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Hi! My nameâ€™s Ben,
I just 'discovered' this forum today: and only just started reading. But it already feels like a breath of fresh air to me. I think I finally found some place where I belong.
So Iâ€™m a 23yr old, typical, white, middle-class (actually closer to lower class) American. I live in New Orleans.. I got a Bachelorâ€™s degree in Finance last year, and am still unemployed. I gave 4 years of my life to get that degree, but it didnâ€™t go to waste - because I will Earn my initial wealth through other means, and THEN use that knowledge to *grow my wealth.
Iâ€™ve given up looking for a job months ago â€“ and now Iâ€™m trying to make it as a web-entrepreneur.
Relationships: Iâ€™m single. Actually just went through the most horrible, damaging, scarring experience of my life (thus far). As I almost Killed myself over it. But I survived, and kept my sanity. Although I donâ€™t know how long it will take for the wounds to fully heal.
NOW my life is characterized by Only 3 goals:
1. To make as much MONEY as humanly possible.
2. To get out of this f***ing disgusting Shit-hole of a country!
3. *And sleep with as many beautiful foreign women, as humanly possible, before I die.
I guess I do want to have an actual relationship with some of these women instead of just sleep with them. But I know the nature of such things is transient. I don't have a lot of hope or expectations for that...
And also as a bonus - Iâ€™m want to rub it in my Exâ€™s face, one day.. The fact that she is a disgusting piece of filth and she is never going to get a chance with me again: When sheâ€™s divorced, all alone, OLD, wrinkled, disgusting, on antidepressants because her life has gone to shit, and she threw away the ONE good person in her life who actually GAVE A DAMN about her. Sheâ€™s simply not good enough.
I donâ€™t care what anyone says or thinks about me now. I donâ€™t care what my family or friends think. *I donâ€™t care if they disapprove of my behavior. Because I can see how hollow and shallow they really are â€“ theyâ€™re just as unhappy as me, because theyâ€™re all in dysfunctional/failing marriages.. or dead-end relationship. And they want to try to give me advice on how I should live my life?? YEah right!
I donâ€™t think so.
Also I've come to the conclusion that I don't ever want to have kids. EVER. I'm 100% sure about that now.. I grep up as an only child in an abusive household. Even without the abuse, it was still hell. *If I did have kids, couldn't bear to have 2 or more children and retain my sanity & my freedom. So I just won't have any...
Not having kids or any family ties will make it significantly easier to travel the world and leave my past life behind.
I want to live this life in the moment, how I want to live, enjoying every day - and only for me. My focus is on my own happiness and pleasure first and above all else.
I feel like Neo who just got â€œunpluggedâ€ from the Matrix and can see the "truth", through all the lies, for the very first time... Or maybe I just opened my eyes to it.
I have been set free.
So Yeah, thatâ€™s my introduction. Selfish arenâ€™t I?
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Thanks: *I do appreciate all your advice. And is I guess I'll try...
It's just much easier said than done. There are some people in this world - so evil - some deeds, so wrong, I don't believe they deserve to be forgiven or forgotten. Ever. But that's just my opinion. And I realize my experience is limited to the scope of a few destroyed relationships.
But some of the other things people do to each other?? Awe man, don't even get me started on that. The cruelty of things man (or woman) is inclined & capable of doing to another man, in War, and everywhere else - is Appalling.
I'm an Athiest. *But They make me wish that a Hell exists..
"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident."
“Everything in life is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power.” - Frank Underwood
Welcome to the form and out of the Matrix brother. It's great that you've seen the light at an early age and not at 40 or 50 with a divorce and kids in tow. Here's a suggestion, why don't you go use your degree, teach English overseas for a year or tow? See the world, see how the real world outside of this shit hole called North American is. Meet and date some truly feminine women while making long lasting contacts and connections along the way? Asia is THE place to be. Start with Korea, Japan, Taiwan, Thailand, China or Bali or the Philippines is you want to connect with the location independent crowd. Great places to start and build online and offline businesses abound in Asia...
Live your life for yourself, not for anyone else, go after your dreams and forget about all the toxic things and people in your past that have been a liability to you. When you do make it and are living it up, you will realize that moving out of NA was the best thing you'd ever done.
All the best and keep us updated,
Actually I disagree with Prisoner and Patrick. Sure bitterness will make you rot... but a little gleeful joy in rubbing her nose in your coming success... could be a great energizer.
Do not live to inflict sorrow on others, but to bring enlightenment to your self and others.
make others happy by example of how you can always have hope even when others try to blind you to it.
Get justice through accomplishing your goals, through that your vengeance will be acted out, by the observation of the discontent and over entitled they'll wonder why your life is so full of happiness and joy, and you'll have paid them not a second thought.
Otherwise you are still empowering them to destroy you.
Vengeance is fine, just don't let it destroy you, and never sacrifice more than what it's worth.
Totally agree with you on everything you wrote. Best to focus on making yourself happy, succeed and living life the fullest than on sinking to the low levels of mediocrity that others are trying to bring you down to. Focus on greatness, not mediocrity. Become a success, live THE life, those naysayers and detractors will realize what a huge mistake they made, and it would kill them inside of envy and jealousy.
Thanks for all the comments guys! I do appreciate your generous welcoming, and all of your advice.
Let me clarify:
*I don't actually think it's a GOOD thing to always be bitter, and hateful, and resentful.. But I do think it can be a great motivator.
For instance, if I just all of a sudden forgave her TOMORROW morning, my energy level would instantly be cut in down by half or 1/3.
I don't drink any caffeine, I don't take drugs, or anythink like that. I gave up alcohol 100% as well.
My voracious drive to succeed is the only thing that keeps me going every day, and it would also wane a little bit.
I would be slightly less productive and efficient in my everyday work.
I know it's really unhealthy to say something like that.. But I think about her every day. Every day I'm stuck in this shithole. I can't help it.
I Guess originally I just wanted that bitch to REPENT.. but she'll probably never going do that, for me or for anyone, no matter what happens. :\ No matter how much success or happiness I have over her.
(btw: she's a Filipino bitch, who move to America.. born in Manila though. And I met her in college. I think I'll avoid the Phillipines )
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Good points.. Taken.
Sorry to hear about the end of your relationship, EN. I also can't wait to leave this shithole of a country aka U.S. of Gay. I've also recently gotten my bachelors degree and haven't been able to find a job for two years now! Seems like everyday, I realize what a sinking ship economically, morally, and socially, the United States is becoming. Ive been applying to English teaching jobs in Asia for some time now--and hopefully, I can get a job soon. As for your women, it doesn't surprise me at all at the behavior of your Filipino ex, because once Asian women being Westernized, they're just as bad--or even worse than American women!
Your vindication will come in time. Don't let the pain or hatred consume you - make sure you vent it like you did now.
Revenge is a dish best served cold. No need to throw drama back into your ex's face and I would just leave her behind to be somebody else's problem.
"Take a bold and unconventional action, then you'll find out who your friends are."
"Trying to find good American women is like trying to ice skate in a volcano."
So how are you planning to make a lot of money? As what kind of entrepreneur?
Did you grow up in New Orleans? I heard it has a very artsy community with lots of open progressive people. Does that not make it a good place to live?
However, when mainstream people say that people are friendly, they usually mean guys or older people, not that young women are easy to flirt with or date.
So your ex was Filipino? I don't know why, but when Filipinos get money, they become really nasty. It's as if all their worst qualities come out. Maybe deep down they are like that, and that's why they corrupt easily?
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