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Welcome to the forum, steezy!
I guess you're one of those Asians that like the USA and have no problem with the society here? You're very different from me. I guess I'm one of those rare Asians living in the States that dislike the USA and Western society, as I much prefer the culture in Asia over the West.
Please let us know a little bit more about yourself, you are Asian, but this might be anybody between Iran and Indonesia. From which country are you?
Or are you born in USA, and AsianAmerican? Without any connection to Asia anymore?
Like you I'm young, recent college graduate. You ask me while I was in college, I'd say I was having the time of my life. The beer, random drunk girls (I almost got laid with), and pulling all-nighters with good buddies... But it gets old after a while and once you venture outside of the USA you realize just how much better social life is. That 1 in 20 girls you happen to hook up with turns into 10 in 20 or 15 in 20. The friends you once had, go their separate ways, form lives, and have families. Then you are on your own to form new social circles and it's not as easy as it seems, especially in the USA. Not to be a Debbie Downer but this is reality for a lot of guys here, especially myself. On top of that the radical feminist movement in the USA ruins a lot of potential dating parties. Wait until you have more real life experience and experience overseas and I'm sure you will change your opinion.
The point is about USA/Canada and UK/Europe that men and boys are considered as 2nd class citizens. As long as you have no personal problem with this you are fine - but there are others, too, not so lucky - and most of us in this forum and similar forums made very bad experiences in the past.
I was lucky, I moved away from Europe to Japan and I will never return. I arranged a new life-style for me, with Japanese family. However other men are not so lucky, they were badly cheated by women, have to pay huge money over decades, lost all their property, even cannot contact their children, paying child support despite they are not even the biological father, are a target of scorn when they try to speak about their problems, some of them living in a van, totally out of money and no job etc. etc.
I do not think that personal views on this HA-forum are 'highly exaggerated' - it is simply said that some men are lucky, and some men are not...
My opinion about Western women is that they are highly materialistic orientated and that they choose their friends only by looks and talks, just judging them on their surface. Many women are also totally psychotic and into drugs and alcohol. Any thug - a proven fact - has plenty of girls next to him, while honest men cannot find even a girlfriend for a nice weekend.
I'm actually a powerlifter and have a very nice physique. My social skills are pretty good (extrovert) but not great and I still get turned down as well. I suffer from the nice guy paradigm. Like you I don't have that much hatred in my heart for American society. I still have some good friends and I get along with my co-workers but there is always that underlying feeling of pressure, materialism, and superficiality that American culture brings. Overseas I don't feel those pressures. Once you start traveling more this will become a lot more evident.