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dating sites is what you should use. Im socially awkward and dont even approach women in philippines who gave me hints of liking and some were cute. I think in the future though ill try to utilize day game more cause dating sites are a huge waste and most women have an agenda. It also helps if you try to enjoy the country like hammanta does where he just tries to sightsee etc. If you make it all about womne you will become like a sexpat in his hotel and thats not what you really want to wind up as cause then you get false expectations and make women your only focus. Philippines is kind of boring place to visit though and youll run out of money constantly eating out. maybe ill have to just visit other countries just for a change of pace.
Oh, yes, I agree about the sightseeing. In fact, during the day, that's what I did in the Philippines. I also went to Japan for 4 days of sightseeing and enjoyment that wasn't related to women.
the thing is though you only spent 8 days and you were constantly on the move. If your visiting countries and constantly on the move i think dating sites will help cause there might be a girl willing to meet you as a tourist guide friend to help show you around and who knows maybe more. Thats my plan next time is to visit a country other than philippines and maybe more than one and just utilize dating sites a bit to build connections. maybe also incorporate socialization and going to churches and things like that. Id like to go asia again but for other reasons besides just women. Im not sure how successful that strategy will be for me so im in no hurry to go to asia cause my money is precious and i can't afford to blow it on some dream.
MZ - I can understand your frustration and have felt it several times. Here we have discovered a place with some fine, sweet and sexy women, and find that those women are potentially available to us, even those of us who are not handsome, young, rich or famous. And what we want to do is tell our friends, tell our relatives, hell we want to tell complete strangers to check it out.
So what happens? People don't listen, they don't believe, they make up excuses about why you had success but they can't. And even if, like the OP, they decide to visit, their methodology is so flawed they are incapable of discovering what you discovered. Yes, it's frustrating - but it's inevitable. Most people, even most lonely Westerners will never visit a place like the Philippines, and those few who do will not all be able to see it as we do.
There's a reason that one of the oldest clichés is "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink." You will never be able to get the OP to drink the water. Fortunately a few will. An example:
I work in cubicle land. A week ago the guy in literally the cube next to me, who I don't know at all (other than his name) pops his head into my cube and says, "I've been reading your blog and really like it." I thank him profusely and then he continues, "I'm married to a Filipina - 13 years." We start talking about our experiences, how he met her, where she's from, etc. The experiences are similar.
There are plenty of us out there who have been able to drink the water, but millions who never will. You can lead people, offer advise and guidance, but ultimately it's up to them to drink.
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I actually went far away from the tourist sites. I went all over the 4 cities I visited.
I bet you had the time of your life. Tourist sites are awful. #ruleofthumb stop hanging out in capital cities; they have the most American influence. T3 and T4 cities/towns work well for me!!!!
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angeles and olangapo (I haven't been there but if i understand it) are extremely tourist oriented cities. So it doesn't matter if you go all over. Manila is a large metro area where the women are a bit more upscale. If you go to the slums or walk around in poorer parts im sure you would have done well though otherwise they are the most uptight of all the women in philippine. But also manila women have seen foreigners more often than other parts of philippines.
With that said though angeles the girls were always smily and cute and the women are very sociable. Perhaps that is the place to find a girlfriend as long as shes not a prostitute because they seem more opent o foreigners. Of all the cities i been to angeles women seem to be the most smiley and flirtateous and normal acting. The filipina women in other parts are more reserved and will take some initiation on your part. the thing that scares me about angeles though is if a girl starts dating you then once shes turned foreigner who knows if she will then start dating other foreigners or even work the bar. its a slipper slope thats why i never looked for a girlfriend there. unless she is a virgin you wont kn ow if she is even a previous freelancer or bargirl.
maybe the next time i stay in philippines ill fly out to other countries for a change of pace. In other words use it as a hub to get to other countries. Unless your a sexpat for months staying in philippines in the big city gets old real quick if your just staying in one city/hotel your whole stay for weeks and weeks especially if its away from beaches or forests. Thats why im thinking if i do go again ill just move around and hit up many locations . That was a mistake i made in the past is settling for one girl and one location. You get in a rut and its more like marriage than a vacation but its like a marriage with a girl who is not good enough to marry.
Pardon me for being rude here, but this made me laugh. Frankly, judging simply from your numerous posts here I get the impression there will be no girl in the entire world good enough for you.
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I want to re-iterate two parts of my earlier advice. First, that the OP should not go to foreign countries until he gets his psychological "issues" straightened out, because a new culture just complicates things too much. Second, that he take up partner dancing (salsa better for younger women, Argentine tango and ballroom better for middle-aged and above, though these are just guidelines).
Back when I was living in San Francisco (which is where I first tested what it felt like to put a dildo up my ass, since that was the first city I had lived in where dildos were widely available, previously I lived in the sexually conservative former slave states), I did a lot of salsa and tango dancing. I cannot tell you how many women actually start humping my leg during dancing. I still had to convert these prospects to actual girlfriends by talking to them, but they certainly made things easy. Now granted, I was younger then (late 30's versus mid-50's now) and clean-shaven versus close-cropped beard now, but I don't think I was that much better looking then. It is also true that I had dressier clothes than now and a big fancy apartment on Nob Hill, my own business which was doing very well, and other stuff that attracts women, but they didn't know this at the time they started humping my leg other than the clothes, and really I doubt it was the clothes, contrary to what some PUA twit might say. Bottom line, there is something about partner dancing that makes women quite sexually aggressive, if you are at all decent-looking and well-groomed, even in the United States. (Though maybe things have changed in the past 15 years so that partner dancing in San Francisco and other big cities is no longer like it used to be.) You still have to talk to them, but they will make it very, very easy. I don't have a huge notch count, mainly because once I find a decent sex partner I stick with her until she drives me off, but I could have a had a huge notch count if I were into that sort of thing, all from partner dancing.
I dont see how someone is gonna get their psychological effects fixed in america. Going to a psychologist or sitting at home in america aint gonna fix anything. Although i have to admit i been going to church etc and that is helping me but im still have those personality querks.
I didn't say stay at home or visit the shrink. I advised him to take up partner dancing. That might do wonders for him. He could also continue to post in this forum and get free advice, probably as good as from a shrink.
Like everyone else, I think the "bloating" is either purely in his head, or else it's real (visible to other people) but caused by what is going on in his head. (Diarrhea before final exams due to nervousness is real but caused by what is in the head, namely the nervousness.) If so, then he can just as well work on that issue at home as overseas.
I don't think the OP is retired or can work from anywhere. So necessarily any overseas trip is going to be for a limited time, and that puts a huge amount of pressure on him, which is not good given all his issues.
if you can't stay overseas for months your wasting your time anyways so he should just forget it. none of these girls want a long distance relationship. they will screw a filipino or look for a foreigner who will while your at home jerking off with your daily chats from 10,000 miles away. I dont care how nice a girl is she would be stupid to wait around for you as she is getting old and her clock is ticking.
Yes, I agree. I might have to chose yet another foreign country and try again. I might do Colombia in April for 1 week. It's relatively close to where I live, and the women are supposed to be hot. I'll have to do some research. We'll see.
> For example, I flew to the Philis in Business Class, and returned in First Class. I enjoyed some of the best food on earth during my vacation in the Philippines and Japan-- tons of premium sushi, Champagne & spirits, fine pastries, you name it.
Alcohol causes facial puffiness. Basically when you're dehydrated, your body tries to hold on to water. That's what generally causes bags under the eyes, etc. So the easiest thing to try would be to drink lots of water, and cut down on salt. Doctors don't know much about this kind of holistic stuff. They know how to diagnose, give medications, perform surgery, etc.
Here's a random article I pulled up on the subject:
Don’t you just hate to see a bloated face in the mirror when you wake up every morning?
For sure, you are curious about what went wrong with your face. More than just a problem of looks, facial bloating may be a sign of a serious health condition. If something goes wrong in your body, your face will show it.
Reason #1: Poor Diet
If you don’t eat a balanced diet, you get fewer nutrients than a healthy body needs. Lack of essential nutrients in the body can result in a bloated face. In particular, it’s a sign of vitamin C and beta-carotene deficiency. On the other hand, excessive intake of fat, carbohydrates, and salt can cause face puffiness.
Reason #2: Dehydration
Dehydration is one of the most common causes of facial bloating, as the body tends to retain as much water as it can if it is dehydrated. The face is one of the areas where excess water is stored. Unfortunately, not many people realize the benefits of drinking adequate water everyday. Not drinking enough water? Well, you should start guzzling more water now to reduce bloating on your face.
Reason #3: Alcohol Intake
It doesn’t matter what kind of alcoholic drink you consume. Whether it’s beer, wine, or brandy, consuming anything that contains alcohol makes your face puffy. It is because alcohol makes you dehydrated, meaning you get thirstier after you booze up. Your body responds to dehydration by storing as much water as possible in different areas, and your face is no exception. If you had a few drinks, chances are you will wake up with a bloated face the next day. So it’s a no-brainer — cut back on your alcohol intake to lose face fat.
Reason #4: Hypothyroidism
One of the symptoms of hypothyroidism, or lack of thyroid hormones in the body, is a puffy face. Usually, this condition results in rapid weight gain, which is why the face becomes bloated. Aside from facial bloating, other symptoms of hypothyroidism include constipation, tiredness, and dry skin.
Reason #5: Face Fat
Face fat is often a problem for people who aren’t even overweight. They collect the fat normally in their cheek area or chin area. This can be fought by following certain dietary guidelines as well as a certified facial exercise program. Face exercises can be instrumental in helping you get rid of that face fat.
Apart from the five causes of facial bloating discussed above, other factors can also lead to puffiness on the face. These factors include kidney disorders, sinus infections, allergic responses to medications or insect bites, mumps, dental infection, inflammation of the parotid glands, nephritic syndrome, edema, and many others.
http://www.enformy.com/blog/top-5-cause ... oating.php
I particularly agree with this part: "If something goes wrong in your body, your face will show it."
I used to have acne, but I cured it with lifestyle changes based on internet research. Nowadays if I start to get acne, I know it means I've been drinking too much, and my liver is getting taxed and it is having a hard time neutralizing toxins.
I also agree with what others have said, that appearance shouldn't be the main issue, based on others' success in the Philippines. But I wouldn't want to go out with, e.g., bags under my eyes, like I get when I drink a lot.
All I really want is to just confirm if I like sex or not. If I do, I'll take it from there. If not, I'll make peace with myself once-and-for-all and forget about it.