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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Yohan » Fri Dec 18, 2015 5:53 am

Winston wrote:China Trip 2 2015 - Part 2 Xiamen .....


Xiamen is a very interesting place, located just opposite of Taiwan.

Maybe better to travel to Xiamen than to Taipei?

There are daily direct flights between Tokyo and Xiamen (Amoy).

As Japanese need no visa for China, quite a lot of Japanese choose this trip to see for a few days an interesting part of history related to Japan, Taiwan and China.

There are no complaints about Xiamen as far as I can see here in Japan about pollution, bad accommodation, airport and transfers, rip offs, criminality etc. etc.

Nothing negative known to me. It seems the city is operating fairly well, not such a small place either, about 3.5 million people in Xiamen and around.

Well, Winston is back again and happy in USA. Welcome home, Sir!
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Winston » Sun Jan 03, 2016 4:40 pm

Happy New Year Everyone!

Just to let you all know, I'm not sure if I should rush back to China again, for several reasons.

1. Chinese women/girls and culture are too workaholic. They work too much and don't have much time for dates or going out. When they do have time though, they prefer to spend it with their other girlfriends or well established friends, not with some new guy like me. So this is an obstacle as well as a cultural difference for me. If you want to meet girls who have lots of time to hang out or date or be with you, SE Asia is better obviously. China feels kind of restrictive and limiting in this regard. Plus I do not agree with the workaholic "live to work" mentality.

2. Chinese girls are too picky. They are easy to talk to and befriend. But not easy to get serious with. They have a list of demands and criteria that only a stable, well-off, tall, thin guy can meet. Many of the "leftover Chinese women" who are closer to my age, are too picky and independent, so they put nothing into a relationship. Yet they want a guy who is tall, handsome and makes good money. I do see ugly guys with hot girls everywhere in China, so obviously a guy doesn't have to be handsome to have a beautiful girlfriend in China. However, he does have to be tall and thin at least, as well as stable. Although I am financially stable, I am not locationally stable and maybe not emotionally stable either. They want a guy who will settle down into a stable routine. They aren't the kind of girls who just wanna have fun. There are "party girls" in China of course, but they never enter my social circle, or they aren't interested in me. (Murphy's Law) Btw, I am not picky at all. I find 80 percent of the girls in Shenzhen to be attractive, so I am definitely not too picky, just perpetually unlucky in love.

3. I still have some Murphy's Law in China in that the girls I love and want dump me or aren't interested. And the one girl that loves me isn't one that I have any desire or feelings for. So the universe doesn't seem to allow me to have the Chinese girls I want, only the ones I don't want. Classic Murphy's Law. I get the feeling that if you want something badly, the universe will make it especially hard for you to get it. It's a basic principle of the universe, as well as Murphy's Law. This happens with most people, not just me. So the lesson is to "not give a shit" and things will come easier I guess. Or perhaps it's just not my destiny to have what I want in love. If you try to get something that's not your destiny, something will always go wrong, in my experience.

Some people just aren't meant to be in a stable relationship, and I may be one of those. Something always goes wrong, even if I find a soulmate I click with, such as Lisa or others I've had before her. Perhaps some people's souls need too much freedom and exploration, so they sabotage every relationship they are in, or the universe sabotages it for them to help them out by making every relationship go wrong, even if it's a soulmate relationship or compatible match. Or perhaps if you are cursed or have bad relationship karma, even if you find your soulmate, some demon will possess her and make her change her mind about you. That seemed to happen with both Summer and Lisa, my first two girlfriends in China. They did a sudden 180 when everything was going great and I did nothing wrong.

So as much as I love Chinese women and girls, and enjoy China and it's culture, I'm having second thoughts about it. So instead of rushing back to China after I return to Asia, my plans are:

1) To go to Philippines first and have some carefree fun again with girls and bars, which I didn't have in China. And to visit my son too of course.
2) Then to head over to Thailand to finally visit it and see what it's like. I've been meaning to go there for years. Many people, including Rock and Mr S, said that Thailand may be a good fit for me and that everything there is better quality than in the Philippines, and that the P4P experience is better there too. Rock will probably go with me there to show me around.

After that, I may go back to China again if I have some good prospects to visit from dating sites.

However, I've also been itching with a burning desire to return to Europe again, which I've been wanting to do since 2006. I miss how alive and energetic I felt when I was in Europe. I have a European soul and a very strong karmic connection with Europe. I feel like I have a long rich history there. (from past lives probably) So I want to go back there to explore that. Even if I can't get a girlfriend there, and only platonic coffee dates with girls, still I am in my element in Europe, because European environments and architecture provide energy I feed off of. You see, I feed off the energy in Europe like Superman feeds off the Sun. So when I am there, I feel like He-Man (when Prince Adam raises his sword and says "By the power of Greyskull" and turns into He-Man, if you remember from the 1980's cartoon show) because I feel alive and strong there since the environment there energizes and rejuvenates me. I miss that so much. I miss how alive and complete I felt when I was in Europe before. Every time I watch documentaries about European history, I feel a burning desire to return to that again and explore my "karmic past or roots" there.

In contrast, the environment in the USA and Taiwan feels soul sucking and draining. I definitely can't feed off the energy tere. Also, the vibe in the US is toxic and radioactive to me, like Kryptonite is to Superman. I don't like it at all. It makes me feel weak, insecure, and out of my element, like a fish out of water. I don't connect with the people, culture, environment or vibe of America or Taiwan at all. And that results in a lonely, isolated, disconnected, empty feeling of powerlessness. I certainly do not like feeling that way at all. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Furthermore, there seems to be this demonic Satanic energy in the US that tries to make you go crazy and suicidal, if you let it get to you that is. That's why even so many Hollywood stars and rock stars go crazy in America and commit suicide all of a sudden. Robert Stanley has done a lot of research on Archons or "mental parasites" that possess people, prey on their weaknesses, feed off them, and make them go crazy. You can listen to his interviews on YouTube about this by searching for "Robert Stanley Archons". He has found a lot of compelling evidence of this. So it would explain why I feel like something is trying to make me go crazy and lose it in America, if I let it take over. That's pretty scary, and is another reason to stay away from America.

Frankly, I don't see how other people can tolerate that feeling of social disconnectedness, loneliness, and toxic vibe in America. You get this constant feeling that "No one cares about you" in America, and that you aren't accepted or good enough. It's a terrible feeling. Why should anyone put up with it? And why do many people assume that you have to stay in America? Hardly anyone even mentions leaving it, including alternative people.

Anyhow, that's my plan for now. So I will try to work Europe into my plans somewhere, since I've been wanting badly to go back there again too. The world is just so big with so many places. It's a pity we can only go to one place at a time.
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Hero » Sun Jan 03, 2016 5:31 pm

Winston wrote:So I will try to work Europe into my plans somewhere, since I've been wanting badly to go back there again too.

I vote for the Ukraine. And post lots of candid photos of the girls there (not those glamour shots from the dating websites that have been airbrushed to the point where the girls' own mothers wouldn't recognize them. )
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Rock » Sun Jan 03, 2016 6:00 pm

Hey Winston, in late June or July, let's hit the far east of Russia and Siberia followed by eastern areas of Ukraine. Whatdya say?

In the meantime, I can show you around Central (Bangkok and Pattaya) Thailand too in late Jan or Feb too if you like.
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Winston » Mon Jan 04, 2016 2:26 am

Rock wrote:Hey Winston, in late June or July, let's hit the far east of Russia and Siberia followed by eastern areas of Ukraine. Whatdya say?

In the meantime, I can show you around Central (Bangkok and Pattaya) Thailand too in late Jan or Feb too if you like.


Yeah that sounds like a great plan and adventure. You can show me around thailand and i can translate for you in eastern europe!
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Ghost » Mon Jan 04, 2016 9:54 am

Since you've got the means to go where you want to, why not just go where you feel the strongest connection? I know you're keen on Europe. I'd go there too, but I don't think I'd fit there very well. I'm strongly thinking about going to Mexico next, for several reasons. After that, perhaps Asia again. When are you going to Thailand? I'll be in China for two or three more weeks. A short jaunt to Thailand might be possible for me.
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby xiongmao » Mon Jan 04, 2016 8:59 pm

To answer Winston:

1. People in Asia generally work long hours. Unless they're deadbeats. I found it hard to schedule dates in China and Thailand because of it, and also because Gz and Bkk were huge cities with a lot of traffic and people milling around to get through.

2. I didn't find that many Chinese girls picky, except those who liked rich guys and a few unstable princesses. The only thing they were quite picky about was age difference and I didn't make much progress with girls younger than the half-your-age-plus-7-rule.

3. If she's truly worth it, she won't be easy to attract. But I take comfort that of the two I could have married, both have now got married to other guys. So I was obviously on the right track. You just gotta keep plodding on...

I'm glad you're going to visit Thailand, I had a tremendous time when I lived there in 2013. On the downside dating wasn't that great. I found gems but the average quality of woman I met was far lower than it was in China. Still, quality of life is good with much better food quality and vastly less pollution.

And definitely visit Europe at some point. London is tremendous fun, and I'm actually doing quite well on Tinder. Where else in the world can you actually work with or date somebody from every single nationality? The rest of Europe is worth a look as well. Why not do some sort of course here, like I did with my CELTA last year?
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby pete98146 » Mon Jan 04, 2016 10:20 pm

Winston wrote:
Rock wrote:Hey Winston, in late June or July, let's hit the far east of Russia and Siberia followed by eastern areas of Ukraine. Whatdya say?

In the meantime, I can show you around Central (Bangkok and Pattaya) Thailand too in late Jan or Feb too if you like.


Yeah that sounds like a great plan and adventure. You can show me around thailand and i can translate for you in eastern europe!


My wife and I will be in Bangkok from Feb 5th to Feb 11th and then we go to Phuket for a week. I'll be on a tight schedule as we are flying my wife's mother and brother over from Philippines. But I'm sure I can find a night to meet up if you guys are interested. QatarDan who is a member of this site (not overly active) is in BKK as well and we plan on having dinner.

Would be a blast to see Winston and Rock...

Oh and Winston..why not check out Kazakhstan?
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Winston » Sun Aug 07, 2016 12:14 am

Hi all,
I've uploaded my China trip photos to Picasaweb now, so I can embed them below in this thread. I've been meaning to do this for a while now but there's so much to do online that I never seem to get caught up. So I'm going to focus now and get this task done. I also have photos from Philippines and Thailand to post too. Whew.

Ok first I'm going to show you the girls that I got serious and steady with or intimate with in China. There are three of them. The first girl, Summer, only lasted two days, but on each of those days we spent about 11 or 12 hours together. And on the second date, got intimate in the park with French kissing. Then before she came to my room, she did a 180 and started arguing about little things.

But those two days were amazing. I felt a lot of chemistry and attraction to her, and she had a sweet charming voice and personality that made me feel aroused. I felt happy and very attracted to her and wanted a relationship with her. You can see that below in my photos with her. The story about her can be read earlier in this thread by the way, on the second page. As you can in the photos below, people said we looked compatible and a good match in looks too. She definitely wasn't out of my league.

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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Reports

Postby Winston » Sun Aug 07, 2016 12:46 am

Ok now this is Lisa from Dongguan, whom I had a soulmate connection with. Here is when I first met her at McDonald's when I was walking around with Zboy1 in his town. Late at night we went to McDonald's for a snack. We sat next to Lisa. I was wondering if I should talk to her. Then when she heard us talking English, she joined in the conversation and said hello. We were talking about how Chinese girls like looks and money. Zboy1 asked her if Winston could get a girlfriend in China and Lisa said "sure why not?" Then we exchanged contact info. I took this photo of Lisa there.

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It turned out that Lisa liked me and found me fascinating and refreshing, because I am so different than the typical Chinese guy who is narrow, rigid and practical. I'm so open minded, genuine and broad minded compared to them, with a lot of insight and knowledge other people don't have. So Lisa took a fancy to me and we met later for dinner. We seemed to have a deep connection and good chemistry.

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A few days later she took me to a coffee and tea shop where we talked for several hours. She was able to hold a deep conversation too. Finally I felt like I was dating a soulmate type (something I don't get in the Philippines). :)

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Here she took me to a vegetarian canteen.

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When I left Dongguan to go to Zhuhai, so I could go to Macau and fly back to Taiwan, Lisa accompanied me on the bus to escort me there. We also planned to have intimacy in Zhuhai as our goodbye sendoff, which we later did, and it was amazing and passionate. :) I promised to come back soon after that. Here we are on the bus cuddling. She treated me like a real boyfriend and romantic partner now. We felt like a couple now. I was elated. Finally I had a real girlfriend in China! And she was smart and clever too, so it was nice having a smart girlfriend for once (which I wasn't used to in the Philippines of course). It was a dream come true!

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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Photos

Postby Winston » Sun Aug 07, 2016 1:25 am

A few months later, in late July of 2015, I went back to China again to be with Lisa. Since the last time I saw her, we had many deep conversations online via WhatsApp and WeChat. So we had a soulmate connection for sure, the kind you see in the movie "Before Sunrise", which I mentioned about in another thread. (viewtopic.php?f=3&t=28892) Here are photos of us below when we were reunited again in Shenzhen. It was a fairy tale dream come true. :)

Here we are making photos together after buying a selfie stick.

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As you can see below in playfulness, she seemed happy and liked me too, which other girls said too upon seeing this photo.

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As you can see below, Lisa is frugal and doesn't mind eating cheap noodles at 7-11, which is cool because it means she isn't too materialistic and fits me.

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Us on a romantic boat ride at a lake in a park in Shenzhen.

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Wow don't we look cute together? :)

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Lisa blowing me a secret kiss. :) Ahhh so feminine and sneaky. lol

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Lisa mimicking putting a gun to my head, showing her love/hate nature. lol

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Can't you tell she loves me? lol. Her body language shows it.

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Together we look to be signifying that "the skies the limit" below, as if that's how our relationship was. :). Ahhh I was happier abroad at last (while it lasted).

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Don't we look so romantic together? :)

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As you can see, everything was perfect. I was on Cloud 9. Nothing could have went wrong, from that vantage point. Can you see what I mean?

Btw, at night during that time, we also made passionate love together with a lot of intensity, just like you see in the movies. After that, we took a shower together. It was so romantic. My ideal life. :)
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Photos

Postby starchild5 » Sun Aug 07, 2016 1:55 am

I think Chinese women like Indians too...I got lot of eye contact with Chinese girls in hong kong when I was going to Macau....and one women from mainland china, kept starring at me for like one hour ..No kidding..Yes like one hour, I was amazed....I think people from interior of china have not seen many brown men :) :)

I lost confidence in approaching women, when I started doing in India. Women are incredibly rude and the problem is they never forget you approached them and are always angry for some reason. I have approached lots of girls in India and NOT even a single girl responded. I only got my confidence back when I went to Philippines.

Indian women are the worst thing that can happen to an Indian men. :)
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Photos

Postby Winston » Sun Aug 07, 2016 2:12 am

From the photos above, can't you tell I look more happy and vibrant when I'm with a girl I like or love? lol

Anyway, here is an interesting example of Murphy's Law below. At a mall food court in Shenzhen, when I sat down while Lisa went to buy food, these two girls asked if they could sit next to us. When they noticed I looked distracted and in love, they started asking me questions to get to know more about me. lol. Notice that the girl in brown is super hot. Wow. She turned out to be a Pisces too, same sign as me. The thing is, when I'm alone, this never happens. Hot girls don't pay attention to me or talk to me. But when I'm with a girl, it seems it raises my social value, so girls are more friendly and open to me. Plus when I look like I'm in love, it creates a radiant glow that attracts them too. lol. But that won't happen if I'm alone and looking. Murphy's Law. lol. Anyway, when Lisa came back, the four of us talked. I couldn't think of an excuse to ask their number or WeChat, so I told them about Ethan_sg and that he was single and that I would pass their contact over to him. lol

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Isn't the girl in brown so gorgeous? Dang. She's a Pisces and Buddhist too, so she may have been a good match for me.

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Later on, the four of us met with Ethan_sg. We took some photos but the thing is, Ethan_sg doesn't want his photos posted online. So I can't show them. Otherwise I'd love to.
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Re: Winston is in China now! Updates and Photos

Postby Winston » Sun Aug 07, 2016 2:57 am

More romantic photos of me and Lisa in Shenzhen. Don't we look happily in love? lol

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Here we are at Splendid China, a theme park in Shenzhen showcasing the 56 subcultures of China, featuring museums, exhibits, performances, food and souvenirs (of course lol).

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Here we are in Communist Chinese army uniforms. Don't I look great in it? lol

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Romantic Valentine's style photo. lol

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Postby Mr S » Sun Aug 07, 2016 10:22 am

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