This situation is much like Thailand but I don't need to tell you that since you are also in Thailand lol. I think one suggestion I would give that you haven't mentioned yet is to hold off on finding a real girlfriend until a person knows the lay of the land thoroughly. Concentrating on one night stands and partying it up in clubs is a huge waste too because there's plenty of fantastic girls you can have a real relationship with. There's just so many decent girls in countries like Bangkok and everywhere in China that a lot of guys jump all over the first slim, young, and somewhat alright looking girl to come their way. Most western guys marry some truly wretched looking women though. It's better to hold off until you've dated a lot to know when a girl is really really special in personality and looks.Everdred wrote:I wouldn't recommend trying to find a Chinese girl in a nightclub or bar. And it was much harder getting one-night stands in Dalian than it was pursuing girlfriends. I think the best way to meet decent quality girls is through your work. I worked in one office in Dalian for 1.5 years, and I can think of at least 5 different girls that were very clearly interested in dating me. I already had a girlfriend, so I never pursued those opportunities, but all the girls were in their 20's and slim and gorgeous, even to Chinese standards. I'm not at all the "playboy" type, and I'm actually a rather quiet and reserved person, yet I still had a significant number of girls pursuing me. It was all a big tease though, because I wasn't and still am not interested in having a second girlfriend. But you also have to careful dating someone from your work - gossip travels at the speed of light in a Chinese office.
A lot of middle and upper middle class Chinese and Thai guys have second and third girlfriends. It's ridiculous how common philandering is. Some girls accept it or at least are resigned to that fact. Some girls break up immediately but find themselves in their 30's with no husband in sight destined to become an aging old maid.