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jamesbond
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Re: In America we don't talk to strangers!

Post by jamesbond » June 9th, 2019, 11:32 pm

Ghost wrote:
June 9th, 2019, 7:01 pm
Here's the distinction as I now see it:

You're going to need "social proof" in every country as part of a fulfilled life. The better connected you are, the better your life will be.

In the U.S., it's virtually impossible to build this "social proof" after a point. If you don't have it by your early 20s, you'll probably never have it. And you likely won't get another chance.

Many foreign countries have something of a "revolving door" of "social proof." That is, you can come and go from it, and it's fine. You get multiple chances throughout your life to build your social life. You don't get scorned for not starting out with "social proof."

This is of course a symptom of the modern world. The U.S. and other presently shitty countries weren't always like that, and the foreign countries that are more amenable to building a social life presently are not immune to the same forces that ruined our home countries socially.

That's a good point, in America, having 'social proof' is vital to meeting women and making friends. Even PUA guys say that 'social proof' is something women subconsciously look for in a man.

The good news is, in most foreign countries, 'social proof' is not vital to making friends and meeting women. This is why guys who have lived in foreign countries say that meeting women and making friends is MUCH easier in countries like the Philippines, Thailand, Russia, Ukraine, Brazil and Columbia than it ever was in the United States.
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Re: In America we don't talk to strangers!

Post by HenryGeorge » June 10th, 2019, 8:59 am

Ghost wrote:
June 9th, 2019, 7:01 pm
Here's the distinction as I now see it:

You're going to need "social proof" in every country as part of a fulfilled life. The better connected you are, the better your life will be.

In the U.S., it's virtually impossible to build this "social proof" after a point. If you don't have it by your early 20s, you'll probably never have it. And you likely won't get another chance.

Many foreign countries have something of a "revolving door" of "social proof." That is, you can come and go from it, and it's fine. You get multiple chances throughout your life to build your social life. You don't get scorned for not starting out with "social proof."

This is of course a symptom of the modern world. The U.S. and other presently shitty countries weren't always like that, and the foreign countries that are more amenable to building a social life presently are not immune to the same forces that ruined our home countries socially.
Spot on man.

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Post by traveller » June 14th, 2019, 12:48 am

jamesbond wrote:
March 17th, 2009, 12:43 pm
Trying to meet people at bars and clubs is another other way people in the US meet other people. However, the atmosphere is not condusive to meeting someone (the music is loud, it's crowded, the people tend to act in a fake way).
You know, it does actually appear that nightclubs are not conductive to conversation. Especially when all you hear is the loud music roaring like a 747 taking off from 50 feet away.

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