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Post by FusionX20 » October 1st, 2014, 9:37 pm

Well, I'm not surprised anywhere outside the U.S. or where people have NOT been conditioned by western society is better.
Been at the mercy of western society since childhood.

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Post by matthewcoury » October 1st, 2014, 10:19 pm

Travelin Man wrote:I had a similar experience as well. My social life improved ten fold and my self confidence followed. I constantly had women asking ME out and offering to pay for dinner and movies! Imagine that happening in the USA?! lol

I even had women offering to pay for me to go on trips with them throughout China or down to Thailand! It's another world over there that many single guys in Western countries know nothing about.

The only problem I had is making little money compared to US, but what is money if you have no one to share it with right?!
thats what im sayin to almost everybody.....it is just..shocking when you get out of the U.S. of Gay and see how easy it is to make connections that are romantic in other countries....easy and natural even with super gorgeous women

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Re: Self Confidence

Post by zboy1 » October 2nd, 2014, 10:01 am

matthewcoury wrote:
Travelin Man wrote:I had a similar experience as well. My social life improved ten fold and my self confidence followed. I constantly had women asking ME out and offering to pay for dinner and movies! Imagine that happening in the USA?! lol

I even had women offering to pay for me to go on trips with them throughout China or down to Thailand! It's another world over there that many single guys in Western countries know nothing about.

The only problem I had is making little money compared to US, but what is money if you have no one to share it with right?!
thats what im sayin to almost everybody.....it is just..shocking when you get out of the U.S. of Gay and see how easy it is to make connections that are romantic in other countries....easy and natural even with super gorgeous women
It really is amazing, isn't it? It's like as soon as I'm out of the U.S./Anglo/Western European world, I gain so much confidence in myself. Then whenever I return back to the States, I'm nervous, introverted and depressed.

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Re: Self Confidence

Post by newlifeinphilippines » October 2nd, 2014, 10:12 am

zboy1 wrote:
matthewcoury wrote:
Travelin Man wrote:I had a similar experience as well. My social life improved ten fold and my self confidence followed. I constantly had women asking ME out and offering to pay for dinner and movies! Imagine that happening in the USA?! lol

I even had women offering to pay for me to go on trips with them throughout China or down to Thailand! It's another world over there that many single guys in Western countries know nothing about.

The only problem I had is making little money compared to US, but what is money if you have no one to share it with right?!
thats what im sayin to almost everybody.....it is just..shocking when you get out of the U.S. of Gay and see how easy it is to make connections that are romantic in other countries....easy and natural even with super gorgeous women
It really is amazing, isn't it? It's like as soon as I'm out of the U.S./Anglo/Western European world, I gain so much confidence in myself. Then whenever I return back to the States, I'm nervous, introverted and depressed.

why do you feel confident in korea? Just cause your asian. well everyone else is asian too so there is no reason to be confident your just another one of them.

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Re: Self Confidence

Post by MarcosZeitola » October 2nd, 2014, 10:59 am

newlifeinphilippines wrote:why do you feel confident in korea? Just cause your asian. well everyone else is asian too so there is no reason to be confident your just another one of them.
Insinuating a Korean is the same as a Filipino, a Chinese the same as a Japanese, someone from Bali the same as someone from Hong Kong... there's many different ethnic groups in Asia and a simple change of location can do wonders for one's self esteem and confidence in his own skin. Everyone else is European in Europe too (well, used to be at least lol) but that doesn't mean there isn't a world of difference between a Norwegian, an Italian or a Pole.

Some differences are huge, others small and subtle. But a small and subtle difference in culture can make all the difference in the world for some.

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Re: Self Confidence

Post by zboy1 » October 2nd, 2014, 1:01 pm

MarcosZeitola wrote:
newlifeinphilippines wrote:why do you feel confident in korea? Just cause your asian. well everyone else is asian too so there is no reason to be confident your just another one of them.
Insinuating a Korean is the same as a Filipino, a Chinese the same as a Japanese, someone from Bali the same as someone from Hong Kong... there's many different ethnic groups in Asia and a simple change of location can do wonders for one's self esteem and confidence in his own skin. Everyone else is European in Europe too (well, used to be at least lol) but that doesn't mean there isn't a world of difference between a Norwegian, an Italian or a Pole.

Some differences are huge, others small and subtle. But a small and subtle difference in culture can make all the difference in the world for some.
Well...part of it is that I'm not judged based on my race, like I am in the United States; the U.S. is very racially hierarchical. Why do you think so many Blacks, Mexicans or Asians feel so insecure or prosecuted in the country? Even White males get demonized by the Jewish media in America.

Also, I would say that being in Asia, I don't feel like I 'stand-out' like I do in America. I can 'fit-in' and feel secure in myself, something that I don't feel back home in the States.

It's very hard to explain, tbh...I just feel confident here.

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Re: Self Confidence

Post by Yohan » October 3rd, 2014, 7:43 am

newlifeinphilippines wrote: why do you feel confident in korea? Just cause your asian. well everyone else is asian too so there is no reason to be confident your just another one of them.
It's complicated.

As far as I know, Zboy1 is Asian-American, and not an Asian living in Asia. I am not even sure, if Korean or Chinese is his first native language. Probably he is a native English speaker.

Of course by his Asian looks, it is difficult to see the difference between an Asian American or a local Asian while he is in China or South Korea.

In USA his situation is totally different of course, just opposite, as he is clearly a minority - the majority is white and Asians are only in some cities, maybe only 1 out of 15 US-citizens is an Asian. In USA you can travel for many hours and you will not see even one Asian, especially not in rural areas. Of course he will be noticed in USA outside of 'china-town'.

US-citizens are reacting much more sensitive, often see discrimination in USA or anywhere else, even where it does not exist.

How is my situation, I am white and an immigrant to Asia, Japan myself.
In Tokyo in business districts, nobody cares about who I am, but if I go to rural areas without international tourism, people are looking at me, asking me this or that... but I am from Europe, not from USA and I do not feel discriminated, why should I?

If so many Asians and Mexicans or black people from Haiti, Cuba etc. feel so insecure or persecuted in USA, why are they going there? Even entering illegally?

About black people who are holding US citizenship, why are they not moving to Africa where their presence will be appreciated?

It is not difficult for a black US-man to enter African or Latin American countries for business and retirement.

It should be noticed that Asians are also discriminating - for example South Koreans are not known to welcome North Koreans and accept them as their countrymen. There are also tensions between Koreans and Japanese in Japan. In Malaysia you will notice tensions between Chinese and Malay. etc. etc. Not only race, but religion also plays a major role regarding discrimination in Asia, often between Islam and Buddhism for example in Myanmar and Thailand.

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Post by In2dadark » October 4th, 2014, 1:35 pm

One good thing I"m seeing about the phils is if you meet an older (25-32) woman with a child that you find stunning, there's a good chance you can find a younger, childless version that looks exactly like her. haha

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