lasttry wrote:Women are indeed similar everywhere, but there are difference classes of women. There are sexually liberated American women and sexually liberated women in other countries. The problem in the United States is that these women tend to congregate in the big cities and have good careers and don't need a man for money and can be very selective. Back in San Francisco, I had an easy time because I in a hotbed of such women and I had a lot more money then and I was much younger. Of course, these sexually liberated career women have issues, which is why I never stuck for more than a few years with any of them. Now I'm in nowheresville and the class of women I seem to be encountering is just useless sexually or else a complete PITA like that single mother I had last year.
Women want different things depending on 1) their age and 2) the age of the men they date. When you were young and dated women your age or a few years younger, you were obviously valued for how you looked like, your self-confidence and assertiveness, your levels of "social intelligence". You probably didn't care too much about those young women been the sexually liberated type.
Now you're grown up women probably see your differently, and look for something different. Yes your looks are still important, but much more is your general fitness, your professional and social achievements, and again qualities of self-confidence and balance (whereas a thuggish or happy go lucky behaviour would have been fancied more in your earlier years).
If you don't have your act together, not financially stable or at least able to project confidence and success, if you don't take care of yourself and show you want to go the extra mile, and you still intend to date girls in their late 20s or early 30s, of course you're going to find it hard. If you want class you need to give (or at least fake) class.
Also consider that it's precisely classy women who are the PITA you mention: they are on average more spoiled, more selective and those who tend to give a lot less than they're given.
No surprise half of this forum revolves around the dream of finding a simple and cute Filipina and get involved with her.
lasttry wrote:What happens when you go to a place like the Philipines or other poor countries, is that you are rich by local standards and so have access to a different class of women you wouldn't have access to the United States. But they are still women, and even the sexually liberated career women are low libido by male standards and otherwise something of a PITA to deal with.
This is one of the biggest myths about foreigners who go to the Philippines, Thailand etc. Middle class Filipinas usually avoid foreigners like the plague. They might interact with them in a formal context, ie. they're trying to sell them something, but for the most part they will be from indifferent to deliberately distant.
There's also the fact that most classy Filipinas will be sent to top-tier private universities and will date a boy from the same social background (or higher) during those years. Which means they will be probably engaged by 20 and married by 24. Unless one has serious interests in Filipino economy, eg. he's an expat or an entrepreneur with powerful social circles, I don't really see how the middle/upper class bubble can mix with the casual Western (sex) tourist.
This is to say, the opposite is true: if you go there, you will hardly be dating girls at your levels - you'll be left with girls of a lower background: the poor and needy, the single mothers, the occasional cougar maybe.
lasttry wrote:Someone married and with children like MarcosZeitola additionally has the huge stick of threatening to abandon his wife if she shuts off the sex supply. So she'll put out for sure. But I wouldn't be surprised if she starts faking after a while. If he doesn't care about faking or he can't detect faking, then it doesn't matter. A lot of men don't care. For whatever reason, I can't enjoy sex unless the woman also enjoys it, so faking ruins things for me. I'd rather masturbate.
Whether she fakes or he cheats, that's something exclusively between Marcos Z and his wife. It is ridiculously common in the Philippines (as it is in Latin America) for men to have one or two lovers on the side, and often women have affairs too. Just think of all the forcibly broken families of OFWs (Filipinos working abroad). Both parts have needs and will fulfil them picking again from the local stock. When in Davao I met the son of a petroleum engineer working in Dubai. His dad was very wealthy by Filipino standards and able to support both his family back in Davao, sending his 3 kids to Ateneo de Davao, and his new partner in Dubai. His wife put up with it because she understood his needs to sooth solitude and frustration, and because she knew he could still be a supportive dad to his family. I obviously didn't ask, but I wouldn't be surprised if she had an affair on the side too...so she couldn't complain too much.
I agree with you: I can't enjoy sex if there's an element of faking on either side. But that means that when that person who enjoys your presence, your intimacy and sex with you is found, you shouldn't be an idiot and let her go.