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I just find myself really unattractive. The reason is because females, especially attractive ones, NEVER show the slightest bit of interest in me.
For example you take this guy name "Chad" and place him in a room of pretty girls. Even though the girls don't outright say "Chad, you are soooo hot! Please take me to bed!" You can totally tell that they have the hots for the guy. They give out signals. They approach him, ask him questions, flirt with him, it's obvious. And you know the second he leaves the room, they will all go nuts over how gorgeous they think he is. If you put me in the same room with the same girls I'd get NOTHING.
I feel as though if I were on a list of potential guys for females to date, and said list was read out loud to a bunch of hot girls in a room, the moment my name came up, they'd say "Tamingstrange??!! Eeewwww! I'd rather die!"
Sometimes I look into the mirror, closely examining all my facial features trying to figure out what's so unattractive and off putting about my looks.
Most of the time I find myself extremely ugly and I suspect that every woman I fnd attractive feels the same way. In fact, I feel like like women secretly talk behind my back about my unpleasant appearance. I often find myself comparing my physical flaws to other people's. Example: "Wow, look how tall that guy is, he must be like 6 feet 3. Lucky guy, he must get all the ladies." Or "Look how perfectly white and straight that hot girls' teeth are. She'd probably find my teeth repulsive and would never go out with me because of it."
It doesn't help, that people rarely ever compliment me on my looks, or cunsole me whenever I tell them about my feelings regarding the subject, leading me to further believe that I am in fact ugly. Whenever a girl calls me "ugly" (this has happened a few times throughout my life), I especially take it to heart. I become overwhelmed with feelings of pain and anger and get the urge to beat the shit out of them for saying it. I ultimately just end up going somewhere where I can be alone and cry my eyes out, thinking that she was right about what she said. It's gotten to the point to where I don't even like taking pictures or being in videos.
Just so you guys know, I do have pretty decent social skills. I've been told I'm really articulate and can be charming and fun to be around when I'm relaxed and in a good mood. But that's rare. I also have no problems with cold approaching women. Whenever I see an attractive women, I try to start conversation with her, whether it's simply asking for thr time, asking for ditections, complementing her on an article of clothing or just starting ideal chit chat, it's not much of a problem for me. It may not get me any dates or numbers, but the fact that I at least spoke to her and got a pleasant response is decent enough. Btw, to those of you who are curious, this is how I look like:
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Your looks are fine, man, above average in my opinion, and definitely shouldn't be a handicap with women. What needs to change is the down-in-the-mouth, depressed expression on your face if you want women to come anywhere near you. Plaster a stupid phony smile on, if you have to -- it would be better because they would at least be curious about what was making you so happy.
And as I've said before, if your avatar name reflects your approach to women, they can smell the cynicism and manipulativeness. They do read minds, you know. This can work with a certain subset of women if you actually are slaying p***y right and left -- lots of them want to submit to a genuine ladykiller -- but if you're not, the incongruity will prove fatal.
Remember a couple of axioms: those who have get, with a corollary that those who think they have something regardless of actual circumstances get also. And secondly: if you can convince yourself that you have something, you might actually convince the world also, which will then pony up in accordance. Change the body language - change the mindset - change the circumstances: This is the first principle of psychology, according to the father of the American version of the field, William James. Change your visage to cat-who-swallowed-the-canary, and see what happens with the chicks. And don't let your mind sabotage the project.
A bad mood and being restless too will give off negative vibes to women. Your looks aren't the problem.
Apart from women what's making you unhappy?
Why do western men die before their western wives? Because they want to!
This is flawed thinking, almost female in nature. Men should NEVER expect attractive women to show interest in you. Some desparate, older, or unattractive ones MIGHT do so.
It is a man's job to approach and show interest in women. Standing around waiting for attractive women to come by and bestow indicators of interest on us is what a foolish female will advise a man to do.
There are men who DO get such treatment, celebrities, powerful men, and the top 5% Chad Thundercocks, but most of us must create our opportunities with women.
These thoughts are an outgrouth of some negative experiences earlier in life. You likely were subjected to toxic or negative people in your life and now these insecurities are in your head. I would recommend therapy to get to the root of what is causing these thoughts, but as soon as you start having successes with women, these thoughts will begin to melt away.
We live in a culture where men do not matter and men's suffering is an afterthought. You must learn to heal yourself with meditation, hobbies, travel, or therapy. Most women don't even care to acknowledge that men have feelings, and other men don't want to see it. This is your problem here.
Our fellow member Adama can expound on this, but you need to understand that toxic or sick women (and there are many) seek to injure men for sport. The question is why would you even be in a conversation with a toxic female? There is nothing positive that can come out of it and they will try to injure your soul as yours was injured. Pick and choose non-toxic women who have healthy vibes and at the first sign of shit testing or negative talk towards you, extricate yourself from the interaction and never go back.
Right now, some toxic skank has gotten into your head and you need to get to the point where you recognize that this was her intention. At that point you see it for what it is worth and it does not affect you in that way. Again, therapy can assist you with female bullying of this nature. I have noticed that females in the workplace tend to use this tactic at times.
You have 90% of the battle won then? Just stop taking women's opinions to heart and stop caring about rejection.
I you want to score hot women, it is a numbers game pure and simple. I chat up 10 hot women and I might get 5 positive interactions, 3 might give me her number, and I might end up screwing 1. It is a numbers game pure and simple. Every rejection is a gift from god that brings me closer to my scores.
Stop caring about women's opinions, their comments, and their whims. They change like the weather. Incorporate them as a numbers game and you will start scoring and feeling better about yourself.
I learned how to chat up hot women by hanging out in strip clubs for practice. I got over my hot girl anxiety that way and other men are astounded that I have the balls I have with them. I do not advocate the strip club lifestyle, there are drugs, psychos, and abuse all about. But it can be a means to improving yourself and your hot girl reticence. Don't waste your money there, don't tip on the stage, just have a beer there and use it as a bar. Hot women will approach you (for business reasons), and you will expand your skills at rejecting women, piquing their interest, and taking your real world game to a new level.
Good luck and we have all been where you are. This too shall pass!
I'm the hottest guy in the world! What makes the p***y wet go for my dick it isnt what you might think. Vampires are attracted to blood. Though I am the hottest guy in the world bar none. I attracted vamps not by my great looks but by bring the gallons of bloods wherever I go. That means women are attracted to signals, not me. Signals being wherever my wallet goes. My car, my haircut, my shirt, whatever phoony friends I have bought up, my mansion, key words I copied and pasted off the latest pharrel video, dance moves i mimiced off bieber, going to the hottest spots, buying whores off so I can attract other likeminded whores, making my name sound cool. Though I am still the hottest guy in the world, if I just relied on my looks and was just an average nerd with science fiction interest. i'd probably get 1,2, up to 10 girls if im lucky. but as in mean girls, i can turn any ugly toad into the count of monte, just by waving my wand. These girls dont give a f**k about you or your problems. you might see their p***y wet for carboncopy of bieber but that doesnt mean they actually care if he gets run over by the ice truck as soon as he steps out the building. they'll find another timberlake, another 50 cent, someone desperate enough to listen to their problems, give them his entire fortune, pay for her babies. Follow me into the rabbit hole and I'll show you the key to success. Lose the attitude, stop caring what people think about you and start looking to seduce women and psychologically trapping them their every weakness, conquering them all.
Introduce a little anarchy, upset the established order, and everything becomes chaos.
Become An Agent of Choas.
Oh, OK. I watched it on the phone without sound, so I didn't pick up the plot. But the point stands -- what goes on in your head gets reflected on your face, and women respond accordingly. They accept you at your own (genuine) self estimation, and if you're down on yourself they will be too. It's just a matter of getting the right perspective. CE has some good suggestions on that.
My friend, if you were ugly people wouldn't need to go around saying it. It would be evident to them and they wouldn't need to say it. Just like a person doesn't need to be told that a person is fat. You can see for yourself they are fat.
This life is a psychological war game for your mind. Those who hate you want to cast down your confidence in yourself. If they destroy your confidence in your self, your will to live will die, or you may face a self-defeatest mindset because of these instilled feelings of worthlessness.
Anyone trying to shoot fiery arrows of death at your soul is a murderer. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever to go around verbally destroying the soul of another person with evil speech, unless of course the one speaking those words simply delights in murder of the soul. It's psychological warfare.
Also there probably are many women who are interested in you. It's just that if your self esteem is in the dumps, everything people do will be seen as negative (because many experiences are negative, you'll assign negativity to benign behaviors or even completely misinterpret positive signals because of the ruthlessness of their emotional abuse has simply damaged your ability to see clearly).
Remember, when someone is speaking hate speech against you, and you haven't actually murdered their family, chances are these are just defective people who uplift themselves by the vanity and emptiness of lies, and they trust in oppression and cruelty to feel like they are better than others. The problem is with them. Because if someone is throwing garbage at you, that person must be pulling from a garbage supply inside of them. Just because they're hurling trash at you, it doesn't make you worthless. They are the ones throwing the trash. The problem is almost always with them! It's an information campaign to get you to hate yourself and your life and to give up.
For most of my adult life, I have had all kinds of people making fun of my face and scrutinizing me. But then I realized, what kind of person goes around scrutinizing for errors with another person's face, and then broadcasts it and starts laughing at that person (when that person is a stranger who has been peaceful towards them)? Unless of course that verbal harasser has lost virtually all integrity and empathy. They are looking to boost themselves through murder, because their own psychological problems demand vainglory. And they have to speak evil because they trust in lies. You're not truly wounded and they don't believe their own contemptible lies, unless they speak it aloud. This does two things: if you believe it, it murders your soul (your impression of yourself may diminish with the multitude of these criminals who trust in lies), and it uplifts them because they trust in the lies which they speak to feed their egos (their egos must remain spotless, perfect, and blameless, so all the blame shifts onto you), and they need to hear them to reinforce them. They are brainwashing themselves to believe they are better than you, and they are brainwashing you to believe that you are worthless.
But it is much more likely that the person hurling the garbage is the source of garbage, rather than the victim.
Don't expect to have most women love you. Most people have taken the crooked path. Every single woman must be personally evaluated for how much she respects you, how kind she is, whether she is a liar or filled with double talk, whether she thinks she is your boss, etc. It's not enough just for them to be willing.
And despite what anyone says, it is a man's world (if you recognize the true nature of life). And a woman who is naturally inclined to goodness will submit to you, if you have confidence in your ability to lead.
First you need to stop the obsession with the mirror. Second you also need to realize that most people don't like what they see in the mirror. That's actually pretty normal.
When we have a lack of confidence, when it's been beaten down, we are often the hardest on ourselves. You really do need to be very forgiving with yourself concerning your looks. This is an internal mind problem because of extremely low self esteem.
Very few people like what they see in the mirror. That doesn't make them ugly either. It just means that they don't like themselves when they look in the mirror. And that doesn't even have any reflection upon what other people see or think about our faces.
The thing is, once they've convinced you in your own mind that you're unattractive, you'll feel like you're unattractive. And because almost everyone hates the image in the mirror any way, their very own minds will go along with this deception.
One thing they fail to realize is that everyone has flaws. Positively everyone. Even the hottest models have moles on their faces or other such things. Lots of people have flaws.
Those flaws don't make a person unattractive.
Don't hate yourself.
And even many men who others might consider to be unattractive, those men are still able to get women. So it is not a looks based thing as people would have you believe.
You don't want to ever do that. Anyone who compares themselves to another person is almost always going to come up feeling deficient regardless what the truth is.
Don't compare if you already feel down. That's only going to reinforce the wrong and the most negative delusions about yourself.
But if you do compare your flaws, remember that everyone has them, and yours are no greater than anyone else's.
Anyone trying to make you feel like garbage because of the way you look is a criminal and a social murderer. Ignore them. They are in trouble, and the problem is with them. Good people don't trust in verbal assassination for their personal glory.
I have noticed that some of these women will flake at the last moment. The man will automatically start blaming himself, because this is a gynocracy where we are trained to believe that women are in control of relationships, and we cater to them and put them on pedestals.
And when they flake on you, because they trust in the vanity of lies, and because their egos need to always be uplifted, they will never admit to this weakness that they are scared and flaked out because they are cowards and insecure. That would deflate their perfection and destroy their image to themselves, that they are spotless (essentially they think they are goddesses through self deception).
Instead what does an evil woman do? She will blame the man. She shifts her insecurity onto him, and then she speaks words aloud so that she can believe them, that relieve her from the accountability of cowardice and insecurity, and which makes it seem like the man is worthy of death.
(In a way shifting blame onto the man is really them cleansing themselves from accountability and making themselves spotless and perfect in their own minds. These people must change reality to adhere to the mental image of their greatness. So they speak lies to bring about this false reality. It is witchcraft. )
They are simply cowards who think they are mighty on the one hand, but when the bill comes due cowardice comes out. They can't admit the problem is with them, because they want to believe they are strong. They are perfect. Therefore they shift the blame onto the man. They need to speak evil words to alleviate themselves of that inferiority complex of being a coward. Instead they transform themselves into the mighty, through lies, by shifting the blame away from themselves onto the man.
This is the god complex of narcissism that evil women suffer from. And these are the nice ones (the most gentle of these evil creatures).
There are also the ones who know from the start that their whole goal is just to play with you for sport. They never really had any intention of getting with you. Their whole goal from the start was to extract life and glory, by getting that worship of luring the man in, and then to uplift themselves by the oppression of rejection. And of course why are they rejecting the man? It is not because he is unworthy. It is because they just wanted to flirt and then to destroy. Just so they could win some ego points.
They figure turning you down makes them superior to you. That's how evil many of them are. If they are the ones to issue the rejection, they are superior to you. And anyone setting out to reject a man from the start, and who sets out to issue the blame onto him for that rejection in an attempt to destroy his self esteem, is going to have to answer to God. Because this is murder. This is why God has said don't bear false witness. But they are bearing false witness against the souls of their targets by blaming them for the rejection they always set out on. They are murderers.
OP. I will tell you something else. People made fun of my nose and my lips and I thought I was one of the most ugliest men on earth. It was relentless.
I went to a plastic surgeon.
He took photos of my nose and my lips. Then he showed me photos of other men who had nosejobs and lip surgery. Basically he was telling me that I was in no need of surgery. Then he inferred to me that my self esteem had been beaten to the ground.
This is what happens when someone makes fun of you. That doesn't make it true. But it actually warps your reality and makes you feel like a piece of dung. When the problem is, they are murderers of the soul whose job it is to destroy the glory of your life, to cast you down to death.
Life is a spiritual battle for your life and your soul. The adversaries are against the prosperity of your life.
Reading: Psalms 12 and 109, and Isaiah 59. You will understand how people speak vanity and use their tongues as weapons to exalt themselves and to destroy, and what God is going to do to them for doing this.
OBVIOUSLY! Ive got millions of awards in my basement collecting dust somewhere. But dont forget porn also.
The only similar interest is, that I want p***y and they want dick. But even that doesnt have to be too close cause I turn dikes on a regular basis too, for fun.
Ive already done pro but threw that career away as it was just too boring brainwashing you peanuts into perceived mimic arts. Now I just attack reality.
Introduce a little anarchy, upset the established order, and everything becomes chaos.
Become An Agent of Choas.