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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby Winston » Sat Dec 05, 2015 9:11 am

Hi all,
Im back in the "land of the free" now in las vegas visiting family, getting my drivers license renewed, and taking a break from traveling. Lol.

The las vegas international customs were slow and anal. They send all asians to this long slow line and ask them tons of questions and check their luggage. They sent me to the inspection line too because i spent so much time abroad. It was the slowest customs line i ever seen. The los angeles one was much faster.

They kept asking all the chinese people over and over again if they are carrying over 10,000 usd. Who the heck carries that much cash and why do they suspect chinese of carrying that much? Weird. Felt like nazi germany. The aggressive voices of the customs agents are so different from the polite soft voices of the ones in china.

Dont you guys love that vibe that US law enforcement gives off? Its so toxic and pompous. They act like theyre ready and itching for a fight and hoping you will start one. You know what i mean? Very negative energy. Doesnt that vibe with you guys? Lol jk.

They probably thrive on confrontation. Thats why they have toxic personalities. However i find that only male US customs officials act like pricks. The female ones arent into probing on behalf of government as much and are more respectful. So if you can, get checked by a female one. I fortunately got checked by an american female customs agent, who was nicer and more smiley to me than the male ones there.

Btw i flew on korean airlines from hong kong to las vegas with a connecting flight in seoul, korea. Damn the korean stewardesses were so perfect looking, like white porcelain dolls with perfect skin. Wow. Damn.

I sent this message to zboy1:

"Korean girls look so hot and perfect with white porcelain doll skin. Why didnt you try to find your soulmate in korea?

Also, can you compare and contrast korean women and girls with chinese women and girls? How are they different and the same?

At first glance, they look similar to japanese girls and women. Similar look, body language, and mouse like squeaky voice. Lol. Am i right? Lol."
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby MattHanson1990 » Sun Dec 06, 2015 4:34 am

Winston wrote:Hi all,
Im back in the "land of the free" now in las vegas visiting family, getting my drivers license renewed, and taking a break from traveling. Lol.

The las vegas international customs were slow and anal. They send all asians to this long slow line and ask them tons of questions and check their luggage. They sent me to the inspection line too because i spent so much time abroad. It was the slowest customs line i ever seen. The los angeles one was much faster.

They kept asking all the chinese people over and over again if they are carrying over 10,000 usd. Who the heck carries that much cash and why do they suspect chinese of carrying that much? Weird. Felt like nazi germany. The aggressive voices of the customs agents are so different from the polite soft voices of the ones in china.

Dont you guys love that vibe that US law enforcement gives off? Its so toxic and pompous. They act like theyre ready and itching for a fight and hoping you will start one. You know what i mean? Very negative energy. Doesnt that vibe with you guys? Lol jk.

They probably thrive on confrontation. Thats why they have toxic personalities. However i find that only male US customs officials act like pricks. The female ones arent into probing on behalf of government as much and are more respectful. So if you can, get checked by a female one. I fortunately got checked by an american female customs agent, who was nicer and more smiley to me than the male ones there.

Btw i flew on korean airlines from hong kong to las vegas with a connecting flight in seoul, korea. Damn the korean stewardesses were so perfect looking, like white porcelain dolls with perfect skin. Wow. Damn.

I sent this message to zboy1:

"Korean girls look so hot and perfect with white porcelain doll skin. Why didnt you try to find your soulmate in korea?

Also, can you compare and contrast korean women and girls with chinese women and girls? How are they different and the same?

At first glance, they look similar to japanese girls and women. Similar look, body language, and mouse like squeaky voice. Lol. Am i right? Lol."


For the most part, I had no problems going through customs in El Paso whenever I came back from Mexico. Only twice I went through secondary inspection. Most of the time the immigration officer would ask me a couple questions, mainly being about what I was doing in Ciudad Juarez or if I brought anything illegal with me. Sometimes the officer would just let me go after he looks at my passport. I also went through secondary inspection twice last year at the border patrol checkpoint 15 miles north of Las Cruces on my way back to Albuquerque from El Paso. And this past summer as I was headed up to Albuquerque from Ciudad Juarez for the 4th of July weekend, all of us had to deboard the Greyhound bus to allow the border patrol agents to search the bus.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby jamesbond » Sun Dec 06, 2015 11:36 am

For Winston, being back in America must be like a dream or a nightmare! :lol:

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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby Winston » Sat Dec 12, 2015 6:32 am

Since I've been back in the US, I've been in reverse culture shock. Wow. It is amazing to see so many consumer choices and food choices again. You definitely won't find pizza or Mexican food in Asia as good as they are in America. So the consumer choices and variety here is amazing and top notch and surreal, compared to Asia that is.

However, in spite of all that, there's also this pervading sense of emptiness and meaningless here. I don't know why. Perhaps it's because America and its culture is soulless and in reality just a corporation and not a true country, which I learned about when I heard that America was incorporated as a giant corporation in the 1870's. I guess that makes sense, since everything in America feels like one big mega corporation without soul or heart or meaning. The whole "country" of the USA definitely feels like a giant corporation. In addition, there's no social connection or heart and soul either, which is scary because it's like a dead world and giant machine with no life. People seem like soulless zombies who just consume endlessly as if that's all there is to life. They are like smiling depressives with fake smiles. Also, people seem super paranoid and infested with Satanic liberal beliefs, which makes them seem twisted and subverted. It all definitely feels soulless, empty and meaningless. You know what I mean?

But what I don't get is, how come most people don't complain about America feeling empty, meaningless and soulless? Even most Chinese people in America don't complain about that. How come it's just me and my friends on HA that are complaining about it? Is it because we are more sensitive and perceptive than others? Or do others feel it too but they don't know how to describe it or express it because they are programmed not to? Perhaps the programming of corporate America failed on us and so we are just "unsuccessfully conditioned" for some reason?
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby josephty1 » Sat Dec 12, 2015 7:49 am

I know some Vietnamese Americans males, Filipino Americans males my age complaining about it - in their faces. Since many young people here are cocky, spoiled (compared to the average person in SEA), form cliques, and its even worse in diverse schools. Many SEA-Americans (particularly females) are doing absolutely fine though. I live in Seattle, a really antisocial place, even worse since I'm aspergers (only real in antisocial America, explains the rise of people with aspergers and why it is a made up condition). I can't seem to relate to the young Asian Americans in high school or college - probably because I'm not into league of legends, cross country, anime, or korean dramas.

You said you used to live in Bellingham, pretty much just as messed up as Seattle - due to the presence of Microsoft and Boeing and other economic-boosting companies. It could even be the climate. Many Asian Americans are doing fine - they have their cliques so they don't care.

Their parents, grandparents that immigrated here don't complain about America - in Seattle at least. They care more about the economic needs. Since immigrants parents came from really poor countries the parents compare my situation with when they were young - they don't understand the differences between growing up in Vietnam and growing up here.

In one post from your forum mentioned something about old souls. That idea was intriguing, as the younger souls don't have the past lives living in countries with more soul (like SEA or East Europe). So the immigrant Asian FOB adults - since they have their cliques here, they don't care/understand what we HA unusual people experience/feel in America? Maybe the types that actually immigrate are different from everyone else in SEA, like a different vibe/wavelength? Even the American-born Asian Americans - maybe they were white people in the past (not the down-to-earth ones in 1800s) or something? May explain why many of them don't act at all like the Asians back in Asia.

I mean the law of attraction applies to reincarnation so it would make sense if these "unaffected people" had past lives as rich people or in Atlantis before it collapsed. I mean the average working class-middle class person in America has as good as a rich person in third-world SEA or Africa economically speaking. But how did "we" get stuck here? If I had to pick my next reincarnation life, I'd be born in SEA in family not immigrating to USA.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby Winston » Fri Dec 25, 2015 7:37 am

Have you guys noticed that if you spend too much time outside the USA, you feel totally alienated and out of place when you come back? Its like you are on a totally different wavelength and vibe and dimension from everyone around you. You feel even more disconnected from everyone than you did before. You also feel like youve evolved beyond everyone else still in America too. Any of you notice that?

Also, do any of you ever walk around America wondering "how the f**k are you supposed to have a normal social life or social connection here? Everyone is so damn stuck up, closed and antisocial. Even most of my cousins are." Ive been asking and wondering about that ever since the 1980s. Never figured it out and still havent figured it out. So sad huh?
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby Winston » Fri Dec 25, 2015 9:40 am

Also i dont understand the logic and basis of the self-help/self-improvement industry in America. I mean, if im kind, caring, honest and a good guy, and i have good communication skills and am friendly and sociable, then WHY THE HELL do i need to change myself or improve myself in order to have a good social or dating life?!?! Whats the logic of that? How am I at fault or deficient that i need "self-improvement"? Sounds like a con and scam to blame victims rather than a toxic, unnatural, dysfunctional, disconnected society.

Also, how come i dont need self-improvement or confidence to have a normal social and dating life in Russia, Europe or China? The self improvement gurus such as Dr. Wayne Dyer or Tony Robbins NEVER have an answer for that. Neither do mainstream Americans.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby momopi » Wed Dec 30, 2015 6:34 pm

Winston wrote:But what I don't get is, how come most people don't complain about America feeling empty, meaningless and soulless? Even most Chinese people in America don't complain about that. How come it's just me and my friends on HA that are complaining about it? Is it because we are more sensitive and perceptive than others? Or do others feel it too but they don't know how to describe it or express it because they are programmed not to? Perhaps the programming of corporate America failed on us and so we are just "unsuccessfully conditioned" for some reason?


Two builders are tasked to build a house. The first builder wanted to spend significant portion of the budget on a grand facade that will leave a lasting impression to all who see it. The second builder says to the first, a house may have a rich facade, but it's the empty space within that serves its purpose and gives meaning. Look at this jar, says the second builder, no matter how richly it's decorated, only the empty space within can be used to fill water. The first builder does not understand the second builder's path, and the second builder does not understand the first builder's passion because while knowledge and opinions can be taught, understanding cannot.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby jamesbond » Sat Feb 06, 2016 11:40 am

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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby Winston » Sat Feb 06, 2016 3:56 pm

Besides the horrible dating scene and lack of morals and jobs in America, the core problems I have with America are:

1. No human/social connection at all. Very lonely and disconnected social environment. People prefer to be paranoid rather than connect with others. Everyone wants to be left alone and are averse to social interaction. Very difficult to make friends. Worst environment to try to do so. Thus it's very lonely and isolating, which leads to feelings of depression and emptiness. Your true friends are your true riches, but America doesn't value that. Instead, everyone is stuck up, paranoid and only cares about their privacy, with no inclination to connect with others at all. Everything feels so meaningless and pointless in America. There's nothing to do but indulge in empty consumerism.

2. No soul. Very soulless. People seem hollow, fake and artificial. When you talk to people you feel like you are talking to soulless people. Emotions are also fake, not genuine. But in most other countries, when you talk to people you feel like you are talking to real souls with real emotions at least. Even in countries with a bad reputation, at least the people seem a lot more REAL than in America, and nowhere near as fake. America represses people's souls and their emotions to make them controllable, robotic and zombie-like. Having a genuine soul makes you feel out of place in America, because you feel like you are supposed to be "soulless and degenerate", otherwise you are abnormal. It's a very upside down and bizarro culture.

There seems to be some black hole vortex in America that tries to suck out your soul and emotions. Also there's some demonic influence that tries to make you go crazy, insane and even suicidal, as though going psycho in America were a "normal thing". Even celebrities, movie stars and rock stars in America have a high frequency of committing suicide or overdosing on drugs, as we all know. It's a very toxic culture without a doubt.

3. No authenticity. The people and culture are very fake and phoney. So if you are authentic and down to earth, you feel out of place. To fit into a fake culture, you gotta be fake, otherwise you don't fit in. Plain and simple. People in America are the least down to earth in the world, especially the young women. The norm in America is to be a poser, be arrogant, and full of it. You gotta BS a lot, otherwise you aren't seen as "cool" or "confident". You can't just simply be yourself and be down to earth to make friends and be liked in America. No way. However, once you go abroad to almost any other country, you immediately notice after getting off the plane that people overseas are much more humble, genuine and down to earth in comparison to Americans. It's a refreshing difference, and one that makes you feel a lot more comfortable to be yourself.

4. No feeling of freedom. Too many laws and uptight rules, especially in social culture and dating. Makes you feel repressed and unfree. You don't feel free to be yourself. You can't flirt with women or talk to strangers freely and naturally. Also, too many uptight laws in the US that many other countries don't have, such as no outside food allowed in cinemas, no walking on street with beer, no breastfeeding in public, no selling on public streets without a license, etc. Ironically, the "land of the free" is actually among the most UNfree countries in the world.

There's no freedom to be honest either, as everything you say has to be politically correct. There is also a social rule that forces you to "pretend" to be positive all the time and always say that you're "doing great" no matter how untrue it is. You gotta pretend all the time. It's psychological tyranny. The US government and media seem obsessed with putting you in a state of FEAR and PARANOIA, obviously so that you will accept bigger government with its ever increasing control and security measures. It's all very insane, unnatural and unhealthy.

So basically, America has no human connection, no soul, no authenticity, and no freedom. All the above make America a VERY lonely, depressing, miserable, empty and meaningless place devoid of life, love, friendship, soul, freedom and authenticity.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby MattHanson1990 » Thu Feb 11, 2016 7:47 pm

Winston wrote:Besides the horrible dating scene and lack of morals and jobs in America, the core problems I have with America are:

1. No human/social connection at all. Very lonely and disconnected social environment. People prefer to be paranoid rather than connect with others. Everyone wants to be left alone and are averse to social interaction. Very difficult to make friends. Worst environment to try to do so. Thus it's very lonely and isolating, which leads to feelings of depression and emptiness. Your true friends are your true riches, but America doesn't value that. Instead, everyone is stuck up, paranoid and only cares about their privacy, with no inclination to connect with others at all. Everything feels so meaningless and pointless in America. There's nothing to do but indulge in empty consumerism.

2. No soul. Very soulless. People seem hollow, fake and artificial. When you talk to people you feel like you are talking to soulless people. Emotions are also fake, not genuine. But in most other countries, when you talk to people you feel like you are talking to real souls with real emotions at least. Even in countries with a bad reputation, at least the people seem a lot more REAL than in America, and nowhere near as fake. America represses people's souls and their emotions to make them controllable, robotic and zombie-like. Having a genuine soul makes you feel out of place in America, because you feel like you are supposed to be "soulless and degenerate", otherwise you are abnormal. It's a very upside down and bizarro culture.

There seems to be some black hole vortex in America that tries to suck out your soul and emotions. Also there's some demonic influence that tries to make you go crazy, insane and even suicidal, as though going psycho in America were a "normal thing". Even celebrities, movie stars and rock stars in America have a high frequency of committing suicide or overdosing on drugs, as we all know. It's a very toxic culture without a doubt.

3. No authenticity. The people and culture are very fake and phoney. So if you are authentic and down to earth, you feel out of place. To fit into a fake culture, you gotta be fake, otherwise you don't fit in. Plain and simple. People in America are the least down to earth in the world, especially the young women. The norm in America is to be a poser, be arrogant, and full of it. You gotta BS a lot, otherwise you aren't seen as "cool" or "confident". You can't just simply be yourself and be down to earth to make friends and be liked in America. No way. However, once you go abroad to almost any other country, you immediately notice after getting off the plane that people overseas are much more humble, genuine and down to earth in comparison to Americans. It's a refreshing difference, and one that makes you feel a lot more comfortable to be yourself.

4. No feeling of freedom. Too many laws and uptight rules, especially in social culture and dating. Makes you feel repressed and unfree. You don't feel free to be yourself. You can't flirt with women or talk to strangers freely and naturally. Also, too many uptight laws in the US that many other countries don't have, such as no outside food allowed in cinemas, no walking on street with beer, no breastfeeding in public, no selling on public streets without a license, etc. Ironically, the "land of the free" is actually among the most UNfree countries in the world.

There's no freedom to be honest either, as everything you say has to be politically correct. There is also a social rule that forces you to "pretend" to be positive all the time and always say that you're "doing great" no matter how untrue it is. You gotta pretend all the time. It's psychological tyranny. The US government and media seem obsessed with putting you in a state of FEAR and PARANOIA, obviously so that you will accept bigger government with its ever increasing control and security measures. It's all very insane, unnatural and unhealthy.

So basically, America has no human connection, no soul, no authenticity, and no freedom. All the above make America a VERY lonely, depressing, miserable, empty and meaningless place devoid of life, love, friendship, soul, freedom and authenticity.


It's almost impossible to make friends especially if you live in the suburbs. And small towns are even worse because you get absolutely no chance to make friends if you didn't establish your social clique early on. Neighbors will wave and smile just for the sake of being polite. But they won't make effort to submit a friendship with you. And things have gotten so bad that even in churches, you'll still sense the ice barriers.

Like others on this forum, my core problems about America besides the dating scene are problems 1 through 4. But I have another big problem (not necessarily a core one) with America, which is being forced to drive. It contributes to the 4 core problems if you look at the big picture. For one thing, you close into your shell when you drive, so there's less opportunity for social interaction. Then it contributes to the 2nd and 3rd core problems. Every time I'm forced to drive, it makes me feel like I've been turned into a repressed zombie or a robot. And last but not least, being forced to drive gives you less freedom, firstly because you have much fewer options for doing basic stuff. Secondly, it costs a lot of money to drive, which adds to the insane cost of living in the US.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby Ghost » Thu Feb 11, 2016 8:09 pm

And driving contributes to consumerism too. With the void in their lives because of their disconnectedness, people will consume because they are lonely. So many problems in America can be connected to car culture. Only in America does anyone believe that being forced to drive is freedom.
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Re: Winston is back in America - Observations and Updates

Postby jamesbond » Fri Feb 12, 2016 9:50 pm

MattHanson1990 wrote:It's almost impossible to make friends especially if you live in the suburbs.


Your right, living in the suburbs is death to your social life. Just about everybody who lives in the suburbs is married. Also, in the suburbs everyone hides in their houses.

Another thing it, there is NOTHING to do in the suburbs except go shopping. Living in the suburbs is about as exciting as watching cement dry. :lol:
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