Houston's picture does not look attractive to me. That picture of Sade, a little bit.
I'd be interested to know if Kradmelder or Cornfed consider a part-black woman with a lot of white features to be attractive like this one:
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If a white woman looked the same except for hair and skin color, would she be attractive?
What about someone who looks like this?
Or someone like this?
A friend of mine said this black woman with a fancy cowgirl outfit and fancy saddle wanted to ride with him and his friend all the time. He and his friend would try to get away if they saw her coming. She didn't want to ride in the mountains alone, and they wanted to hang out and act like guys. She found out where he lived and would knock on his door to ask his wife if he could go riding. It reminded him of a kid asking his momma if he could go out and play. His friend used to call her something derrogatory when she wasn't around. I'll use the initials "N.B."
My friend didn't watch MTV, but years later, in Indonesia, that was about the only English channel he could get. He flew his friend over to visit him to repay a favor. They were watching TV, when the black woman who used to ride horses with them appeared on TV. His friend said, "That's that N.B!" It was Whitney Houston. He thought maybe one reason she wanted to hang around them was because they didn't treat her like a celebrity. They would even try to avoid her.
Anyway, this friend of mine seemed to be the same way about 'pribumi' Indonesian's looks as some people are about blacks. His wife is Chinese, from Indonesia, and very light skinned. My wife is a light-skinned Indonesian woman, but a shade or two darker than his wife, and probably a bit darker when I first met her since she has gotten more careful about her skin than she was back then. When my wife and I started dating, I asked what he thought about her looks. He avoided commenting. He didn't say anything mean, but the gist of it was that he didn't find local women attractive or didn't find women attractive if their skin was a bit darker. Indonesians consider my wife pretty, and plenty of guys in the US seem to find her attractive. But some men don't like certain features or only like certain skin tones.
I've seen the skin tone thing a lot in Indonesia. A woman can have really beautiful features but if her skin is a bit dark, other people do not consider her attractive. Locals will comment on how some of the white men like dark women. And they might tease a girl a bit telling her she is 'dark and sweet'. Sweet means cute or attractive in Indonesia. But dark is considered an an attractive trait. There are plenty of dark-skinned people who get married, so some of these perceptions may be from the Jakarta city folks I've been around, and they may also be a kind of cultural archetype of beauty that individuals may not adhere to.
If a man doesn't want to marry outside of his race, I respect that. It's not just whites, but a lot of Japanese and Chinese think that way, too. I think it's ethnocentric for westerners to consider those who do not want to marry outside of their race. If you don't find women from other races attractive, I don't have a problem with that. I experience it myself to some degree. I don't find most black women to be pretty in my own subjective perception of external beauty, and the pictures above are exceptions to the rule. What I see as bad is when people hate other races of people and hold them in contempt.
No. No black or coloured woman will ever be attractive to me. It would be like bestiality. It has nothing to do with hating them but rather with wanting to remain apart from them. No way am I mixing dna with them or any kind of intimacy. But I wouldn't with an Asian woman either and I respect asians.
It is a liberal concept to try and tar brush apartNess with hatred to try and tar all racists as hate filled. Just like jews tar anyone commenting about the behaviour of jews as anti-semitic. It is not their race that is offensive but their behaviour.
If this were true I would despise all race mixers on here. Yet some of the most decent men on here are those with Asian wives and mixed kids. If that is your thing, good on you. It is not mine. Mine is white and stay white for all your generations.