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Ladislav's inspiring 1st trip to Philippines story

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Ladislav's inspiring 1st trip to Philippines story

Postby Winston » Fri Aug 21, 2009 7:47 pm

Here is Ladislav's trip report of his first trip to the Philippines, which inspired me to go there. It was posted on the AWS forum long ago. Read it if you haven't yet. You can feel his words in it.

http://www.happierabroad.com/Love_Adven ... ppines.htm

"They all want to meet you"

Hi guys, I am of foreign descent and I lived in the US from 1978 until 1990 and left the US after that. I still go back on business and also to visit my parents but most of my life is now abroad.

I am a US citizen now and I have created a bit of a lifestyle for myself that is even better than what I had.

The reason I am interested in Asian women is, paradoxically, because of my school days in a foreign country where I lived from age 4-15. There I discovered that I had a thing for Oriental looking girls.

In 1989 I dated this Filipina-American girl who was a knock out but a terrible person and she treated me like dirt. But I still got more and more hooked on the SE Asian look. She eventually dumped me and it was then that I thought that maybe the problem was not me after all. So, I got a job in Japan and left.

Japan is better than the US when it comes to dating, that's for sure and it is easier to get a girlfriend there. But there are problems. For one, most Japanese do not want to seriously get involved with a foreigner. There are some girls that will. And since there are 120,000,000 people there, you *will* find a girlfriend. I scored one girl per year. Not bad but still better than the US. Once I saved money I went to Thailand. Thailand is not a bad place but most girls that like white men are hookers. There are still many normal girls that will marry you but there is still a bit of a cultural/racial problem- they do not want to be seen with you in public, keep looking around as to what the others will say, in short, while it was still OK, it was not the best.

In 1991 I finally went to the Philippines to check it out. This was the place where I had a blast. I mean a real blast. The time I spent there was my great redemption. The absolute total repayment of damages that loneliness and mistreatment by women in the US caused me.

I arrived there a bit jittery- you always hear about how dangerous the Philippines was. A Navy guy recommended that I go to Cebu which was supposed to be a very safe place. So go I did.

After I arrived at the hotel where I was to stay, immediately I met a girl, a floor manager and she seemed to be interested in me. We talked and I plucked up my courage and asked her on a date- Guess what the answer was? "Yes!!! When can we go?"Wow! Just like that! I was not used to it. None of this- "I am busy, I have an appointment/headache" stuff you hear in the US.

I went out with her and we went to the movies , then, a few days later, the beach and then we started swimming under the full moon and kissing- that was a total blast- just like a dream...

Then, the next day I left early to avoid her as I really did not want to get hooked on the first girl I met and just stepped out of the hotel and started walking. The streets were full of young college girls- all in really cute uniforms and every girl was cuter than the next. Some were looking at me. Then one girl blew me a kiss. I heard "Wow! Handsome" coming from some...Incredible!

I was shocked! This was unreal. I was even embarrased. I got into a jeepney- it is a vehicle that the Filipinos use for transporation: It looks like this:

http://images.google.com.ph/images?hl=e ... q=&start=0

And as I sat down, one young guy told me: "Hey, you are new here, watch out! ". I asked him why I should watch out. He said: "Because we are gonna marry you to a Filipina." I grunted something and off we went. I went to the beach and then on the way back, these college girls just flooded into the jeepney. One really cute creature just like one of those dream Hawaiian girls from the movie Blue Hawaii just plopped right next to me smiling. The driver said: "You like her? Ask her out!" I was blushing. But since this was not the US, I plucked up my courage and said Do you want to go to the movies? The answer was a nod and a smile. We went to the movies . It is always " Yes" with those girls. Later after the movies, she took me to her house and introduced me to her family.

This was just the beginning. Later I got on another jeepney and it was full of girls, too. One girl stared at me and asked me: "You got a wife?" I said "No". She pointed at her friends: "Well, choose one!" And they all roared with laughter.

The thing was the girls were all so cute and fresh-looking and appearing very happy. They were friendly. Modest, coquettish, feminine yet aggressive. Real girls.

The floor manager at the hotel met me again and we went out again but I told her " Baby, baby don't get hooked on me..." and just asked that we'd be just friends. Then the second girl called me and said these words:

"Hello, my name is Inday, we met in the jeepney. I told all the girls in college about you and they all want to meet you."

Yup! They ALL want to meet me.

I went to a department store and again it was chuck full of little miss Universes- sales girls. I approached a counter and they crowded me.
" You are so cute. Your face is so cute". Then on another occasion I was paying for some stuff that I bought and the cashiers started whispering something. I though something was wrong. The answer was: "Very handsome"." Who, me?" "Yes, you". "What is so handsome about me?" "I don't know, maybe it is your tantalizing eyes". And they started laughing.

I could go on and on and on. I would sit down and relax and girls would pass by and whisper to each other pointing me out. The word I learned was "gwapo"- handsome. Once I was just crossing the road. Four young ladies linked their hands and would not let me through. Sales girls from stalls would call out- "Hello, Darling!"

After a few days, I noticed something different about me when I looked in the mirror. My eyes were no longer sad as they used to be. I was smiling for real. Because this was the way a man should be treated. Appreciated. Desired. Women should seek him out and not the other way around. Rejections and maltreatment by women in the US or anywhere else where cruel women live harm the man from within. Rob him of his dignity. Slowly eat away at his self-respect and the sense of self-worth. Make him ill on his inside. He may not show it but permanent scars would form on his inside. My time in the Philippines was like some magic ointmet for those scars. They were finally gone!

A place like that was not planet Earth the way I knew it. At least it should not be planet Earth. It was a Shangri-lah.

At night, my nightlife would start. I would go to bars and karaoke establishments and there would be girls everywhere and not many guys. The girls would crowd me. They were so gorgeous I was out of breath.

In the US, if you go to a night club, you always see more guys than girls and the guys look glum and pissed off. The girls look like they are princesses even if butt ugly. Here it was different. The guys looked friendly and non-threatening. Most were just relaxing. No competition. Enough girls for everyone to go around.

Eventually, I took three girls who were working in the karaoke and we went to a resort where we rented a hut on the beach under palm trees. If there is a heavenly situation that one can imagine, it would probably be falling alseep in a bamboo house while listening to the surf and the wind rustling in the palm trees while being hugged by three angelic young ladies from the South Seas...

That's living!. No amount of job satisfaction or professional achievement cannot bring you close to the sense of fullfilment that such experiences can bring.

In 1998 I took $14,000 I saved up and went to the Philippines just to live. It lasted me six months. You can rent a hotel there for $200 a month. I had even more hell of a time. I was 38 now but nothing changed. The girls were still looking at me everywhere I went. I dated and dated. It just dont stop....

Anyway, I have a girlfriend in the Philippines now. I have been going to the PI for 13 years. My work is now in the Middle East so saving money is no problem.

I invite all guys who are fed up with being lonely to experience what I have experienced. The Philippines is 5-6 times cheaper than the US. It is easy to get there and tickets are cheap. It will make all those wounds heal like magic.

And if you are not handsome in the US, by being a Westerner you are automatically handsome in the Philippines. And if you are in your 40ies, 50ies and 60ies, no problem again. You can get a girl in her 20ies-30ies. And a guy in his 30ies can find an 18 year old just like that! If you do not look like the Hunchback of Notredame or the Elephant Man, you should be good to go...

And if the society in the US says that the problem is *you*, then try changing societies. You may be in for a big surprise.

As that Inday girl said:" They ALL want to meet you!"
Last edited by Winston on Sat Aug 22, 2009 3:04 am, edited 1 time in total.
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Postby jamesbond » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:16 pm

I read that earlier somewhere on Winstons website and was blown away! Holy dog shit, what a difference location makes! :shock: Who in God's name would want to go back to American women after they have been with Philippino girls? You want to talk about culture shock! Holy horse crap, Philippino girls are the way to go! :D
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Postby YoucancallmeAl » Tue Nov 16, 2010 4:00 am

"In 1998 I took $14,000 I saved up and went to the Philippines just to live. It lasted me six months. You can rent a hotel there for $200 a month."

Hmm, I was planning on going in 2011 with $10,000 and trying to make it last at least 8 months.
Here's my reasoning: I can get by in the US living frugally on $1200/month. If Philippines is only 1/2 as expensive as US, that same $1200 would allow me to live pretty well and have enough to buy drinks/meals for my various lady companions. But if Ladislav was spending $2300+ in PH in 1998 dollars, I have to worry that I may be under-budgeting.
I checked craigslist and found several one-bedroom apartments renting for around $220/month that would cost at least $550 in the US. So I'm trying to figure out how someone could blow through $2300 per month in the PH if they're being careful. Where was all your money going? Were you gambling it away at casinos?
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Postby ladislav » Tue Nov 16, 2010 4:48 am

No, guys, at that time I also had to be paying some bills of $300+ a month. And I was living at a hotel (!) and traveling all around - taking airplanes, staying at other hotels while maintaining the residence at the main hotel and inviting girls, their friends and families out. Add to that the costs of the ticket there and back to the US. So, I lived it up a bit. If you budget, yes, it can last you much longer.

But I am not very frugal. I believe in what Jesus once said in John 10:10 I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly.
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Postby globetrotter » Wed Nov 17, 2010 10:01 am

It is easy to live on a few hundred a month and stretch $14k for a few YEARS.
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Postby Winston » Wed Nov 17, 2010 11:27 am

I'm very frugal in the PH, yet eat out a lot. I manage on $400 a month in the PH. As long as you're not a spendthrift and give in to every leech that wants your money, you can live on that.
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Postby ladislav » Wed Nov 17, 2010 8:42 pm

It is possible to live on small money like this in the Philippines but I am 50 years old now and I want to have a bit of comfort in my life. It is OK to live frugal like this when you are young, but I would really like to live a good life in the Philippines. That is why I work hard in the Middle East to make good money and live well when I go to RP.
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Postby Winston » Wed Nov 17, 2010 11:22 pm

ladislav wrote:It is possible to live on small money like this in the Philippines but I am 50 years old now and I want to have a bit of comfort in my life. It is OK to live frugal like this when you are young, but I would really like to live a good life in the Philippines. That is why I work hard in the Middle East to make good money and live well when I go to RP.


Can't you have a good life without giving away 200 dollars a month to every girl you like in the Philippines? If you didn't do that, you could work less and live a better life. When will you stop such self-inflicted masochism? lol
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Postby zzzz » Wed Nov 17, 2010 11:28 pm

Winston wrote:I'm very frugal in the PH, yet eat out a lot. I manage on $400 a month in the PH. As long as you're not a spendthrift and give in to every leech that wants your money, you can live on that.


Could you give a detailed monthly budget what you spend on? Just curious.
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