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In the end, all of us get old and fugly, then die. So I would rather be around someone that I can tolerate.. rather than someone that is a looks good for 15 years and is a bitch.. then looks ugly after that and is a bitch.. Unless you intend on being involved in shallow relationships all your life with sub 30 year old women and changing out a woman every 5-10 years...
If thats what your about, don't even bother getting married. I have nothing against living the single life but I would imagine it would start feeling quite empty after awhile..
There is something nice about having someone in your life that you know will be there every night when you get home. But I also understand its nice to be with a different and nice looking piece of trim every other day too. Guess it just depends on what you want.
Married to a sweet Filipina girl an never looking back!
Here is another interesting video from Don Steele talking about older men dating younger women. He mentions that older men dating younger women is accepted in a lot of countries especially in asian countries but is not accepted by people in the US and Canada.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S90LjqT_ ... ature=plcp[/youtube]
"When I think about the idea of getting involved with an American woman, I don't know if I should laugh .............. or vomit!"
"Trying to meet women in America is like trying to decipher Egyptian hieroglyphics."
Also I think its better if men are realistic and stop playing with speculation.
Often men think a FSU woman around 21 isn't mature enough, if he's say 40. Why would this be the case? How many 20something in major cities where a majority of us live in the US think be ready for marriage by 21? They aren't! Especially the ones in school. If you're in college and don't screw up, you're out by 22. By then you're looking to get your first job.
A man's fear is that with obvious Anna Nicole-Smith and that old fart Texas Oil Man marriages believe most women are after what little they own. Again this is laughable and goes back to that article I posted that men who feel like this don't have much to loose to start with. If you think you've "made" it by owning a car, a home and having a well-paying job, can't you rebuild if for some reason you lost some of it? How come it doesn't upset you more when you loose your job because company profits are more important than the obligation a company has to a community?
I don't know what happen to her but I found a 18 year old Polish Girl who didn't care I was 41 or Black, but is convinced I am against her being too young for a serious relationship.
What these women want is stability to in order to have children. Listen its simple, if you see your friends getting married at a young age and then divorced (common in the FSU) and its usually along economics (no job) and maturity lines (heavy drinking) then wouldn't you be looking for something more stable? The Western Culture answer to this is to get an education so you can get a job, so you can be independent of such behavior, get it? The answer elsewhere is to find an older stable man. Independence (for women) only gets you more money and maybe a bit more status, but haven't you noticed and this is why Western Women are actively trying change it have more status being married than being single?
There is a growing chorus out there that says Marriage in the traditional sense is outdated, but is it?
I again suggest people watch "Century of Self" which is free on the internet and runs about 5 hours but its worth it. For humanity to survive children need to be born, for societies to continue and traditions to be passed down, children need to be born. Now there two ways to do this, remove women from the equation and do it all in a lab and cloned tissue or preserve marriage and expand equality across the board.
I see it like this, not interested in kids at all, even their kids?
Get a woman 40+. I can assure you the sex is just as good or better than with a younger woman and even better if she takes care of herself.
I think men have watched too much porn and its screwed up reality. 95% of woman under 30 are looking to be mothers at some point, so even if she says she's not interested in having children, the closer they come to the reality that they are coming to the end of their reproductive lives, many scramble around to find a decent, reasonable man to have a children with, this is universal in all cultures. Technology however has allowed women to pay anywhere from $30K-$40K to go to sperm banks and use IVF. That is out of the reach of a majority of woman however and most will opt for getting drink and allowing some man they have no intention of seeing again to get them pregnant.
If you want children and I would argue stability at home, marry a woman under 30. This allows you some wiggle room. This is especially needed for women making the transition into Western Culture. It takes roughly a year to get the language down enough, it takes another year to get familiar with your surroundings and driving and I personally think the last thing you need is pile motherhood on top of that.
If she's going to be home all day, alone, then having a baby makes sense and gives her something to do, you know what they say about idle hands...
Finally if you're not some overweight, balding guy, then having a somewhat younger wife will not look odd anyway. The average age difference I think in western culture is I think 9 years.
The problem is even for the best players out there, they don't have a different piece every other day. They usually juggle several women unless they are rigid (get up early everyday) because party girls don't like to get up early...
I think moderation is ALWAYS the key. Somebody not too old as to rush having children and not somebody too young as flighty behavior gets out of control.
Don Steel said you'll be dead by 70... Highly Unlikely unless you live an unhealthy lifestyle (smoke, drink, stress, not enough sleep, over eat, etc).
We're all living longer and looking forward, not backward. What's in the past is fun, but I find the future just as interesting if not more so.
"Well actually, she's not REALLY my daughter. But she does like to call me Daddy... at certain moments..."
I'll be honest here.
I'm a guy in my early 20's and have dated women who are over 40 in Asia.
20+ age gap. No problem at all. I'm happy and everyone else is happy too.
I've dated women who over 20 years older than me, 15 years older, 10 years older, 5 years older, and of course those who are my own age.
Needless to say, the older women were more than delighted!
Dated or banged?
Both. There are actual personal relationships, and the second one would follow too.
Many women in their 30's can still look very young like college students, especially if you're outside the US. I can walk around with a woman who's 10 or 15 years older and she would still look like she's maybe in her late 20's, so there wouldn't be that much of a physical difference.
I like girls in the 30-35 range. They are usually still good looking, very horny, and usually mature. Some of the best sex to be had can be with girls in that age range.
I wonder what is better, regarding asian girls.
Find a young girl, near twenties, which has more chances to have less bad experiences from life (broken relationships, even abuse, hear broken, etc),
or a bit older girl about thirties, who may have bad experiences but maybe she is positioned and targeted better to what she realistically expects from the new mate?
Jamesbond, I think it is amazing that there is a double standard in America regarding people and dating/marriage age differences. On the one hand, in today's society it seems that "Cougars" (much older women who prefer younger men) is celebrated. While older men who wish to be with much younger women (15-30 years their junior) are looked upon as being "perverts" and "creeps" (unless the men happen to be rich and famous).
"Asian girls" is a pretty big group and their age allowances vary greatly.
Philippines: for typical pinays, no age limit. Better quality ones will likely allow 10-20 years difference.
Thailand: Will be OK with a much older guy, but these girls are usually looking for money. Normal/Good girls won't want more than 10-20 years older.
China: About 10 years older is usually fine. You don't see or hear of Chinese girls marrying much older guys, local or foreign.
Those are the ones I know from experience.
Hello Ghost this is Iraqvet2003!!! I too seem to prefer much younger women (especially Asian or Latina ones). I just turned 43 years old two weeks ago (Jan. 25, 2016) and I just love the look of young Filipinas!!! Or even many young European girls are also hot particularly, Italian, French, Czech, Greek, Serbian, or Ukrainian ones!!!