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Or it could be that most of the girls I've dated are college educated and have real jobs. After sex, I usually just cuddle with them, then they either spend the night or if they have to leave, I would escort them to the gate of my place, give them a kiss and tell them "see you soon". When they get home they would text me that they just got home. I would flirt with them through a few texts before telling them I am going to bed. That's generally how most of the interactions go.
In the two instances where I gave taxi money. One is with a girl who said that she is too short on money to come see, so I agree to pay for her return cabfare ahead of time. The other time is a first meeting with a girl who brought her aunt. I let the aunt pay for the meal because I abide by the rule that the most senior person should pay for the date (lol). They later told me that they spent all their money on that meal, so I gave them the money to take the bus but not taxi, cuz I am a cheap-ass like that.
Most girls don't ride taxi tho. They just ride buses, jeepny, or FX to go home. Which are all quite cheap.
I don't bang hoes. When you are banging hoes, you are expected to pay up. A normal girl would never mention needing money after sex. Unless you are actively offering her cab money, which you should never do.
Here's my exact routine. I follow this for every single one of my date.
1. Meet her at a mall within walking distance from my place.
2. Upon meeting her, immediately suggest we go to another mall (that is closer to my place) for food.
3. After finish eating, I tell her that we should go to a quieter place, and that there is a nice garden nearby that we can chat better.
4. Take her to the garden of my place, spend about 20 minutes there chitchatting before telling her I am thirst that we should go inside and I can show her some pictures.
5. Go to my place. Show her pictures by using my arm to pull her into me to gauge her reaction.
6. After I finish showing my pics, I pull her really close to almost cuddle mode, gauge her reaction, if positive...
7. Go for the kiss, gauge her reaction, if positive...
8. Heavy make-out and fondling mode, gauge her reaction, if positive...
9. Carry her into my room
11. Cuddle mode and damage control through sweet talk
Usually when I am not successful, it would be because she insists on leaving between step 5 and 8.
When I follow this routine, no girl ever asks for money.
well milf girl wanted cab money to show up. and after that each time. I got tired of that but i figured id enjoy the sex for a few days she was so pretty but i hated her personality. she had never been with a foreigner before and i wouldn't classify her as a hoe but tehn again i guess she was especially when she thought of going to korea to sell her body she told me in an email.
I thought you slept with any dating slut off the dating site. Most of those girls are not educated or even have a job or if they are college educated they dont have a quality job. Ive never met a girl off the dating site who had a job and was educated except my gf's sister who was sort of hot but she is 30 and from what my gf told me she is very picky and and bitchy.
Just from the top of my head, some of the jobs the girls had were office worker, teacher, call center agent, waitress, nurse, mall lady, model, manager. Others were current college students who get allowance from their parents. There were a few who owned their own business. Another few who had their own cars and own condo units. One girl I even had to go through her secretary to schedule a date with her, lol.
Perhaps those online girls who are willing to date an Asian guy are different from ones looking for white guys. My appearnce could be passed for some local Filipino Chinese, which is associated with the upper class here, so there might be a bit of self-selection going on. I don't know where you've been looking, but almost all the girls I met are college educated and have jobs. There are quite a bit of middle class girls on dating sites, you just need to know where to look. For example, Okcupid are full of middle and even upper class girls, and they are picky as hell. Every single one of the girls I met off there was affluent.
Or it could be that I date almost exclusively lighter skinned Pinays, which are associated with upper/middle class.
So your using mostly okcupid? Ive never checked out that site or hear much of anyone use it. Yes there is picky girls online anywhere and usually I dont deal with them cause they come and go and you usually are lucky to even get them on cam let alone ever meet them. I find online dating a huge hassle that leads to nowhere all the girls are totally flaky and none are serious about meeting right away. most are there just to build up their ego.
this is dateinasia in cebu which i know is garbage but ive heard the other dating sites aren't great either and most use multiple ones anyways. I know in manila the girls tend to be more educated cause they go there for work.
Actually, Okcupid would be a tertiary site that I use, far from the primary. Like I said, girls are OKC are higher class and can afford to be more picky/flaky. Upper/middle class girls are more like American girls. They don't need your money, so you better bring with you other qualities if you want to date these girls. So compared to other sites, OKC is the "hardest" to get any traction. But if middle/upper class Pinays are your thing, then it is the best online option. Skout is another good one to find affluent girls, because they would need a pretty good smartphone to support that damn app, lol.
I am not looking for a wife. Not looking to get married, if ever.
I still use the other sites for easier girls. But just reporting my observation that you need more than just your wallets to get with middle/upper class Filipinas.
Ill stick with the poor girls then cause I want to marry a 18 year old virgin when im like 40
If thats not your goal why do you care if the girl is educated or smart or has money. If anything the opposite should be your goal cause youll get what you want better. Your contradicting yourself.
I don't care if she is educated or smart. I do care whether she has money or not, just so we can split the bill on dates and she won't ask me for money.
You asked how could the girls I date not ask me for money, and I gave the possible reasons.
Here's another possible reason: When these girls go out with a younger guy, she thinks she's on a date. When she goes out with an older guy, she thinks that she's an escort. In both cases, she is just behaving properly.
when you say older what are we talking in terms of age gap? Im not old but the girls treat the younger guys the same way you know.
Old as in you look a generation above them. I don't think they treat guys who look the same age as they are the same way. Why would you ask money from a guy who looks like he's still in college?
One filipina on the dating site told me she befriended a young foreigner (early 20's) in real life and he was always getting scammed. They do it the young guys too but maybe in more subtle ways.
I met my bargirl when i was 30 and i looked probably mid 20's at the time yet she happily and greedily took my money. Most scammers online dont really bother me and maybe thats why i dont get much attention online cause most of these girls are trying to work the older guys over for sending cash LOL
the last gf though she didn't really ask me for money but she was like an orphan girl in some ways i later found out and i had to pay for everything and then some cause she was jobless etc. she then started hitting me up for money on the day i was going home and when back in america. Yes ive sent her some money but i wasnt expecting anything in return nor assuming to see her again when i did it, i did it for out of goodness etc. But after a few times of sending and her working the dating sites im a bit tired of talking to her now.
When girls ask me money, I usually just make some excuse to not give any. Like, "I think we need to get to know each other better first", which translates into "how about we have sex first, then I never answer your message again". Or, "sorry, I am still waiting for my next pay check. I will let you borrow some next time", which translates into "I give you some hope so we can have sex now, then there would be no next time".
I thought you said none ask you for money and the ones that do its after the fact down the road where you dont answer their texts.