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WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Tamingstrange » December 3rd, 2017, 11:05 am

I just find myself really unattractive. The reason is because females, especially attractive ones, NEVER show the slightest bit of interest in me.

For example you take this guy name "Chad"😡 and place him in a room of pretty girls. Even though the girls don't outright say "Chad, you are soooo hot! Please take me to bed!" You can totally tell that they have the hots for the guy. They give out signals. They approach him, ask him questions, flirt with him, it's obvious. And you know the second he leaves the room, they will all go nuts over how gorgeous they think he is. If you put me in the same room with the same girls I'd get NOTHING.

I feel as though if I were on a list of potential guys for females to date, and said list was read out loud to a bunch of hot girls in a room, the moment my name came up, they'd say "Tamingstrange??!! Eeewwww! I'd rather die!"

Sometimes I look into the mirror, closely examining all my facial features trying to figure out what's so unattractive and off putting about my looks.
Most of the time I find myself extremely ugly and I suspect that every woman I fnd attractive feels the same way. In fact, I feel like like women secretly talk behind my back about my unpleasant appearance. I often find myself comparing my physical flaws to other people's. Example: "Wow, look how tall that guy is, he must be like 6 feet 3. Lucky guy, he must get all the ladies." Or "Look how perfectly white and straight that hot girls' teeth are. She'd probably find my teeth repulsive and would never go out with me because of it."

It doesn't help, that people rarely ever compliment me on my looks, or cunsole me whenever I tell them about my feelings regarding the subject, leading me to further believe that I am in fact ugly. Whenever a girl calls me "ugly" (this has happened a few times throughout my life), I especially take it to heart. I become overwhelmed with feelings of pain and anger and get the urge to beat the shit out of them for saying it. I ultimately just end up going somewhere where I can be alone and cry my eyes out, thinking that she was right about what she said. It's gotten to the point to where I don't even like taking pictures or being in videos.

Just so you guys know, I do have pretty decent social skills. I've been told I'm really articulate and can be charming and fun to be around when I'm relaxed and in a good mood. But that's rare. I also have no problems with cold approaching women. Whenever I see an attractive women, I try to start conversation with her, whether it's simply asking for thr time, asking for ditections, complementing her on an article of clothing or just starting ideal chit chat, it's not much of a problem for me. It may not get me any dates or numbers, but the fact that I at least spoke to her and got a pleasant response is decent enough. Btw, to those of you who are curious, this is how I look like:
https://vimeo.com/139954147

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by gsjackson » December 3rd, 2017, 2:38 pm

Your looks are fine, man, above average in my opinion, and definitely shouldn't be a handicap with women. What needs to change is the down-in-the-mouth, depressed expression on your face if you want women to come anywhere near you. Plaster a stupid phony smile on, if you have to -- it would be better because they would at least be curious about what was making you so happy.

And as I've said before, if your avatar name reflects your approach to women, they can smell the cynicism and manipulativeness. They do read minds, you know. This can work with a certain subset of women if you actually are slaying p***y right and left -- lots of them want to submit to a genuine ladykiller -- but if you're not, the incongruity will prove fatal.

Remember a couple of axioms: those who have get, with a corollary that those who think they have something regardless of actual circumstances get also. And secondly: if you can convince yourself that you have something, you might actually convince the world also, which will then pony up in accordance. Change the body language - change the mindset - change the circumstances: This is the first principle of psychology, according to the father of the American version of the field, William James. Change your visage to cat-who-swallowed-the-canary, and see what happens with the chicks. And don't let your mind sabotage the project.

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Tamingstrange » December 3rd, 2017, 4:12 pm

Well the whole down in the mouth thing was kind of part of my role. I'm pretty sure I smile much more than that in real life.

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Zambales » December 3rd, 2017, 5:46 pm

Tamingstrange wrote:
December 3rd, 2017, 11:05 am
I've been told I'm really articulate and can be charming and fun to be around when I'm relaxed and in a good mood. But that's rare.
A bad mood and being restless too will give off negative vibes to women. Your looks aren't the problem.

Apart from women what's making you unhappy?

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Contrarian Expatriate » December 3rd, 2017, 5:51 pm

Tamingstrange wrote:
December 3rd, 2017, 11:05 am
.....Females, especially attractive ones, NEVER show the slightest bit of interest in me.
This is flawed thinking, almost female in nature. Men should NEVER expect attractive women to show interest in you. Some desparate, older, or unattractive ones MIGHT do so.

It is a man's job to approach and show interest in women. Standing around waiting for attractive women to come by and bestow indicators of interest on us is what a foolish female will advise a man to do.

There are men who DO get such treatment, celebrities, powerful men, and the top 5% Chad Thundercocks, but most of us must create our opportunities with women.
Tamingstrange wrote: Sometimes I look into the mirror, closely examining all my facial features trying to figure out what's so unattractive and off putting about my looks.
Most of the time I find myself extremely ugly and I suspect that every woman I fnd attractive feels the same way. In fact, I feel like like women secretly talk behind my back about my unpleasant appearance. I often find myself comparing my physical flaws to other people's. Example: "Wow, look how tall that guy is, he must be like 6 feet 3. Lucky guy, he must get all the ladies." Or "Look how perfectly white and straight that hot girls' teeth are. She'd probably find my teeth repulsive and would never go out with me because of it."
These thoughts are an outgrouth of some negative experiences earlier in life. You likely were subjected to toxic or negative people in your life and now these insecurities are in your head. I would recommend therapy to get to the root of what is causing these thoughts, but as soon as you start having successes with women, these thoughts will begin to melt away.
Tamingstrange wrote: It doesn't help, that people rarely ever compliment me on my looks, or cunsole me whenever I tell them about my feelings regarding the subject, leading me to further believe that I am in fact ugly.
We live in a culture where men do not matter and men's suffering is an afterthought. You must learn to heal yourself with meditation, hobbies, travel, or therapy. Most women don't even care to acknowledge that men have feelings, and other men don't want to see it. This is your problem here.
Tamingstrange wrote: Whenever a girl calls me "ugly" (this has happened a few times throughout my life), I especially take it to heart. I become overwhelmed with feelings of pain and anger and get the urge to beat the shit out of them for saying it. I ultimately just end up going somewhere where I can be alone and cry my eyes out, thinking that she was right about what she said. It's gotten to the point to where I don't even like taking pictures or being in videos.
Our fellow member Adama can expound on this, but you need to understand that toxic or sick women (and there are many) seek to injure men for sport. The question is why would you even be in a conversation with a toxic female? There is nothing positive that can come out of it and they will try to injure your soul as yours was injured. Pick and choose non-toxic women who have healthy vibes and at the first sign of shit testing or negative talk towards you, extricate yourself from the interaction and never go back.

Right now, some toxic skank has gotten into your head and you need to get to the point where you recognize that this was her intention. At that point you see it for what it is worth and it does not affect you in that way. Again, therapy can assist you with female bullying of this nature. I have noticed that females in the workplace tend to use this tactic at times.

Tamingstrange wrote: I also have no problems with cold approaching women. Whenever I see an attractive women, I try to start conversation with her, whether it's simply asking for the time, asking for directions, complementing her on an article of clothing or just starting ideal chit chat, it's not much of a problem for me. It may not get me any dates or numbers, but the fact that I at least spoke to her and got a pleasant response is decent enough. Btw, to those of
You have 90% of the battle won then? Just stop taking women's opinions to heart and stop caring about rejection.

I you want to score hot women, it is a numbers game pure and simple. I chat up 10 hot women and I might get 5 positive interactions, 3 might give me her number, and I might end up screwing 1. It is a numbers game pure and simple. Every rejection is a gift from god that brings me closer to my scores.

Stop caring about women's opinions, their comments, and their whims. They change like the weather. Incorporate them as a numbers game and you will start scoring and feeling better about yourself.

I learned how to chat up hot women by hanging out in strip clubs for practice. I got over my hot girl anxiety that way and other men are astounded that I have the balls I have with them. I do not advocate the strip club lifestyle, there are drugs, psychos, and abuse all about. But it can be a means to improving yourself and your hot girl reticence. Don't waste your money there, don't tip on the stage, just have a beer there and use it as a bar. Hot women will approach you (for business reasons), and you will expand your skills at rejecting women, piquing their interest, and taking your real world game to a new level.

Good luck and we have all been where you are. This too shall pass!

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Master » December 3rd, 2017, 6:02 pm

I'm the hottest guy in the world! What makes the p***y wet go for my dick it isnt what you might think. Vampires are attracted to blood. Though I am the hottest guy in the world bar none. I attracted vamps not by my great looks but by bring the gallons of bloods wherever I go. That means women are attracted to signals, not me. Signals being wherever my wallet goes. My car, my haircut, my shirt, whatever phoony friends I have bought up, my mansion, key words I copied and pasted off the latest pharrel video, dance moves i mimiced off bieber, going to the hottest spots, buying whores off so I can attract other likeminded whores, making my name sound cool. Though I am still the hottest guy in the world, if I just relied on my looks and was just an average nerd with science fiction interest. i'd probably get 1,2, up to 10 girls if im lucky. but as in mean girls, i can turn any ugly toad into the count of monte, just by waving my wand. These girls dont give a f**k about you or your problems. you might see their p***y wet for carboncopy of bieber but that doesnt mean they actually care if he gets run over by the ice truck as soon as he steps out the building. they'll find another timberlake, another 50 cent, someone desperate enough to listen to their problems, give them his entire fortune, pay for her babies. Follow me into the rabbit hole and I'll show you the key to success. Lose the attitude, stop caring what people think about you and start looking to seduce women and psychologically trapping them their every weakness, conquering them all.
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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by xtravel » December 3rd, 2017, 7:19 pm

You've obviously got talent in motion picture directing and acting.

Shouldn't you be finding women with similar interests?

Do you do any amateur theater? Are you hitting the independent film festivals.

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by gsjackson » December 3rd, 2017, 8:36 pm

Tamingstrange wrote:
December 3rd, 2017, 4:12 pm
Well the whole down in the mouth thing was kind of part of my role. I'm pretty sure I smile much more than that in real life.
Oh, OK. I watched it on the phone without sound, so I didn't pick up the plot. But the point stands -- what goes on in your head gets reflected on your face, and women respond accordingly. They accept you at your own (genuine) self estimation, and if you're down on yourself they will be too. It's just a matter of getting the right perspective. CE has some good suggestions on that.

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Tamingstrange » December 3rd, 2017, 10:22 pm

I do independent film. I mostly write and act in the projects and occasionally assist in the crew. We have tried entering our stuff into festivals, no luck so far.

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Adama » December 3rd, 2017, 11:13 pm

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Adama » December 3rd, 2017, 11:27 pm

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Adama » December 4th, 2017, 12:01 am

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Adama » December 4th, 2017, 2:17 am

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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Master » December 4th, 2017, 2:52 am

xtravel wrote:
December 3rd, 2017, 7:19 pm
You've obviously got talent in motion picture directing and acting.

Shouldn't you be finding women with similar interests?

Do you do any amateur theater? Are you hitting the independent film festivals.
OBVIOUSLY! Ive got millions of awards in my basement collecting dust somewhere. But dont forget porn also.

The only similar interest is, that I want p***y and they want dick. But even that doesnt have to be too close cause I turn dikes on a regular basis too, for fun.

Ive already done pro but threw that career away as it was just too boring brainwashing you peanuts into perceived mimic arts. Now I just attack reality.
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Re: WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??

Post by Nailer » December 5th, 2017, 3:40 am

Been there, done that. I get nothing in America, and I am an absolute rock star in Europe. Go figure.
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