The Arab wrote: Repatriate wrote:
ladislav wrote:In the US you cannot have a close male friend because people will think you are gay, and you cannot have a GF because they are stuck up. What else makes your life woithwhile? Not much.
It's actually even worse if you're a non white male with several friends of different ethnicities. If you're asian and walking around with a white or black guy people automatically think weird things sometimes. If it's a group people generally think nothing of it but if it's a couple of guys walking around then the reactions can be over the top.
Isn't "a couple of guys" a "group"? Don't understand ...
But I digress, I found this topic interesting and on the mark - allow me to share my own observations and comparison with social interactions in Arab society.
It really is true that men in America simply cannot relate to each other and develop strong friendships and bonds that is common in other parts of the world. Go to Russia, the Arab World, Latin America, hell even Italy, and see groups of guys hanging about and being themselves, not worried about being judged by each other or others around them.
I made a thread regarding the insecurity of the Western male, and even between men in the West, interaction is odd and somehow fake and masked. Men just don't know how to bond and have fun, and it seems there is a fear of being viewed as gay. Americans care a lot about what others think and try hard to conform to the sociologically engineered environment they call him. This is not uniquely an American aspect, it is common in many parts of Europe as well.
Men simply feel awkward and unnatural just hanging out with other men- now, my experience is in West LA, and the odd way people are is just too noticeable. You don't see guys hanging out, walking around, hell, just guys looking for girls. There is a huge disconnect and strange social atmosphere.
In West LA, it seems everyone is a couple, then there are singles. Couples are quiet and most act like zombies. No energy or life in the streets. No genuine laughter and fun.
Very few families and children. Lots of transplants from all over the country, who usually arrive with their significant other. If you're single and there are other single men, the social dynamic makes it seem unnatural and difficult for guys to hang out and hunt for chicks. Just a certain uptight culture that is all-prevasive, and oblivious to most who live here, I assume.
Men are just not confident, not secure, and immature. They are bred to be this way, to keep them isolated and their lives disconnected. Most American men would not stand by their friends in a fight, instead they will look with a blank expression on their face. The same in many parts of Europe. This would never happen in the Arab world or say Russia, where friends are friends in the truest sense of the word.
Look at this video and all the terrified wusses standing around. This is impossible in the Arab world. The fear and cowardice of the other patrons, the complete lack of community and bond, relying on the state (police), each man his own island, every one minding their own business.
In the U.S., very few friends are REAL friends. Men and women are disconnected. Most have no clue just how bizarre and fragmented and artificial their society is; though i believe many can sense it.[youtube][/youtube]