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Greetings from the Philippines!Hey guys....Philippines expat and new member checking in. Late 40's American guy living near Cebu for 6 years with Filipino wife and our kid. Looking at other countries and options now, and I stumbled onto this website. Hope I can contribute something to the forum.
![]() Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Why do you want to change countries?
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With years in the Philippines, I can make some good guesses. We still keep our home not far from Cagayan de Oro, but there are legitimate factors to make one diversify. A short list would include corruption, a beat up dumpy infrastructure, security issues and restrictions on foreign business activity or property ownership. Most of theses have work-arounds, but they still wear on you. We have a rural property in Oregon, and as Filipinos with money frequently do, my father in law bought a house overseas, in California. Even Filipinos create option s when they can.
Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Those are good guesses! But the reality is that I don't appreciate the local culture as much as many others living here do. Filipinos are mostly fake, disingenuous, opportunistic, and insincere....and that's not a reflection on me or the one's I have chosen to befriend. It's the reality of the culture. Most guys really couldn't care less WHY the locals are nice to them or WHAT their intentions are. They are just happy to be getting laid and feeling relevant again. Maybe I will feel differently when I'm pensioner age, but I value sincerity, honesty, and decency above all else at this stage of my life, and there's so very little of that here. Plus, trying to raise a kid here is problematic, especially if you don't want them to grow up to be an asshole. Culture will shape them much more than the parents will after a certain age, so it's a uphill battle. Just because a country produces great wives doesn't mean it's a good place to raise kids. It's actually a sign of the opposite. Great vacation place here, but long-term residency isn't for everyone
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Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Don't move out now..Philippines will have its best days in coming years...
Re: Greetings from the Philippines!It looks to me like the whole thing is going to crap everywhere and we are losing our property rights everywhere as well as our ability to get it paid off.
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I would include your description as corruption. The political corruption is rooted in the very same social corruption you outline.. after spending quite a bit of time in Oregon as well as traveling to Chile, my wife has concluded that raising our son entirely in the Philippines is not that great an idea. Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Welcome. No offense but I would be curious where you ultimately find a culture with "sincerity, honesty, and decency above all else." I don't think there is such a place, or more accurately we tend to consider people with like minded perspectives to be more honest than others, probably because we consider their insincerity to be normal. Ultimately we all have different goals and values and hopefully you will find a place that aligns to your goals and values. Check out my blog @ http://www.marriedafilipina.com
Re: Greetings from the Philippines!This depends entirely on the type of circles you find yourself in. I married into a decent family, to a wife who was well-educated and whose parents are both college educated as well. As a result, I have never considered the Filipinos I meet on a day-to-day basis to be fake, disigenuous, or insincere. Opportunistic, I could see that one - but being born in a third world country and being dirt poor in said country will make any man jump on every opportunity he can find. I would not say Filipinos are fake; fakeness is a characteristic more often ascribed to American people with great big smiles and great big words who, upon seeing them a second time, will hardly recognize your face or even remember your name or who you are. Whereas in the Philippines, I find that people know me, remember me, and are genuinely nice and warm to me. And they act that way without ever asking for a single peso! ![]() It's the reality of being poor as dirt. It has very little to do with culture. You are just hanging with the wrong crowds, I'm afraid. There's no shortage of sincerity, honesty and decency where I'm at. My best friend in this world is a Filipino man and he would walk to hell and back for me. He's showered me and my family with gifts, taken both our families out to resorts, and never once broke his word to me. I have met too many honorable men whose word is worth their life, to believe decency cannot be found in the Philippines. I'm raising a kid here, soon to be joined by another. I very much doubt my son will be an asshole, just for growing up in the Philippines. Maybe if his male role models were assholes, he would be. But my father-in-law is a law-abiding citizen, a modest drinker, an educator and a respectable member of his community who's a friend with the local priest, pastor and barangay captain. Our next-door neighbors are good citizens too. My wife's male cousins are good guys. Which of these upstanding citizens would corrupt my son? There are, likewise, no "loose women" around that I know of, who could corrupt my daughter. Of course I am young, my kid is young, and the other kids yet to be born. I cannot predict the long-term effects right now. But one aspect of growing up in the Philippines, in a rural area especially like my kids are, is that they will always have a lot of playmates growing up. They will get to play outside a lot, rather then waste their time in front of a TV screen or be turned into zombies by gadgets... and they have grandparents, aunts, uncles nearby who can help us take care of them so we don't have to think about things like daycare and nannies, which is an additional burden to those who bring their kids to the "civilized world". There are definitely advantages, on top of the disadvantages you see. It's a bit of a mixed bag. Location is everything - if I lived in a more urban area, with more pollution, more traffic and crime, I wouldn't wish my kids to grow up there and likely move somewhere else too. However in the clean fresh air of a small rural town, I think my children have excellent opportunities to grow up into productive citizens and decent people. Especially because, besides my wife and myself, there are a lot of other great Filipino people around. It takes a village, to raise a child. I never knew how true that saying was until I moved to the Philippines! ![]() Of course it isn't for everyone. Everyone has their own list of priorities, when looking at a place to live long-term. I was lucky enough to find a place in the Philippines that caters to my every need, and those of my family. There are many factors to consider - whether or not you can work from where you are, if you can generate income, and how much value you give to things like a fast internet connection, close proximity of hospitals, and other things those accustomed to a first-world quality of living sometimes find themselves in need of. As a guy in my twenties, I can handle living somewhat "off-the-grid", but chances are my opinion on that will be different twenty or thirty years from now. Some things to consider. Either way, I hope that you will find what you are looking for. Some of your fears, such as your son growing up to be an asshole if you raise him in the Philippines, are unfounded however. It's a big country with 7000+ islands, and an even bigger continent, I'm sure you'll find your ideal place under the sun.
Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Marcos, what do you think is the maximum size for a city where the values would not be too corrupted? For example, would places like Iloilo or Bacolod (which are roughly the same size) be too big? Or do you think you'd have to live in a much smaller town if you don't want too much decadence?
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Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Marcos.....it's weird how two people can see the exact opposite in a given situation. Your version of Philippines life is just too much like Mayberry and your opinion of America is way off base also. But I get that this forum is mostly one big "America sucks, Philippines is awesome" circle jerk so it's not surprising.
![]() Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Joesixpack,
I agree with you. Most Filipinos have no ethics. But the lies they tell are usually white lies. MarcosZeitola does deny a lot of obvious things. But then again, he doesn't spend time in Manila or Angeles City, so he's not as jaded as most expats. I understand how you feel about being in the Philippines too long. But once you leave, you start to miss it. It has a unique vibe with warmness and genuineness. I agree with MarcosZeitola on that. And Ladislav said the vibe there makes him feel like home and very welcome. There are a lot of negatives in the Philippines and not many you can trust. But you can find a small circle there of people you know and trust if you want, as well as businesses you trust. Once you establish a trusted network and routine, you can be comfortable there if you just stick with those you know and trust. There are people I've known for years there that I trust for the most part. As for the friendliness and warmness being fake. Well I think yes and no. Yes Filipinos are nice when they want something. However, it is part of their culture to smile and be warm too. So they do it on instinct. Extracting things from others is part of their instinct too. So part of it is genuine and a habit. But of course, there are ulterior motives too. Both are true in my view. The warmness is not totally fake because I can feel the warm vibe from them. So I know it's partly real. Check out my fun video clips in Russia and video series Female Encounters of the Foreign Kind and Full Russia Trip Videos!
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Re: Greetings from the Philippines!We are already aware that Philippines is not a paradise, no place on earth is. There is a lot of Philosophical, conspiratorial discussion that Winston encourages which helps members here find a place that is BALANCED.
We are seeking Balance not Perfection on earth. It would be completely absurd even begin to think in those terms of perfection, paradise, beauty, great life. Its Ignorance. Seek a Balance in life. You need Zero-Point Infinity Equation. Take Minuses and Pluses of Philippines, America, Thailand, China or where ever you want to go. Give whatever points you want to give from 0 to million, trillion points. For example... Morality - Philippines -100 America +1000 Thailand +50 Japan +500 Food - America +10 Philippines +5 Thailand +1000 Japan +100 Beach Philippines +1000 America -50 Japan +100 Weather, Education, crime, safety, taxes etc etc...get a tabulation of both positive and negative points of everything that is valuable to your life. Now sum it all up the points of minus and pluses...The country which is closest to ZERO would be the best place for you. Its quantum Physics, Spirituality, Material wealth all combined. We all need to be closer to ZERO not away from it with Lots of Positivity which is the mistake majority of people make and then regret it. Our life revolves around Zero Point Infinity, everything came from it, many call it God, Nirvana, Scientists call it Zero Point Energy. For me Its Thailand and Philippines...I'm closest to Zero when I'm in these two countries...Give and Take Karma is near zero for me when I go there. I get cheated in Philippines, scammers, over price, bad food but it balances it out with other things that I like. I know it will. There are no surprises for me in Philippines because i know, it will balance it out, If i have lots of negative experience one day, the next day would be great. It has to, guaranteed by God because I'm near where my Zero Point Field is. This equation takes out all the surprises in life like you experienced with Philippines. Find where your Zero Point Energy is and your life would be fine. Good Luck By the way this is the only equation where both Spirituality and Science agrees. ![]() ![]() Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Starchild,
I experienced that too. When i was in china, when i got ripoffed or overcharged, the very next day i would get it back somehow, like being undercharged the exact same amount by mistake. It was weird. And it happened several times with precision accuracy. Is that a good sign that karma is protecting me? Check out my fun video clips in Russia and video series Female Encounters of the Foreign Kind and Full Russia Trip Videos!
See my HA Ebook and Join Our Dating Sites to support us! "It takes far less effort to find and move to the society that has what you want than it does to try to reconstruct an existing society to match your standards." - Harry Browne, How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World Re: Greetings from the Philippines!Joe, what are exactly are you looking for? You need to be more specific! For example, do you like hot or cold weather? Do you like living in modern or rural places? Do you mind not being accepted into the local culture? I ask, because Asians will never accept non-Asians as being one of them. That's just the way Asians are...
Also, do you prefer Latin, White or Asian culture? If you dislike Asian culture, maybe a White country might be better for you? As for your comments about the Philippines, I don't think all HA'ers think the country is so great. In fact, we have some real detractors of the country, such as NewlifeinthePhilippines, Rock, Winston and others. Ultimately, there's no perfect country in the world. There's always positives and negatives to everything in life.
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