My story good so far, getting out next!
Posted: March 24th, 2011, 9:42 am
Greetings,
Years ago thru much reflection and world exploration, I figured a lot of stuff out...and assumed for awhile maybe I was the only one. Then the other day, thru the best of luck, I stumbled across this site.
Okay so I'm not a "joiner" first off, and would normally not invest time with a bunch of Internet writing, but there are free people here with the guts to say the truth, and that matters, and it is worth it to add one more free person to the count. Guess what, this is the most important topic in the USA, has been for decades, and nobody is talking about it. I'm getting the hell out anyhow, but if it will help even one clueless USA guy out there reading this, then it is worth it.
Here is my background. Never really wanted to get married or have kids. About five years ago I decided okay maybe married but not kids, and not interested into going down the path everyone goes down (arguing, selfishness, self-destruction). So...you look around for a good one. You start looking at the women, you ask them a question and listen carefully to their response, and you see where the future would go with them, and that future is unacceptable.
This went one for a year or two and if I was any other guy I would have probably given up and accepted a soon to be hell life with a dissatisfied woman, but I'm blessed or cursed with an inability to give up, and thank freakin' nature for that. After exhausting all solutions to the problem it occurred to me (duh) "hey man you are only looking at women of your culture". There was something unnatural that didn't feel right here, how can I be the only sane person?? Everyone else wants to walk off a cliff, that doesn't sound fun to me. And so I expanded the possibilities to include the whole world to see if that would yield different results.
That decision opened up everything, and changed me life, one of those huge "now I get it" moments would come out of this decision, and I wish every US guy could experience that.
First I dated a lot of Asian-born women living in the US. Certainly better human beings with better values overall, but my instinct said something was wrong with them, and I trusted my instincts. I'll post my observations on this topic later.
Next I booked a two week holiday in Shanghai during the good weather of moon cake festival. I learned some Mandarin and some about the culture before going. The best time of my life. When in China do as the Chinese do, I really let myself get into the culture and see their world from their perspective. I had more women than I could keep up with, there were a dozen that I was in contact with, there were four I was dating seriously, simultaneously. The most amazing humans I've met: open, honest, sincere, optimistic, clear, fun loving, joy filled, caring, amazingly beautiful (I'll post details about SH girls in the future).
It was a total change: in the US during two years studying the local selections I didn't see ONE person I could see a positive future with, and in two weeks in China I found FOUR people I could see a future with, and absolutely considered that, with one girl in particular.
As it turns out however I was back in the states after a few SH journeys and met an amazing Korean woman and I knew instantly. You gotta ask a lot of questions, you gotta understand the woman's values. She is a beauty and strong in her traditional Korean values, she gets that US women want to drag her into their dissatisfaction, and she is wiser than that. Instead she teaches them to respect their man!!! That told me everything I needed to know about her, after 3yrs I finally found a good one.
Anyhow our life has been great since. We are in the US now (and we don't like that one bit) but are relocating to Seoul in a few months. Maybe after a few years China? I make good money independently and we can move around kid-free and enjoy the world.
Looking forward to talking to people here, sharing info on local customs, prices, housing, etc. I speak basic Mandarin and Korean, know Shanghai fairly well, Beijing a little, and Seoul thru my wife and my visits.
Years ago thru much reflection and world exploration, I figured a lot of stuff out...and assumed for awhile maybe I was the only one. Then the other day, thru the best of luck, I stumbled across this site.
Okay so I'm not a "joiner" first off, and would normally not invest time with a bunch of Internet writing, but there are free people here with the guts to say the truth, and that matters, and it is worth it to add one more free person to the count. Guess what, this is the most important topic in the USA, has been for decades, and nobody is talking about it. I'm getting the hell out anyhow, but if it will help even one clueless USA guy out there reading this, then it is worth it.
Here is my background. Never really wanted to get married or have kids. About five years ago I decided okay maybe married but not kids, and not interested into going down the path everyone goes down (arguing, selfishness, self-destruction). So...you look around for a good one. You start looking at the women, you ask them a question and listen carefully to their response, and you see where the future would go with them, and that future is unacceptable.
This went one for a year or two and if I was any other guy I would have probably given up and accepted a soon to be hell life with a dissatisfied woman, but I'm blessed or cursed with an inability to give up, and thank freakin' nature for that. After exhausting all solutions to the problem it occurred to me (duh) "hey man you are only looking at women of your culture". There was something unnatural that didn't feel right here, how can I be the only sane person?? Everyone else wants to walk off a cliff, that doesn't sound fun to me. And so I expanded the possibilities to include the whole world to see if that would yield different results.
That decision opened up everything, and changed me life, one of those huge "now I get it" moments would come out of this decision, and I wish every US guy could experience that.
First I dated a lot of Asian-born women living in the US. Certainly better human beings with better values overall, but my instinct said something was wrong with them, and I trusted my instincts. I'll post my observations on this topic later.
Next I booked a two week holiday in Shanghai during the good weather of moon cake festival. I learned some Mandarin and some about the culture before going. The best time of my life. When in China do as the Chinese do, I really let myself get into the culture and see their world from their perspective. I had more women than I could keep up with, there were a dozen that I was in contact with, there were four I was dating seriously, simultaneously. The most amazing humans I've met: open, honest, sincere, optimistic, clear, fun loving, joy filled, caring, amazingly beautiful (I'll post details about SH girls in the future).
It was a total change: in the US during two years studying the local selections I didn't see ONE person I could see a positive future with, and in two weeks in China I found FOUR people I could see a future with, and absolutely considered that, with one girl in particular.
As it turns out however I was back in the states after a few SH journeys and met an amazing Korean woman and I knew instantly. You gotta ask a lot of questions, you gotta understand the woman's values. She is a beauty and strong in her traditional Korean values, she gets that US women want to drag her into their dissatisfaction, and she is wiser than that. Instead she teaches them to respect their man!!! That told me everything I needed to know about her, after 3yrs I finally found a good one.
Anyhow our life has been great since. We are in the US now (and we don't like that one bit) but are relocating to Seoul in a few months. Maybe after a few years China? I make good money independently and we can move around kid-free and enjoy the world.
Looking forward to talking to people here, sharing info on local customs, prices, housing, etc. I speak basic Mandarin and Korean, know Shanghai fairly well, Beijing a little, and Seoul thru my wife and my visits.