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Are singles moms really that bad?? --update 1--

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Postby eurobrat » September 5th, 2011, 4:46 am

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Postby well-informed » September 5th, 2011, 5:01 am

Should have not used the word jerk, more like the bf that left her pregnant and hanging. He is able to get away with not supporting his or her own child because child support laws in countries like the Phillipines are extremely weak unlike the US.

Yes that maybe unfair for those single russian/filipina women that had good intentions with their bf but we know life isn't fair but in the other side of the world. You have single moms here that are abusing the anti-male laws with divorces left and right, sums of alimony as well child support payments that may or may not be used with the children themselves.

Sorry no single moms, thanks erik i already know the deal at 20 haha
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Re: My story

Postby E_Irizarry » September 5th, 2011, 5:07 am

ErikHeaven wrote:1989 NYC i was dating a single mom, very skinny and very pretty. Her 9 year old daughter adored me. The girls father was in "Jail" and had no contact with his daughter. A lie. Me and her dated for 1 year and it was all good, she treated me good and the sex was great. We were planning to get married.
Cut to the chase one day at lunch (We worked together) she told me it was over and she needed to "Find" herself.
The next day her baby daddy came to our job and she was outside kissing him. I found out by her own mouth that he dumped her six months later and got some other woman pregnant. She wanted me back and i told her to hit the bricks.
Young men on this board i am 41 years old, single parents are a complete waste of time, energy and money and sanity.
You have been warned!


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Postby ErikHeaven » September 5th, 2011, 5:23 am

Irizarry now you understand me ya?
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Postby davewe » September 5th, 2011, 5:40 am

I suppose that the only advantage if you are older is that if she has a kid she may not want to come after you to give her a baby. Either way its a big decision; raise someone else's child or get pressured to have another one yourself or say no to a baby and hope she can handle it.
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Postby Twobrains » September 7th, 2011, 8:27 pm

I have loooooong experience of this. Avoid, avoid, avoid!!! If horny, f**k and forget them, but be clear that nothing is to be expected from you.
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Postby swincor » September 7th, 2011, 8:40 pm

Twobrains wrote:I have loooooong experience of this. Avoid, avoid, avoid!!! If horny, f**k and forget them, but be clear that nothing is to be expected from you.



Sure, yeah, why not? If she's a hot number, just put on a condom, bang her and then, "adios." Investing your emotions in such a female is really very stupid, and if you do so, it's your fault.
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Postby lionchild » September 7th, 2011, 11:58 pm

--update 1--

Okay guys and gals, thanks for the advice, it seems perhaps it would be prudent of me to explain in a nutshell my case. Currently i just bork eup with a 33 year old filipina who i have yet to see about 1 month ago.

Yet she is very persistent in trying to win me back, even as going so far to cancel her plans to go to singapore for me and buying me gifts which i had already recieved.

All of this stemmed from the fact that she withheld helf from me the duration of our six month relationship that she had 2 kids, ages 9 and 10 and was keeping other secrets. According to her she was waiting for "the right time" to tell me about all of this. Naturally, i was shocked and i broke up the relationship cause that was not the only thing she lied to me on.

Regardless here are the facts about her:

*She is 33 years old and living in Malabon
*had 2 kids a boy and girl ages 9 and 10
*Her income, get this... is much higher than me
*owns a house, car bike and other things
*Sends her kids to private school
*the father of the kids still occasionaly pops buy
*And also sleeps with the kids sometimes
*Works as secretary for many years

Thoee are the basics, oddly i can agree that she is sort of more open in some regards, as she has showed me things about her that i was unexpected, i guess she is "horny" hehe. But with that aside, lots of other things that worry me so i did break it up... she is still there however if i want to go back.

What do you guys think or suggest? Stay or Run?

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Postby E_Irizarry » September 8th, 2011, 12:24 am

lionchild wrote:--update 1--

Okay guys and gals, thanks for the advice, it seems perhaps it would be prudent of me to explain in a nutshell my case. Currently i just bork eup with a 33 year old filipina who i have yet to see about 1 month ago.

Yet she is very persistent in trying to win me back, even as going so far to cancel her plans to go to singapore for me and buying me gifts which i had already recieved.

All of this stemmed from the fact that she withheld helf from me the duration of our six month relationship that she had 2 kids, ages 9 and 10 and was keeping other secrets. According to her she was waiting for "the right time" to tell me about all of this. Naturally, i was shocked and i broke up the relationship cause that was not the only thing she lied to me on.

Regardless here are the facts about her:

*She is 33 years old and living in Malabon
*had 2 kids a boy and girl ages 9 and 10
*Her income, get this... is much higher than me
*owns a house, car bike and other things
*Sends her kids to private school
*the father of the kids still occasionaly pops buy
*And also sleeps with the kids sometimes
*Works as secretary for many years

Thoee are the basics, oddly i can agree that she is sort of more open in some regards, as she has showed me things about her that i was unexpected, i guess she is "horny" hehe. But with that aside, lots of other things that worry me so i did break it up... she is still there however if i want to go back.

What do you guys think or suggest? Stay or Run?

-lionchild
Run towards her. f**k the shit out of her. I'm tired of being the only cat on this site with awesome FW escapades. You need to join the club, man. Like seriously.
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Postby lionchild » September 8th, 2011, 12:47 am

E_Irizarry wrote:Run towards her. f**k the shit out of her. I'm tired of being the only cat on this site with awesome FW escapades. You need to join the club, man. Like seriously.


I've got OTHER and more serious things to do with my time and money rather than just monger and play like a child ROFL.

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Postby Twobrains » September 8th, 2011, 12:26 pm

Lionchild - run away!! The scenario you describe is very bad. You haven't even met her yet, if I'm reading you correctly. You have no idea if there will be chemistry between you face to face, and she's already lied to you, big time. The 'right time' to tell you about her kids was the very first chat you had online. She lied because she knows what a bad deal she is. You will never be free of her kids. It might look like they'll leave home in just a few years, but it seldom pans out that way. And the bio-father still being around is bad news: he will have a big influence on his ex and the kids, and so too on your life if you settle with her. He may be jealous if you develop a good relationship with his kids, and try to f**k you up. You're young - you can do so much better than this car crash.
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My Friend.

Postby ErikHeaven » September 8th, 2011, 1:54 pm

*the father of the kids still occasionaly pops buy
*And also sleeps with the kids sometimes

Point blank he is still f***ing her. Case closed i know from experience. LEAVE HER ALONE! YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!

Sleeps with the kids! Yeah i have a bridge in Manhattan i would love to sell you.
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Re: My Friend.

Postby The_Hero_of_Men » September 8th, 2011, 6:24 pm

ErikHeaven wrote:
Sleeps with the kids! Yeah i have a bridge in Manhattan i would love to sell you.


HaHahahahaha that was funny :lol: but you do have a point.
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Postby well-informed » September 8th, 2011, 6:57 pm

I have been reading a different update; because all i read were tons of red flags flying under the breeze.

Haha well child no one can tell you what to do, you're just going to have learn for yourself. Go get bit in the ass and don't cry back lol
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Postby E_Irizarry » September 8th, 2011, 9:45 pm

lionchild wrote:
E_Irizarry wrote:Run towards her. f**k the shit out of her. I'm tired of being the only cat on this site with awesome FW escapades. You need to join the club, man. Like seriously.


I've got OTHER and more serious things to do with my time and money rather than just monger and play like a child ROFL.

-lionchild


1) You didn't thank me for giving you advice, rude asshole. I could have had better things to do then to inform your stoic, all-American-asshole ass.

2) What do you better with your time then going after single mothers you mangina wet-behind-the-ears looking-like-Andrew-Ridgeley-from-Wham! George Michael's right-hand concubine-looking self then to diss me for living life to the fullest when I was abroad snagging broads?

Like well-informed said, you'll learn.

There's a reason why I am childless and that I wake up every morning without having to tapdance on eggshells for a woman wearing the tim boots and wife-beater undershirts just trying to be cheaper to keep her whereas you are a nanometer away from doing some dumb shit that would have you in the pay-her child-support tax bracket??!?!?!

Burn, man. Just burn.
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