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What is the verdict on Chinese women? Dominant or Submissive

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What is the verdict on Chinese women? Dominant or Submissive

Postby Adama » November 21st, 2011, 7:01 pm

The rumor in this country is that Chinese women are extremely submissive. Then you have a few dissenting voices who say the opposite is in fact true, that they are domineering and obnoxious.

What is the truth of the matter?

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Postby Repatriate » November 21st, 2011, 7:07 pm

There's 600 million plus Chinese women in the world I don't think you can peg them either way. It's variable but i'd say Chinese women raised in conservative traditional Chinese society tend to be domineering once they are comfortable in their role as wife or mother.
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Postby NorthAmericanguy » November 21st, 2011, 7:57 pm

Repatriate wrote:Chinese women raised in conservative traditional Chinese society tend to be domineering once they are comfortable in their role as wife or mother.


+1^ I agree.


From what I have been told from Chinese men, in their culture, the mother (or eldest woman) runs the household (often times aggressively) while the men run everything else outside the household.
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Postby magnum » November 21st, 2011, 8:31 pm

My only girl friend was chinese, she didn't seem dominating at all, though I can't recall what part of china she grew up on.


I know her dad left her mother, so she had major issues trusting men.

Ironically she dumped me because her step dad told her to stop dating the white demon, go figure on the "trust" issue.
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Postby Falcon » November 21st, 2011, 8:59 pm

It depends.

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Postby Repatriate » November 22nd, 2011, 3:37 am

Those videos look staged. If someone drove a car inside a dealership like that in China they would find themselves in jail with serious fines pretty quickly.

I've never seen behavior that bad with Chinese girls and I have the inside track on such things. :lol:
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Postby Fenix » November 22nd, 2011, 4:16 am

The ones I talk to are submissive.
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Postby Taco » November 22nd, 2011, 4:22 am

Chinese women are anything but submissive and the wealthier they are the worse their personality is. However, there not all the same, maybe 1 out of 10 or 1 out of 20 is easy to cope with. You might have to meet many Chinese women just to find one that doesn't drive you insane. Shanghai women are the worst of them all and Chinese men know this but most foreigners don't .
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Postby Fenix » November 22nd, 2011, 4:48 am

The two I talk to have this criteria:

1. She owns her own clothing line. She lives in Shanghai.

2. The other one is going to school to be a lawyer. She lives in Shenzhen.

They are sweet as can be. Ask me how I am doing and check up on me from time to time. Good girls.
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Postby Winston » November 22nd, 2011, 5:27 am

Phoenix Sosa wrote:The ones I talk to are submissive.


Couldn't it be that they just act submissive to lure you in at first? Then later, their real personality shows?
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Postby Falcon » November 22nd, 2011, 5:29 am

Growing up in a Taiwanese family, I know better than to think that most Taiwanese / Chinese women are submissive. They can be very domineering and even obnoxious, especially when not in public. Time and again, I've seen Chinese husbands being driven around by their wives. The more well-to-do they are, the more this is likely to happen.

With many Asian and Latina women, expect them to be strong-willed. However, unlike American women, they will still stay in traditional gender roles and show their partners a lot of respect (while still being strong-willed in many ways).

"Dominant or submissive" does not have any simple answers. Women can be very dominant in one domain (raising children, for example) but not in another (say, finances).
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Postby Taco » November 22nd, 2011, 5:35 am

Phoenix Sosa wrote:The ones I talk to are submissive.


Thats because your not married to them. It's standard Chinese practice for the husband to hand over his paycheck to his wife on payday, no exceptions. Also, nagging your husband, 24/7 is considered normal in China.
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Postby Fenix » November 22nd, 2011, 5:38 am

Winston wrote:
Phoenix Sosa wrote:The ones I talk to are submissive.


Couldn't it be that they just act submissive to lure you in at first? Then later, their real personality shows?


I don't think so. They haven't shown any signs of that type of behavior. They have been the same since I met them. Both of them found me, not the other way around. It's been positive. I don't see any difference talking to them than I do with other women from other countries. They're sweethearts. I would date both in a heartbeat. Just my experience.
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Postby Falcon » November 22nd, 2011, 5:39 am

Repatriate wrote:I've never seen behavior that bad with Chinese girls and I have the inside track on such things. :lol:


Well, I have. :? I'm serious - Earlier in my life, I've seen middle-aged Chinese moms go berserk like that.

Such behavior can happen with women of any ethnicity or race. But still, most Chinese girls will not behave anything like that. I've had very positive experiences with many Chinese girls.
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Postby chanta76 » November 22nd, 2011, 6:15 am

Phoenix Sosa

You say both these women found you. Ding Ding ding.. ..maybe Winston is somewhat right. From my experience sometimes women hand pick that men and act in way to get the man. And once that man is addicted to that woman. She controls him and manipulate him.

Just saying....
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