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Postby xiongmao » Thu Apr 18, 2013 11:03 am

Not eaten much good food here, I hate Cantonese food and I hate noodles. Now I mostly cook in my apartment.

The food in this neighborhood is mostly cheap junk made for Chinese students. Better food is downtown, but I don't go down there so much now.

I really like Hubei food and if I date a Hubei girl I'll get her to take me to a Hubei restaurant here. Trouble is it's proven exceedingly hard to find Hubei (or Sichuan) girls to date - I think I'm drawn to Cantonese and Hunan women. Plus they're more likely to speak English.

Please get this idea of your heads that English teachers are all poor. I was offered 200RMB for an hours teaching - that's a better hourly rate than I'm making from freelance software development jobs.

I don't need the money, but if my visa allows it I'll see if I can find a job teaching English in a company. That would be a great way to meet ladies.

And yes, Chinese ladies are ambitious and like money... but then so do I :) . Not all are shopaholics though, many just want a baby or are just lonely. It's very easy to figure out what type of girl you're dating. There really are only 5 or 6 types of Chinese lady.

Yeah the pollution is bad here but that's the price you pay for living somewhere exciting.

Today it's stupendously hot and humid, and I went to a poor neighborhood nearby for a look round. Wow, stunning white legged women everywhere.

I'm building my network of contacts here. It's hard because white guys are seen as ATM machines. That's simply because the majority of them here work in Tianhe or come to the Canton Fair and they have no idea if a 10 minute taxi ride should cost 10RMB or 100RMB.

This humid weather makes me lose my mind, like the first time I visited Guangzhou. It's so humid, even my notebooks feel damp, and everything is sticky.

Still, I have no regrets about coming here. Things sound really grim back in my old place of work, so I'm glad I quit my cubicle and went to see a bit more of the world.
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Postby zboy1 » Thu Apr 18, 2013 5:15 pm

Hey xiongmao, anyway you can recommend me to any of the English teaching centers throughout China? I'm still looking for work and can't get any breaks, since I'm not White and places won't hire me because of that. I turned down the Russia job that was offered to me because they wouldn't provide me with either healthcare or housing accommodations. I can email you my resume and my teaching credentials. I have a college degree and a 100 hour TESOL certificate. That should be good enough for most places...
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Postby xiongmao » Fri Apr 19, 2013 1:05 am

Well if you've got some spare cash you could sign up for a Mandarin course, then look for teaching gigs while you're here. It can be a pain changing visas though.

Something new I learned last night... cockroaches can fly!!!!

I found a huge cockroach in my apartment last night - its body was over 2 inches long, and it's legs and antennae made it look even more immense.

Anyway, I tried to trap it in a glass, then it flew around the room. Well who knew that roaches can fly!!!!

Anyone else seen one of these? Apparently they're not the same species that live in apartments and eat crumbs. If I find another one I'll photograph it, instead of beating it to death with a broom!!!!
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Postby xiongmao » Fri Apr 26, 2013 4:06 pm

Hi Guys,

Wow, I went to Shenzhen. For those of you who don't know China, it's the mainland city next to Hong Kong.

I'm having fun compiling my list of stuff that's different between Guangzhou (Gz) and Shenzhen (Sz).

Street cooking and hawking seem to be banned here. In Gz there is so much cooking and hawking that you can barely cross some overpasses.

Well there's none of it here.

On the other hand, prostitution is rife here. It was being advertised right outside the main metro stations. It's also clear I've booked a hooker hotel as there are very beautiful ladies coming in and out carrying little bags of something (probably condoms!) Also you can hire rooms by the hour and the room has condoms for sale.

Well I was warned about the place but try finding a cheap hotel here that isn't used for other purposes!

Well monging's not my thing, but I did go on a date.

Tonight I met my first Sichuan girl. Never met one before. Her skin was as white as snow. She was very smart and also had a great figure. Unfortunately she was way too fierce for me. Yikes, if she's that fiesty on a first date, imagine what she'd be like as a wife. Yeah, if you want a Chinese wife, stick to those from Hunan or Fujian or the Cantonese.

Oh well, in a city known for its scams, at least she turned out to be legit.

I'm here for 5 more days. Internet access is as good as it can be in a 160RMB a night hotel in China's 2nd most expensive city. Lol.

I came here partly to get away from the crazy stuff that goes on in Gz. But here is just as crazy. I went across the road to buy a couple of beers. I love that Shenzhen Brewery beer but it's hard to find anywhere else.

Anyway, crossing the road on the way back and my way is blocked by two guys carrying a 12 foot ladder. Lol. Then there's a bloke looking really ill outside a restaurant. The staff have no idea what to do and give him a bucket and cover him with a blanket. I guess he drank too much alcohol or had a shellfish allergy. Once again, NEVER come here without health insurance, and come to think of it, don't get sick here!!!

If you are interested in monging, then just bear in mind that 99.9% of people who come here to mong are Mandarin speakers and can also read Chinese. It's not set up for Westerners. Western dudes will have a much easier time in Thailand or the Phillies.
Also the hookers here are absolutely stunning but they probably just lie back and think of China.

Well I'm just here for dating, so I hope I find more dates in the week I'm here.
I actually think a new approach might be to go to a different Chinese city for a week, then email every CLL lady and tell her I'm in town. I'd also lose a heck of a lot of weight, as it was a real struggle finding anything worth eating in the local supermarket!
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Postby Cornfed » Fri Apr 26, 2013 7:24 pm

xiongmao wrote:If you are interested in monging, then just bear in mind that 99.9% of people who come here to mong are Mandarin speakers and can also read Chinese. It's not set up for Westerners.

In some places there is support for English-speaking mongers. I noticed in Xiamen the ads for hoes were translated into English (which is odd given that there were few Westerners there). In Shanghai a lot of the hoes and people generally seem to speak English.
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Postby drealm » Fri Apr 26, 2013 9:06 pm

Do you need VPN to get on the websites like happier abroad? How do you go about getting an internet connection? Do you just use open wifi? Hotels? It seems like even this would be a challenge?
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Postby xiongmao » Sat Apr 27, 2013 2:29 am

VPN is only really needed for Facebook and Youtube. I tend to use it a lot because I rely on Google's services and they're hopeless in China.

HA works here but Winston's server is rubbish so it's often a frustrating experience.

Hotel internet rarely works out of the can, ahhh it can be a frustrating experience! But for an emergency my mobile phone can act as a router for my laptop.

I got an English/Chinese ad for hoes pushed under my hotel door in Shanghai. The thing told me to ask my hotel desk for a translation. Lol.

Not been approached by hoes here, but when I was waiting for my date last night I got hassled by people wanting to practice English/beggers/hawkers - it doesn't happen so much in Gz where foreigners are more common.

Oh, and the most important thing to take to China is... earplugs!

Ha ha ha my hotel is opposite a building site, there's a busy road and there are the usual hotel noises.
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Postby xiongmao » Thu May 09, 2013 9:32 am

Wow, I've now been in China for...

well it seems like forever!

Man am I in for some major culture shock when I return to the UK in early July.

I met a few more ladies, but it's hard getting dates. Also everyone is really busy here.

Dating's hard work here. For instant win I recommend Thailand or the Philippines. I'll give it a year, then I'll go to one of these myself. I think I'd prefer Thailand, or maybe even Vietnam.

I've left it a little bit late to date 20 something Chinese girls. The 30 somethings are for the most part a waste of time if you want to have kids.

Oh well. Next week I'm going to see a marriage agency. Not sure if this is a good idea, but I guess I should give it a try. I'm into the realms of Chinese dating now, I could be the first foreigner ever to register with this company.

The agency lady is a bit bonkers, so it should be fun :)
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Postby xiongmao » Mon May 20, 2013 4:35 am

More real life photos from China:

Dongguan - monging capital of China? It's undergoing gentrification but there are plenty of rough around the edges parts:

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Saw quite a few hookers in town, they're not hard for me to spot now. But I must admit that the place wasn't as bad as its reputation. I guess as more ordinary folk are priced out of Guangzhou and Shenzhen then they'll settle in Dongguan.

Still, there was plenty of eye-candy at Dongguan train station:

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KTV girls lining up. Sorry for grainy shot but there are a lot of bouncer/police type guys walking around these joints, so I'm not gonna get any closer!

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Anyway, when Winston comes here I hope he'll take me to one of these joints. I think he'll be annoyed with how long I take to pick my girl though, they're all my type!!!!

Waiting for the bus:

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Postby xiongmao » Mon May 27, 2013 1:42 pm

Photos of my Chinese apartment if anyone is interested:

http://forum.asianloveconnections.com/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=100
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Postby xiongmao » Wed Jun 05, 2013 4:45 pm

More photos from China.

Some girls get word that Winston's in town...

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Chinese best friends:

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That silky long black hair... Just awesome 8-) 8-) 8-) .

Winston wasting his life in Vegas, white legged Chinese lady patiently waits for him:

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Is marriage a trap for men? Well when you're married to a slim, leggy goddess who f***ing cares?

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Enjoy these updates, my camera ain't gonna survive another year of this torrential rain:

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:D :D :D :D
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Postby xiongmao » Wed Jun 05, 2013 4:49 pm

Pack this bus full of cute girls...

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Where does the 523 bus go? f**k I don't care, just as long as it's full of cutie chicks :P

A couple of cute Chinese girls sharing an umbrella:

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That silky long black hair... Just awesome 8-) 8-) 8-) .

Chinese lady waiting for the bus. With all this rain, ridiculously tall shoes have a practical use:

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Think all Asian ladies are 4' 11"? Think again! There are plenty of Amazonian type women in SE Asia:

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Don't think my camera will survive much more of this torrential f***ing rain:

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:D :D :D :D
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Postby kai1275 » Wed Jun 05, 2013 5:20 pm

One day you need to go hang out in Changsha, in the summer. The sheer amount of short dresses and legs is enough to kill the biggest Christian man. You probably won't look weird snapping photos out there. They will think you are a tourist, and Hunan people just aren't haters. You might get more than you bargained for in terms of attention too. I noticed how you aware on previous posts on how sweet Hunan women are. If you are in Changsha you might run into a sweet good looking one that you will always want. :wink:

Probably the only women more feminine than a Hunan woman is probably a Chongqing woman, but they wear more makeup. Hint hint.
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Postby xiongmao » Thu Jun 06, 2013 1:36 pm

Got a second date with a Hunan girl tomorrow... hopefully. It's taken a lot of effort to get a second date, but as they say, if she's worth it, she won't be easy :)

On the whole it's kind of hard to tell where a Chinese girl is from based on her looks. But today I met a second girl from the same city as another girl I know. They actually had identical accents which was kind of neat.

Some amazing legs on display outside tonight, it's summer dress season now.

I go home in a few weeks. I've had a lot of fun here but I've not yet found a wife. The standard of lady I've met is very high indeed, but as of yet nobody stands out. But I will continue to meet with my favourite ladies and see if a winner emerges.

One issue I've found is that ladies are fairly interchangeable. I like having female company, but I'm actually not that choosy about who I'm with.

Away from women, I helped another English teacher today. He's another older guy whose been travelling for years and is immensely knowledgeable. He seemed to think that Southern China will be where it's all at in the next couple of decades.

By that time Zhuhai, Foshan, Guangzhou, Dongguan and Shenzhen will be one massive city with a population greater than the UK!
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Postby kai1275 » Thu Jun 06, 2013 2:41 pm

xiongmao wrote:Got a second date with a Hunan girl tomorrow... hopefully. It's taken a lot of effort to get a second date, but as they say, if she's worth it, she won't be easy :)

On the whole it's kind of hard to tell where a Chinese girl is from based on her looks. But today I met a second girl from the same city as another girl I know. They actually had identical accents which was kind of neat.

Some amazing legs on display outside tonight, it's summer dress season now.

I go home in a few weeks. I've had a lot of fun here but I've not yet found a wife. The standard of lady I've met is very high indeed, but as of yet nobody stands out. But I will continue to meet with my favourite ladies and see if a winner emerges.

One issue I've found is that ladies are fairly interchangeable. I like having female company, but I'm actually not that choosy about who I'm with.

Away from women, I helped another English teacher today. He's another older guy whose been travelling for years and is immensely knowledgeable. He seemed to think that Southern China will be where it's all at in the next couple of decades.

By that time Zhuhai, Foshan, Guangzhou, Dongguan and Shenzhen will be one massive city with a population greater than the UK!


At first it is hard to tell them apart but after enough time you can tell. Hunan girls have rounder cuter faces. I have a hard time telling them apart from some sichuan girls sometimes, but Sichuan girls chins are pointier sometimes. Sichuan girls are very aggressive, so their behavior is easier to catch and compare. Hunan women are probably a little too laid back sometimes. Guangzhou women are easier because their body sizes are dead giveaways for me at least. Hair too.

Start with things like South Chinese vs North Chinese, then examine other small things. Southern Chinese dress more feminine and wear shorter outfits, etc. Tend to have shorter hairstyles, darker skin tones sometimes, more brown color in their hair (natural or artificial), they walk differently too (slightly wider stance), Beijing girls walk almost like a skinny Californian girl walks.

Stuff like that. If your Mandarin gets pretty good, you can tell just by the accent and Mandarin local-ism style dialect, and you wont have to spend anytime looking at them just to tell.
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