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Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by S_Parc » June 8th, 2018, 12:04 am

I'm ok'ed to give out this message now ...

As soon as the ink was drying, Mel had decided to attend a lesbian conference.

Basically, it's a place where a bunch of b.itches get together and bemoan the fact that 'men are evil' and that 'they are victims', etc, etc.

Mel told the other b.itches this ... 'All you need is a good man in your life because on your own, you don't have what it takes, to be happy in life.'

Well, since then, she's been fully ostracized by the sub-community.

I guess she's as much of a rebel as I am. We're now two plus years after tying the knot and things are still cooking :)

My advice, if you don't meet your soulmate then don't marry. Sure, I'm being a bit of hypocrite, seeing that I'm the only guy on the forum with an American woman and I'm certain that my brain is flooded with Oxytocin, no not Morphine's cousin, Oxycontin.

But that's what love does to you when it actually works out. You do tend to feel intoxicated.
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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by GuyAbroad8293 » June 8th, 2018, 1:49 am

Thankfully there is still the First Amendment in America. If she did that in Europe, she might very well have been arrested and thrown in jail.

Some white supremacist guy in the UK got thrown in jail for 13 months cause he protested against "Muslim rape gangs", meanwhile some Muslim dude raped a 12 year old and got off with 12 months of community service.

Then again, pretty much all women lie about rape, so we shouldn't throw the Muslim guys under the bus in order to white-knight for these white whores. Basically, white women f**k Muslim immigrants and then if she gets caught by her parents, she cries rape.
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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by S_Parc » June 8th, 2018, 2:54 am

GuyAbroad8293 wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 1:49 am
Thankfully there is still the First Amendment in America. If she did that in Europe, she might very well have been arrested and thrown in jail.
This is very true.
GuyAbroad8293 wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 1:49 am
if she gets caught by her parents, she cries rape.
Why do you think that Mel hates women so much. She wants nothing to do with them.

Believe me, she's a lesbian. She has zero physical attraction to men, which is awesome for me because I have basically zero competition, even if he's the best looking guy on earth.

Not to sound like a cliche but once in a blue moon, love does conquer all.

We're together today because we can't imagine being with anyone else. But from her p.o.v, it's actually a lot more simple than that idealization ...
Mel wrote: If all that a man needs to be happy is to have someone who listens to him and has sex with him ... then why did so many women screw this up?
Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.

Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

AB discussion thread

BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by publicduende » June 8th, 2018, 9:00 am

S_Parc, mate,

one of the things I have never understood is that, for how good is your relationship is with Mel, does the fact that she has zero attraction for men imply that she is not attracted to you, either? Not sexually, I mean.

I would love to have a male friend to have a great menage, a great rapport with. Zero drama, lots of quality time together and the certainty we will be there for each other when needed.

Yet, being married to someone who has and will never see me as an agent/object of sexual attraction, it would be a massive turn-off for me. For the life of me, I would never be able to call a relationship with her, let alone tie the knot with her.

For how many posts (and PM) we shared, I am still having a hard time getting my head around the nature of your relationship with your wife. It sounds like you are having the most wonderful bromance and going with high-quality prostitutes in Canada the few times you want your balls emptied.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by Light » June 8th, 2018, 10:21 am

publicduende wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 9:00 am
I would love to have a male friend to have a great menage, a great rapport with. Zero drama, lots of quality time together and the certainty we will be there for each other when needed.
What do you mean by great menage? The only time I've heard that used is when people talk about threesomes?

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by S_Parc » June 8th, 2018, 2:38 pm

publicduende wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 9:00 am
Yet, being married to someone who has and will never see me as an agent/object of sexual attraction, it would be a massive turn-off for me. For the life of me, I would never be able to call a relationship with her, let alone tie the knot with her.
Here's the best way to describe it. I look like the following adorable animal ...

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And thus, when we do make love, and BTW, it's rather frequent :D it's like snuggling with the above. And so while other men look like wolverines, I look like S_Parc the Bunny.
publicduende wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 9:00 am
For how many posts (and PM) we shared, I am still having a hard time getting my head around the nature of your relationship with your wife. It sounds like you are having the most wonderful bromance and going with high-quality prostitutes in Canada the few times you want your balls emptied.
We don't need the pros in CN anymore. That was the Busty JLo epoch.

Today, we're pretty much a regular couple and the Realdoll is my way of keeping Mel in balance as she does once in a while, need a woman's body around.
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Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

AB discussion thread

BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by S_Parc » June 8th, 2018, 2:42 pm

FYI, for reference, here's a wolverine ...

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In other words, you can respect them but certainly not adore them.
Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.

Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

AB discussion thread

BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by GuyAbroad8293 » June 8th, 2018, 8:03 pm

S_Parc wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 2:54 am
GuyAbroad8293 wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 1:49 am
Thankfully there is still the First Amendment in America. If she did that in Europe, she might very well have been arrested and thrown in jail.
This is very true.
GuyAbroad8293 wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 1:49 am
if she gets caught by her parents, she cries rape.
Why do you think that Mel hates women so much. She wants nothing to do with them.

Believe me, she's a lesbian. She has zero physical attraction to men, which is awesome for me because I have basically zero competition, even if he's the best looking guy on earth.

Not to sound like a cliche but once in a blue moon, love does conquer all.

We're together today because we can't imagine being with anyone else. But from her p.o.v, it's actually a lot more simple than that idealization ...
Mel wrote: If all that a man needs to be happy is to have someone who listens to him and has sex with him ... then why did so many women screw this up?
wait, what? You're a male and married to a lesbian? WTF??????????? LMAO!!!
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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by publicduende » June 9th, 2018, 5:56 am

Light wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 10:21 am
publicduende wrote:
June 8th, 2018, 9:00 am
I would love to have a male friend to have a great menage, a great rapport with. Zero drama, lots of quality time together and the certainty we will be there for each other when needed.
What do you mean by great menage? The only time I've heard that used is when people talk about threesomes?
"Menage" in French simply means "way to manage a household" and, by extension, the "daily life of a couple who shares the same roof". The expression "menage a trois", which is what you might have heard, is the French tongue-in-cheek way to indicate a relationship where the man has a wife and a lover and wife knows about the lover, so effectively the daily life of the couple is, in fact, that of a triangle :)

Didn't mean to insinuate anything about your sexual conduct with Mel.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by retiredfrank » June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am

Sex act itself with women is overrated, and this comes from a guy who has regular sexual access to an HB10 Ukrainian escort in her early 20's, and thus 35 years younger than me, so don't accuse me of "sour grapes". Masturbation ALWAYS produces more intense orgasms for those men who don't have hangups about masturbation. The reason is that pleasure is inherently female, so the man has to "activate his female pole" to get maximum pleasure and this can only be done masturbating (or acting as a female, such as a passive homosexual or being pegged by the woman). During normal sex with a woman, man must suppress feelings of pleasure in order maximize feelings of power. Power is masculine, pleasure is feminine. Study tantra or sexual kung fu to understand more.

Anyway, the main thing a woman brings a man is her female energy, to balance his masculine energy, and it isn't necessary to have sex to get that. Actually, it's healthier for long term bonding if the man and woman simply cuddle and avoid orgasms with one another, since orgasms are somewhat poisonous, especially to women, and eventually cause a woman to hate the man causing the orgasms. They are also poisonous to men, but in a different way, plus men have such a high sex drive that men quickly forget their disgust at the woman for causing an orgasm.

Bottom line, if SParc and Mel are mostly cuddling and using that sex doll for orgasms, they are more sensible than 99% of couples.

I am also sensible since I don't allow that escort to give me peak orgasms, though I do give her orgasms. She will eventually hate me for that, but doesn't matter since she's an escort and so easily replaceable.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by Cornfed » June 9th, 2018, 10:32 am

retiredfrank wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am
Masturbation ALWAYS produces more intense orgasms for those men who don't have hangups about masturbation.
Um, really? Could you link me to something instructing me as to how to overcome my apparent hangups? As to the female energy, does whether you find the female attractive matter? If I masturbated in the correct way and then cuddled some middle-aged chick, would I be basically good for sex? If what you are saying is true, you would think we would have gone extinct long ago as we would have been just jacking off and cuddling old broads instead of bothering to compete for young p***y, but at this point I want to keep an open mind.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by retiredfrank » June 9th, 2018, 11:47 am

Cornfed wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 10:32 am
retiredfrank wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am
Masturbation ALWAYS produces more intense orgasms for those men who don't have hangups about masturbation.
Um, really? Could you link me to something instructing me as to how to overcome my apparent hangups? As to the female energy, does whether you find the female attractive matter? If I masturbated in the correct way and then cuddled some middle-aged chick, would I be basically good for sex? If what you are saying is true, you would think we would have gone extinct long ago as we would have been just jacking off and cuddling old broads instead of bothering to compete for young p***y, but at this point I want to keep an open mind.
Sorry Cornfed but I don't answer questions from people who I despise.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by S_Parc » June 9th, 2018, 3:33 pm

retiredfrank wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am
the main thing a woman brings a man is her female energy, to balance his masculine energy, and it isn't necessary to have sex to get that.
I believe that this is the 'Yin' essence of Chinese internal energy/qigong.
retiredfrank wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am
Actually, it's healthier for long term bonding if the man and woman simply cuddle and avoid orgasms with one another, since orgasms are somewhat poisonous, especially to women, and eventually cause a woman to hate the man causing the orgasms. They are also poisonous to men, but in a different way, plus men have such a high sex drive that men quickly forget their disgust at the woman for causing an orgasm.
Ok, you've got to explain the 'poison theory' because I haven't heard it described that way.
retiredfrank wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am
Bottom line, if SParc and Mel are mostly cuddling and using that sex doll for orgasms, they are more sensible than 99% of couples.
I believe the fact that we don't fight and are best of friends, already puts us in the 90+% category.

And we do both, have sex and use the doll. If fact, Mel's gone way above and beyond her call in duty in satisfying me there, as it took a long time for her to adapt with being with a guy sexually. I was already happy with her, before that had occurred.
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Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

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Re: Mel crossed the Rubicon, after marriage

Post by retiredfrank » June 9th, 2018, 7:02 pm

S_Parc wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 3:33 pm

retiredfrank wrote:
June 9th, 2018, 7:59 am
Actually, it's healthier for long term bonding if the man and woman simply cuddle and avoid orgasms with one another, since orgasms are somewhat poisonous, especially to women, and eventually cause a woman to hate the man causing the orgasms. They are also poisonous to men, but in a different way, plus men have such a high sex drive that men quickly forget their disgust at the woman for causing an orgasm.
Ok, you've got to explain the 'poison theory' because I haven't heard it described that way.
First thing is to understand that Nature doesn't care whether we are happy or not. Nature only cares that we survive and reproduce. This explains a lot of things in life.

With regards to peak orgasms as poisonous, the logic is as follows. Sometimes people are sterile but it isn't obvious whether it's the man or woman. Regardless, optimal strategy is for a couple to break up after having sex for 6 months or so UNLESS the woman gets pregnant. How to code this logic at the biological level? Answer: each time a woman has an orgasm, she feels slightly depressed afterwards. Unlike with the man's post-coital depression, which I'll discuss further on, the woman's depression takes a few days to develop, so that it takes the woman's subconscious mind about 6 months to a year to make a connection between her depressions and the man she is having sex with. When that connection is made, she loses interest in the man and breaks up with him. UNLESS she gets pregnant in the meantime, in which case a new set of hormones is released which eliminates the post-coital depressions and instead causes her to bond very closely to the man giving her orgasms. This system protects the woman from a situation where the man is sterile but not the woman. (When I say protects, I mean it's furthers Nature's goal of survive and reproduce, not necessarily what makes the woman happy. Constantly getting pregnant is what Nature wants for women, not necessarily what they want.)

Because the woman is coded to break up after 6 months to a year of sex without pregnany, that automatically protects the man in case its the woman who is sterile rather than the man. So no need for post-coital depressions in the man for that purpose. Post-coital depressions in the man are to handle situations where a man is suddenly given sexual access to a large number of young fertile women. Each time he orgasms, he immediately becomes disgusted and associates that disgust with the woman he just had sex with. But because the male sex drive is so high, he doesn't become disgusted with sex in general. If another woman is available, he has no problem with her. This is extremely valuable coding (again, from Nature's perspective that survive and reproduce is everything) in situations like the aftermath of wartime victory, when the winners have temporary access to all the enemy's women. Also, because the male sex drive is so high, male post-coital disgust doesn't cause problems even in a normal monogamous relationship. The man gets disgusted with the woman immediately afterwards but the next day is back to normal.

Its the slower to develop female post-coital disgust which is truly deadly to long term relationships. Slow to develop but also slow to disappear since the female sex drive is not so high. So once the woman develops disgust for the man, the relationship is over for while, though not necessarily forever. This would explain relationships where the man and woman break up them get back together at regular intervals, like year together, a year apart, etc. it also explains marriages where as long as the man is away maybe half the year, everyone is very happy, and then when something changes so the man is no longer away half the year, and then the marriage becomes unhappy after about a year.

I forget the book I got this theory from. I think there is a karezza website which discusses this.

The solution to both male and female post-coital depression is to replace peak orgasm with valley orgasm, by practicing sexual kung fu. Mantak Chia discusses sexual kung fu is his books.

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