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After reading the article below, I actually feel for these crazy pyschotic beings we call american women. These women are yearning for Daddy-O.
here is the link to the article below:
Makow - Feminism Deprives
Women of Father's Love
Creates Social Dysfunction
By Henry Makow, PhD
As children, most women did not receive adequate love from their fathers. As a result, they are insecure, distrust men and feel they must be independent.
They can't respond sexually and their marriages often end in divorce. Their daughters continue the vicious cycle.
This is the conclusion of Victoria Secunda's book "Women and their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life "(1992). It is based on interviews with 150 daughters, 75 fathers, and dozens of authorities.
Because she is not an academic, Secunda wrote an honest and useful book. Because she is a feminist, it slipped through the feminist censors and was well received. This is ironic because feminism is largely responsible for the father loss and calamity she describes.
I will argue later that feminism, which originates in Marxism, undermines women and society by eliminating fathers. And I will present a heterosexual paradigm that might be useful to some men and women.
FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS
Girls base their male romantic ideal on their relationship with their father. "When I grow up, will I ever find a man as sweet and good and kind as my daddy" is how one women expressed it. (Secunda, p.105)
A three-year-old girl is at the stage of her development when she wants to marry Daddy and have mother out of the way. A good father helps her to understand that he is spoken for and prepares her for another man. But if he leaves, her idealization of her father can become frozen in time. (197)
Women's attachments or lack of them are "mirror images" of how they related to their fathers. People often instinctively repeat what they experienced in childhood, even if it was the worst thing in the world. It's what they know. They are trying to have one more shot at childhood, one more chance to rewrite their emotional histories. (224) Little girls must have their father's approval and love. This is like sun and water to a flower.
One woman said: "Whenever I'd worry about ever getting a boyfriend, he'd laugh and say, 'Are you kidding? I'll have to beat them off with a stick. You'll see.' His whole approach was to make me feel good about myself.... I think if fathers do nothing else, that's a great thing." (221)
Another woman said: "It's my dad who made me believe in myself. I remember my mom once telling me, 'Don't act too smart, the boys won't like you." To which my father responded, 'Hogwash she'll get smarter boys." (225)
These women naturally feel positively about men and are able to find partners who mirror the devoted father of childhood.
If a woman does not have a loving dependable father, due to his own arrested development or a divorce, she may seek men who reject or deny her needs. She may recoil from love altogether. Always she is haunted by the thought that she is essentially unlovable. (224)
These women may become sexually active prematurely to try to compensate. They may fear intimacy. The common theme is "an inability to trust, to believe that a man won't go away."
Secunda says that in a study of the sex lives of 300 women, those who had trouble achieving orgasm mostly had fathers who were emotionally or physically absent during their childhood. (31)
Apparently, a woman needs to trust in order to "let go." (See also my "The Power of Sexual Surrender." http://www.savethemales.ca/290502.html)
Women with absent fathers feel rootless and aren't sure they belong anywhere. They close up emotionally and tend to have rocky relationships. "Most of these daughters tended to test the men in their lives starting fights, finding flaws, expecting to be abandoned, or looking for excuses to walk out themselves." (214)
Another pattern is anxiety about supporting themselves and of being financially dependent on men. This is where feminism comes in.
"It seems that the less masculine attention they got in childhood, the more they seem to identify with and imitate men, keeping their feelings hidden, preferring casual teasing and unemotional banter to the intimacies of feminine soul bearing." (212)
Denied their fathers, women become more masculine. This is a way of bringing daddy back. They become the thing they are missing. (212)
In other words, a good father affirms his daughter's innate femininity. But if he is absent, she compensates by becoming masculine. This of course undermines her future relationships with men.
THE ORIGINS OF FEMINISM
The leaders of second wave feminism were usually products of broken homes. "My father didn't ever exist as a presence in my life.... He didn't care about us," said Marilyn French, author of "The War Against Women."
"My father was living in California," said Gloria Steinem. "He didn't ring up but I would get letters from him and saw him maybe once or twice a year."
Germaine Greer: "My father had decided pretty early on that life at home was pretty unbearable...it gave my mother an opportunity to tyrannize the children and enlist their aid to disenfranchise my father completely." (From Susan Mitchell. Icons, Saints and Divas: Intimate Conversations with Women who Changed the World, New York: Harper Collins, 1997.)
Feminism is a self-perpetuating form of father-loss. Its goal is to "overthrow the patriarchy." The word originates in the Latin "pater" or father. Feminism, like Communism, originates in the Illuminist endeavour to overthrow God and the natural order and impose on mankind a dictatorship of the rich.
Feminism is designed to weaken society so that it will succumb. It is extrapolated from Marxism: men "oppress" women by virtue of their role as wife and mother. This of course is nonsense. Both sex roles involve sacrifice. Men have supported and defended families with their lives for centuries.
Feminism reflects the Illuminist (Masonic/Communist) assumption that man defines reality, not God and nature. It claims that sex roles are socially rather than biologically based. It coerces women to abandon the feminine role and usurp the masculine one instead, making men redundant. Feminists teach that all injustice is due to the "inequality" of the sexes and therefore heterosexuality itself must be eliminated. Many feminists are lesbian and promote homosexuality. They have passed laws that deprive men of all rights over their children and property. Courts and police routinely discriminate against men. (See my "Dawn of the Feminist Police State" http://www.savethemales.ca/000079.html and "NWO Tyranny: Men are Being Kicked in the Teeth" http://www.savethemales.ca/230702.html)
The establishment fosters and spreads this magnificent hoax. I refer you to my articles "Relearning Heterosexual Love" http://www.savethemales.ca/030402.html " "Betty Friedan: Mommie was a Commie" http://www.savethemales.ca/000061.html; and "Gloria Steinem: How the CIA Used Feminism to Destabilize Society" http://www.savethemales.ca/180302.html
THE HAVOC WREAKED BY FEMINISM
Since the onslaught of second-wave feminism in the 1960's the divorce rate has tripled. Almost 50% of white women who married then have divorced. In contrast, a single generation earlier (1940's), only 14% eventually divorced.
Between 1970 and 1992, the proportion of babies born outside of marriage leapt from 11% to 30%.
Three times as many children (per capita) are now living in single parent households. In 2000, 22.4% of all children under 18 (16,162,000 children) lived in mother-only households. In 1960, the figure was 8%.
A study which tracked 1000 children of divorced parents from 1976 until 1987 found that nearly half of these children had not seen their fathers in the previous year. (203)
As far as women's psychological development and happiness, feminism clearly is a virulent disease.
FATHER-DAUGHTER: A HETEROSEXUAL PARADIGM
These days men and women are kept in a state of arrested development, frozen in the courtship stage. If people are sex starved and stunted, you can sell them products and control them.
The mass media encourages us to obsess on sex and postpone marriage and family indefinitely. When you are married, sex is readily available and less important.
Young men are taught to judge women on appearance and ignore more important qualities in a mate. Some men think beautiful women are superhuman and unapproachable. Perhaps the following will be of use to some of them. If women form their ideal of male from their father, present or absent, it behoves men to be more "father-like" in their approach to women. Typically, women choose men who are five years older because they seek to replicate their own family, with husband providing the physical and emotional security as their father did (or should have). Men should seek younger women who "look up" to them. Instead of thinking in sexual terms, men should seek long-term relationships leading to marriage. This is far more rewarding than casual sex anyway.
Whether they had good fathers or not, women need husbands for security, nurturing and direction. Men should prepare themselves for this role, with regard to wife and children. This is the standard to which men have always measured themselves, and women still measure men.
If many women are looking for a father figure, are men looking for a mother? Possibly. But this isn't healthy. Many men want a daughter-figure, someone who will demonstrate the loyalty, trust and innocence that a girl feels for her father. A man wants to be affirmed in his authority as husband and father, not mothered like a child. Of course a man also wants his wife to be strong, sophisticated and effective because this makes her more desirable. But she should retain those daughterly qualities that he finds so attractive. When a woman trusts her husband's leadership, she can focus on her feminine side. It allows her to retain her youthfulness and attraction into old age.
Victoria Secunda's book confirms that some men occasionally have sexual feelings for their daughters. She says this is normal. Men get spooked by this and avoid their daughters. They shouldn't. There is a world of difference between arousal and actually wanting, let alone doing. (16)
A father's responsibility is to build his daughter's trust in men, and prepare her for another man. This involves confirming her in her sexual identity, as a capable attractive partner for a future husband.
In my lifetime the popular image of the father has undergone a transformation from the dignified Robert Young in Fathers Knows Best to the bumbling fool Homer Simpson. This is not a coincidence or a "sign of the times." It reflects a sophisticated psychological warfare program designed by the Illuminist elite to emasculate men, degrade and destabilize society.
The people whop own and run the planet do not want us to become mature beings who can perceive the true order of things. Their main instrument is the mass media, which makes trends like feminism appear spontaneous.
Victoria Secunda has shown that a healthy father-daughter relationship in a nuclear family is essential to a woman's psychological development and future happiness. Despite its pretensions, feminism undermines women by depriving them of these things.
I want to be clear that women are equal to men, and should have careers if they wish. But at its heart, feminism is not about these things. It promotes a lesbian developmental disorder that destroys society by attacking its basic social unit, the heterosexual family.
The dysfunction created by the destruction of the family has spawned a predatory class of professionals: politicians, educators, writers, law enforcers, lawyers, counsellors and health care professionals. This class becomes the Iluminist elite's political constituency. Thus mankind is kept in a state of arrested development.
It's time for men to step up to the plate. We also suffer from father loss. But there is a father that we can know. I am talking about God. We are made in God's image and His image is in our soul. Man in Latin, "vir", has the same root as virtue. It's as simple as doing the right thing.
In this context, it means forming strong marriages and having healthy children.
Henry Makow Ph.D. is the inventor of the board game Scruples and the the author of "A Long Way to go for a Date." His past articles on feminism and the new world order can be found at http://www.savethemales.ca He enjoys receiving comments at firstname.lastname@example.org
I'm not one to parrot conspiracy theories but this guy has made a pretty good case in the past that the CIA was a big supporter of the feminist movement. It's not that far fetched considering that the U.S. intelligence community had a bug or a plant in every social planning or activist community during that era. The reason for the government interest in feminism at the time was because they were afraid it was too "left leaning" for the public.
I don't think post modern feminism destabilizes society as much as it keeps men in a constant state of dependency. This kind of benefits people in charge as well because they can easily manipulate men based on their challenged masculinity. It's all Mazlow's hierarchy of needs..sex/female companionship ranks pretty high but when you take away that tier it creates all sorts of frustrated men who find other outlets.
Last edited by Repatriate on October 28th, 2010, 5:05 am, edited 1 time in total.
yes repatriate precisely true. the CIA is a leader when it comes to propaganda. they control everything within the usa net. and work together with the other intelligent agencies too.
So we do have believers about the illuminati within the community. the illuminati are also planning a staged alien invasion. they are trying to prepare the population with alien invasion programming mind control through==> skyline movie, The event tv show, and "V" tv show. These mediums are all playing at the same time too.
err I draw the line when it comes to that stuff. Winston might be interested though.
Really interesting, I enjoyed reading that. Thanks for posting.
Some parts are a bit too Freudian for my liking, though. I don't buy into children falling in love with their parent as part of development. I know that this is meant to be subconscious but still never experienced anything of the sort whether myself or watching other kids. It just doesn't ring of truth to me.
My father is never going to win a medal for 'World's Best Dad', I'll leave it at that. But it doesn't necessarily mean it messes you up as you grow older. I am fine with men, with being the feminine one in the relationship, I don't see myself in the descriptions of women written here (the ones with absent fathers). And in countries like Russia, don't often fathers get drunk and abusive, or leave the family, yet the women grow up to be sought-after as wonderful wives/mothers? I'm not sure how it is in America but my vision of the typical American dad is very hands-on, loving, active, the kind you would see on the back of a cereal box, yet the women grow up dysfunctional.
I'm not saying the role of the father is unimportant in the development of his children. I think a good father is one of the foundations to a healthy, happy life that everyone should have. Sometimes I wish I had had a different experience, and how it would have changed me, although I do love my father and just wish we were in touch. I do think it would have made me less insecure as a teenager in particular, although who can tell. But I don't think it's quite so clear cut to say an absent, or even abusive, father makes a mentally unstable, masculine woman, and that a good, loving father makes his daughter into a perfect future wife.
The parts about feminism/Marxism, though, I really enjoyed. Sometimes I wish I were studying sociology just so I could do a dissertation on this subject.
hey there bellaruth...yep here in america feminism is rampant. there is some pyschological problems the vast majority of women here have. its okay though. your so intelligent and easy going. i am still trying to get used to it. its still unreal to me because of the constant unfrienliness of the women here.
by the way are you going to see the harry potter movie or is it already out in theatres. one thing to say to you...i put a spell on you " expectum patronum " did it work ?