Yes, I too have gone to bars and had people say, "why aren't you drinking?" It did feel uncomfortable being in that environment. The only reason I went to bars at all, was to try and meet some women.All_That_Is_Man wrote:I never understood the party animal thing. It's very hard to socialize when you are not a party animal, too. Bars in America only encourage drunken behavior. In the days where I used to go to bars, I actually did not drink, and I suppose I was there for the atmosphere and the hopes of building a social circle after college. I felt uncomfortable as people were surprised that I don't drink: girls would ask me "You don't drink?", or random dudes would buy me a drink thinking I'm poor, or bartendresses would give me dirty looks because they knew they couldn't con tips out of me. It got boring being the only guy in my town going to bars alone (leaving alone as well, naturally) for the purpose of building a social network, instead of getting shitfaced.
Usually, I met NO women at all. Occassionally I got some phone numbers only to call them up a couple of days later, leave them a message and then most of the time they would never call me back. Bars and nightclubs are HORRIBLE places to try and meet women. In addition, you have all these "pickup artists" and "party animals" at bars and clubs.
Extroverts and party animals seem to do better in the social scene in America than do people like me who are more introverted. That's why I think moving to a more introverted country like Germany would be a good idea.