Zambales wrote: ↑December 10th, 2017, 5:48 am
With males, it's born out of jealousy. They're most likely stuck in a dead-end morbid relationship with a trashy western woman they can't get rid of.
There are so many kinds of relationships out there. If our posters insult American women to say they want to date abroad, they are insulting American males' country. Some people will defend the idea that America is the greatest in everything. I'd say when Gen X was young, it seemed like just about any American would defend that idea. Nowadays, not as much. Even so, some people take the superiority of the US as a given.
Also, a lot of men have bought in to feminism, egalitarianism, etc. They see the way things are in the US as the standard. They've been brainwashed by the media and society to think it is wrong to look for traditional women in other countries who aren't feminists, who aren't trying to be in charge, or whatever else it is.
I suspect some of themen who might oppose international dating may not be in relationships themselves at the moment. They may be in the early stages of new love, too, when everything seems great. Some of them may be married to or dating kind, beautiful women. They were able to find suitable partners. Why can't everyone else. 'Sour grapes' isn't the only scenario.
With females, it's born out of entitlement, and like Contrarian stated, it's also hurtful to their ego's.
That sounds pretty realistic. On another thread, Piers Morgan obnoxiously interviewed a man who was promoting finding a woman in eastern Europe rather than in Britian. Two women were there also. They quoted him as saying that British women were overweight and unattractive. He said that not all of them were. The women, of course, opposed this, because they were British women and did not want to be considered unattractive. One of them was pretty. The other had an okay face, but was several pounds overweight and did not like his comments on the weight of British women.
There is also a degree of racism or ethnocentrism that may be at work. I've seen some episodes of 90 day fiance, where some people think any Latin American or Filippino woman must be after white American men for a greencard. It's a stereotype of what foreigners are like. It's part of the same thing I mentioned before, nationalism for America. America is supposed to be the greatest, and people from other countries aren't considered to be as good.
I tend to hear the "It's because you want a submissive woman who doesn't answer back" retort quite a bit.
This is a racial or cultural stereotype. If an American woman says this about someone of another race, you could one-up her by accusing her of racism. Ethnocentrism doesn't have quite the sting.
Or you could agree with her. "Yes, I want a submissive woman. You American women are too pushy and opinionated." But that's stereotyping, and probably the sort of thing they are responding to.
If you actually have a woman overseas interested in you, will most American women comment on it negatively like this? If you say, "My girlfriend lives in the Philippines. I am going there to visit her." do American women really care about that? Unless the woman you are talking to is infatuated with you and jealous of the girlfriend, will she say anything like that.
But if you say, "I am going to the Philippines to find a girl because American women are either fat or mentally ill," then they'd get defensive. Sure, there will be the nosey, obnoxious woman, occasionally, who wants to air her opinion that she thinks it's unwise to date someone from a certain country or that it's wrong for an older man to date a young woman at the peak of her beauty and fertility. And yes, the 35-year-old never married or divorced feminist may feel threatened by the American man choosing the 20-year-old submissive, sweet, non-feminist foreign girl.
If it's a grandmother, aunt, or mother saying these things, of course they share there opinions. But if mom says, "Why can't you find a nice girl in the US?" just say, "Okay, mom, can you set me up with a sweet, mentally stable virgin who is under 135 pounds with no tattoos or substance abuse problems that I'm attracted to?" That may just shut her up. If not, add some more adjectives.
Not exactly correct in my case. I want a loyal, feminine and appreciative woman with self-respect. Anyway, I laugh off their bitter jibes. It's the best way to deal with the situation.
Who gives you a hard time about it? Are these relatives, people at work, or what? Do you complain about American women in these conversations?