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For those of you that know I am married. I married a girl from Korea.
I'm also Korean but grew up in America.
Anyway, I asked my wife a hypothetical question.
What if I lost my job but decided to open a store like a deli or dry cleaner(stereotypical 1st generation Korean American businesses for example ). My wife said she wouldn't do any of those to help out. She is not sure what she would do but maybe go back to school and learn a new trade or something. I understand. Owning a business is ALLOT of work. If you see any Asian owned business they work LONG hours and it's sometimes tedious.
More back ground of my family. My mother study pharmacy in South Korea and was a pharmacist. My dad actually owned a jewelry store in South Korea. This is going back in the 1970s. My parents decided to immigrate to USA thinking it better for me and my sister. At the same time during the 70's there was this fear of war again between North Korea and South Korea. My mother was able to come to USA because of her profession status as a pharmacist.
But in USA she didn't work as a pharmacist. Instead my parents open a deli grocery business in ghetto part of town. I remember the long hours the fighting with customers and how stressful it was for them. But they didn't quit they did that business for over 25 years . Now they are retired. But during that time ..they never took vacation..just worked and saved money.
My sister and I went to college. We came out OK. One of the reason why I didn't do the happier broad and just live abroad like Winston is because I help my parents. They gave up allot and I feel I owe them as a son. I realize my mother in her generation would work hard. Sacrifice allot for her family. My dad was abusive at times but my mother stayed with my father.
I look at the younger generation and yes including my wife. They wouldn't do this. It's more about easy life .
I see this with white people and black people. The previous generation of people would hang in there longer. If you look at older couples they have more of traditional values and the women would do more for the family or husband even if the husband was very old fashion. Not with today generation.
I will say that the Industrial revolution really screwed everything up. The world's really been going downhill for a very long time, but nowhere near the time of the IR, have we seen such damning changes to families, a personal sense of love and purpose, intrinsic being and human kindness/naturalness.
This change broke from the spiritual and innate understanding of humanity from time immemorial, to dehumanizing everyone, and cheapening life to the point that we weren't even considered worth anything as humans - only worth what we achieved or, put out and produced.
I know I'm getting off track here, but this is a real thing. I agree with what you're saying about a generational thing. That's true, and it changes every generation people seem to become less human.
We are being robbed of our traditions, soul, and our inherent worthiness and purpose, and love. We are obviously being used by some psychopaths at the top - who have no scrupulosity about how they treat us or value for other human life other than their own.
I think the world's had just about enough of this, thank God...and something's about to be done. I hope I live to see that day.
Last edited by Eric on June 16th, 2017, 5:25 am, edited 1 time in total.
Misery and happiness are only states of mind.
IMO, the 'right' answer from a wife would be something like, "I would support you" or "I would work with you if you asked/told me to." I'd much rather hear that. My wife probably wouldn't put it that way, probably more reluctant, since she doesn't want to open a store.
A Korean opening a shop in a ghetto part of town is a kind of stereotypical thing, but I guess a lot of them found that was a niche where they could make money.
White Americans came over as immigrants. A lot of them came over with basically nothing, staked a claim and/or were granted some land, and worked really, really hard to get set up. Back then, everyone had to work hard. Over time, through a combination of inheritance and government benefits, generations down the line often became less hard working. People who were poor could move out west, get some land, work really, really hard, and succeed, and then a few generations, their descendants wanted to take it easy. It is not surprising if Asians see it he same way. a
But honestly, I wouldn't want to open a shop like that. My wife and I owned our own small business. It involved relatively low capital but a lot of work. We had a three-day event one time where we hardly slept. One night, I got half an hour of sleep and was back at it. My wife decided to use her half hour to do other things. I make more money now working a job, so of course that is better.