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I am a new member of this forum. Powerpeecee, if I were you I would listen to Dr. Strangelove's advice, he know's what he's talking about.
Do you really think you can go to a foreign country country--much less a developing, poor nation--with no education or marketable skilling, and almost zero money and think you can make a "go" of it?
Even moving to an industrialized wealthy foreign country it is extremely difficult to live for a duration without a college education and/or a consistent revenue stream. Of course one exception would be if your father or best friend owned a company in Germany or Poland,(wherever) and he helped you obtain a work visa therebye giving you gainful employment. Without this scenerio, and with your current credentials, it's almost impossible.
And why would you want to work on a cruise ship? By proxy you wouldn't even be living in another country, but just working and serving the same kind of people you want to get away from---fat spoiled Americans. What's the point?
And don't have any illusions about moving to a third-world country like the Philippines unless you can provide for yourself. Keep in mind most of these "third world countries" are full of college educated adults that can barely put food on the table. Do you really think as a foreigner with no degree or marketable skills you'll be able to compete with them on their turf?
If you're really serious about living in a foreign country listen to Dr. Strangelove and go back to college. Better your skills and make yourself marketable in this global economy.
I hope this helps. And i'm not a "flamer", unless flaming means to tell the truth.
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I've got an idea for you. You've got or are about to get $1500 on hand, yes? Here's one route than CAN work, if you're willing to do it: get a recognized certification to teach English as a foreign language. It will probably cost a little more than $1500, but not much more. Go to Dave's ESL cafe at http://www.eslcafe.com for all the info and discussion you'll need to get started. With that, you've got a ticket to go almost anywhere in the world. Just be careful about where you go. Some places are better than others, as in safer and more interesting.
I'll save you some time with some basic information. Of course, check it out for yourself in the discussions there with hundreds of people around the world who are already doing it.
First, as mentioned above, be sure to get a recognized certification. That would be TESL (also called TESOL) or CELTA. Those include classroom instruction and classroom teaching experience. Do NOT go for an online certification. Those don't include classroom teaching experience, and are not as useful or accepted as TESL and CELTA. TESL and CELTA are internationally recognized standards for certification. Everything else is second-best, and you'll get job offers accordingly. Most reputable employers require TESL or CELTA. A college degree isn't necessary, but solid certification is. Don't cut corners on that.
Be sure to go through the discussion threads about employers. You'll find good information about who to work for and who to avoid. There are plenty of good employers available. If you get a CELTA from International House, for example, they have offices all over the world and job openings listed. Same with TESL. Typically, an employer will pay round-trip airfare for a one-year teaching contract. They also provide housing. You'll get enough salary to live comfortably by local standards.
That's about the only way to get out and live abroad in the near future with the resources you have on hand now. If this is not appealing for you, maybe it will be for someone else.
I see from the first few posts in this thread that you already considered English teaching but don't find it interesting for you. In that case, you're going to have to map out your goal, and then the path to get there. Management by objectives. Set your objective, clearly. Then figure out what must be done to get from here to there. See previous advice, aside from the English teaching route.
PLEASE kindly understand that I am in no way saying you suck nor am I in ANY way putting you down!! Your particular situation was only being objectively evaluated without rose-colored glasses. Does this make me a son-of-a-bitch for saying so??
GMM567 says that $1500 may well be enough for two or so months, which really speaks some serious volumes I won't go into at this time. NOW, let me pose the following questions: What happens after the two month period? What will you do IF it takes more time to get a job? How will you pay for your continued living expenses? HOW will you even get back home?? Mind you, these are only preliminary questions.
Let us not even consider Winston's advice as he does not even come close to LIVING UP TO ANY of the advice he freely dispenses to others on a lark. He's siphoned at least $15000 out of his enabling father within the past year. Would YOU really even give a thought
THERE ARE MANY ways to gain additional education that are quite cost effective. For example, you may want to consider obtaining an Undergraduate Degree through Distance Education. You will be under the guidance of a Conselor/Advisor who will work with you so as to keep you moving forward. Of note, the financing is quite flexible as well.
FTR(For the record), I am also not some ass-licking conformist myself!! I have also seen the destructive stresses of people who work 60++ hours per week to maintain the 'Keeping up with The Joneses' facade. Yeah, I ain't none too interested in some BS Corporate Career Ladder. What I AM is an American who has lived outside of the U.S. for nearly 11 years!! Like Doc Strangelove, I have less than NO desire to return/live/work in the U.S. at all. Further, I shudder at what will happen once Hillary manages to con her way into office. Indeed, I digress...... You know, I agree with Winston a LOT on the topic of alienation, isolation, and all the phony bravado he speakes of in the U.S. HEY, I make an honest and legit living in a respected profession. Additionally, I pay my own way and am actively managing my financial affairs quite well.
Self-investment will be but the first step for you on what could be a great global adventure. Take the time and focus upon yourself and your own strengths. Build up and eliminate your weaknesses as well. Talk to people who have actually left the U.S.A. and have made it on their own......
You can make the transition only if you are willing to take the steps. I wish you nothing but Open Road and GodSpeed in your desire to Bust Out of the U.S.
OJ Simpson got away with murder, but he couldn't outrun KARMA.................
I know a couple of guys who live out of the US.
One guy lives in Ukraine. He original went to Russia on a Mormon mission.
There he crammed learning Russian for 2 years. Tired of the Morman BS he struck out on his own.
It was tough at first but he got his Russian down to near native and can easily get a job anytime as a translator for at least 15 bucks or more an hour. Because it is very rare to find some who can speak both languages so well in Ukraine it is super easy form him to find work. And because he lives like an average Ukrainian he only needs a few month work a year.
Right now you could get a job as a English teacher in China and make more money than the average Chinese person and get laid as much as you want. I know of guys the literally have a different girl every day doing this job. With not to much money and minimal skill you can do this. Olympic fever is very high right now in China, it is a very big deal there. At this moment the China option is the quickest and easiest way that I know of.
There was this guy in my Chinese class that was going to do this, this guy well he was not playing with a full deck. He had a masters in education. He would argue with the instructor saying she was going to fast etc. The guy was a moron and just not all there. I told him he should be glad she is pushing us as you are going to be in China in three months and guess what you going to need to speak Chinese. After he was in China for a few months he wrote this girl in class and complained â€œthey all speak Chinese here and it is hard to understand them.â€� Anyways it is an easy option as you have little resources.
When meet an American guy in Cebu who was studying to be a doctor. I have heard of guys doing this in South America as well as India which has very good schools. He was going to USC but the cost was too much. He said they push you harder in Cebu. He said it was an extremely demanding school work more so than USC. Want to be a Doc? There are affordable options available to you if you think outside the box.
There are so so many options. You could work in Iraq. I almost did but a girlfriend at the time was dead against it. first 80K tax free. I could have made 250 a year easily at the time.
Yes you need some skill to make money anywhere you go. A Jewish guy told me the reasons tend to pick jobs like doctors and lawyers is they are skills that are needed anywhere you go in the world.
Getting high and F-ing your girlfriend is not a skill. You wont regret getting a useful skill. And yes you have the whole world before you.
W: This might be sound practical advice. But it's very pessimistic and not really true. I know plenty of people with little money and education who got jobs overseas. Where there's a will, there's a way. And miracles do happen, even when you're at the end of the rope. Look online or ask around among travelers, there are many inspirational stories that defy the odds.
Like I said, God never closes my doors without opening others. You have to have faith, do your best, and leave the rest up to the universe. That simple but profound advice DOES WORK. I've experienced it, and known many others who have as well.
W: Dr. Strangelove, you can't really be a psychiatrist or even a good efficient person if you can't read or listen when I tell you and the wooweasel members something a million times!!!!!!!!!
I NEVER HAD SCHIZOPHRENIA. It was a misdiagnosis. Every link above that you posted mentions that. But for some reason, YOU still WANT to believe it. It's annoying. An intelligent open minded adult who listens to reason wouldn't keep bringing it up. How many times do I have to explain it to you?
Back in the 80's, everything that psychiatrists couldn't understand was labeled as schizophrenia. They made mistakes. I had no communication skills at the time anyway. So how could they properly diagnose me? I was merely a control freak escaping depression with some OCD tendencies.
Can you please lay this false subject to rest? Why are you acting like we are in a political campaign?
I unbanned you from this forum, by the way, since you have offered some good useful information on the forum, and sent a notification to your email.
If you want to stay on, stop the pointless bashing please.
PS - Here's a challenge for you. Look up the criteria for schizophrenia and post them here. That will teach you something. If you knew anything about the symptoms of that mental illness, you'd know that I have NONE of the symptoms of it. So why you keep repeating the lie?
W: Dr. Strangelove, if you are really a sociologist or psychologist, then you must show at least some objectivity, wouldn't you agree?
FYI, Stefan never gave me regular employment. He just gave me a few occassional odd jobs. That was his fault. He renegged on that promise. Not my fault. I've never had an employer hire me and then not give me any work.
Besides, you can't use him as a source against me, since he has less than amicable FALL OUT with practically EVERYONE who has ever worked for him. EVERYONE. That right there disqualifies him as a source. Plus he hates everyone and everything and is proud of his negativity.
Remember this damaging letter about him from one of his workers that I recently got?
"Hey Winston, this is ********, remember me from up at Gov before you and Stefan left for the Philippines? We have not talked since you left, but you would likely be very interested to know some of the things that have happened between me and Stefan and some other workers. If anything so that you know just how off-the-rocker he is. He essentially stole 10,000 from me, in the form of wages promised but never paid (this is heavily documented) needless to say I am no longer working for him, and a new worker Mikey and him are possibly embroiled in a legal battle over trivial circumstances. My honest opinion is that he is unstable and possibly not even safe to be around, let alone do business with, I curse my poor judgement in ever trusting him.
Hope all is well with you!"
W: And this is coming from a guy who is very mellow, easygoing, nonconfrontational, who would usually never say anything bad about anyone! Doesn't that say a lot?
Dr. Strangelove, can you even show the slightest amount of objectivity here?
PS - For your education, let me tell you that one of the symptoms of schizophrenia is uttering incoherent thoughts and sentences that make no sense. Look it up online at any credible source. I never had those symptoms. My sentences have always been coherent, as well as my thoughts. And I could always play a solid logical game of chess. I never lost my rationality.
So drop it doc.
I was in the same situation as you were.
I can only advise you to make a hard decision, stick to it and make definite plans.
Join a few expatâ€™s boards and see what they have to say and deal with.
Fly overseas to Europe or Asia after doing your research.
While you are there get to know the expats living there and ask them how they did it.
Teaching English as a second language is one option for a native English speaker to make a living.
A qualified man can make a good salary in Korea, Vietnam, Japan and Eastern Europe.
Research the TEFL schools Stateside or better yet overseas!
BTW, avoid what the mainstream travel guides have to say especially â€œLonely Planetâ€� and â€œRough Guideâ€�!
They are very
PC and biased against single heterosexual males abroad.
They are full of disinformation and inaccurate, read this article about a former â€œLPâ€� author who admitted he made up a lot of his writings!
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/s ... 05,00.html
Stop dreaming and start doing the hard work needed to escape!
Youâ€™ll be â€œkicking itâ€� in Brazil or Thailand or Europe with a sexy sweet young girl who caters to your wishes next year if you work for it!
On a forum topic on how to leave the country Iâ€™ve gotten no responses, no private messages and no enquiries to my post on living abroad successfully!
I am now happily living in Thailand with more female
attention and affection than I can handle.
Itâ€™s been several weeks; doesnâ€™t any man have any curiosity or drive to find out if he can do the same?
This is not the first time; on other boards Iâ€™ve encountered the same apathy.
IMHO, most American men have been spiritually castrated into being â€œgirly-menâ€� with no boldness, inquisitiveness or will to explore a possible escape to a potentially happier life abroad.
I'm sure we're interested. Tell us how you did it!
Are you teaching English in Thailand?
â€œ Momopiâ€� asked:
I teach English here in LOS (Land of Smiles), it doesnâ€™t pay much but the cost of
living is much lower than the States.
I managed to buy a beachfront condo in Pattaya on the Eastern Seaboard.
The first thing a potential expatriate must do to make a successful escape is to commit
and make a choice on actively exploring the notion of leaving oneâ€™s homeland.
He must commit to make as many field trips as he can to check out the country desired.
He must cease merely dreaming about living abroad immediately as that encourages procrastination.
He will instead visualize himself actually working, living and playing in the chosen country.
He will read all books on how to successfully expatriate.
He will research on the chosen country, learn something about the culture, history and
some of the language.
Once he is there he will connect with the expatriates already living there via the many expat clubs.
He will ask hard questions about the reality and ins and outs of living there and finding
He will visit the local realty companies to check out condos and houses.
After he does all of this if he still is motivated he will make a decision and stick to it.
Everything he does from now on will support his expatriating.
He will get rid of that fancy car with its expensive monthly payments.
He will move out of that fancy apartment and into a trailer park to save money
or convert his property into a source of income.
He will cease useless hobbies that are a financial drain such as playing the horses or
going to lap-dance clubs.
So what if your family and friends raise their eyebrows, you are busy
engineering your escape to a better life.
He will make financial arrangements with his accountant for overseas
communication and tax returns.
He will start disposing of accumulated junk in his life thatâ€™s served its purpose but is
now a drag on his life.
Junk such as comic book collections, old love letters for exeâ€™s, bowling trophies, etc.
He should be down to a suitcase and a carry-on by the time he departs.
He will set a firm date for moving out, if he doesnâ€™t he will find more excuses for
inaction and never commit.
He will be very discreet about his plans to casual acquaintances especially Western women especially if he plans to move to Thailand.
He will find that doubters, mostly female will come out and try to discourage you.
They will cast doubt on your manhood ( â€œWhatâ€™s wrong, are you threatened by strong
They will tell your half-truths about moving abroad ( â€œitâ€™s dangerous, youâ€™ll be
back in a month.â€�).
Do not depend on mainstream travel guide for information relevant to expatriating.
They are written for back-packers, wealthy couples, women, Gays and Lesbians.
â€œLonely Planetâ€� is very slanted against the single heterosexual male tourist and
is not to be depended upon..
On-line forums such as http://www.pattayasecrets.com are better and have less disinformation.
Putting up pictures of the countryâ€™s landmarks and post-it notes on bathroom mirrors
with encouraging phrases is helpful.
I have strong doubts that any of this is going to be listened to much less act upon.
Few Americans even have passports.
Most men are used to being wage-slaves and will block out any information or advice
from friends about becoming an expatriate.
Most will just read this, shake their heads, and declare that itâ€™s a hopeless dream and return
to working at a soulless job with a miserable commute and a rancid nationwide dating
Thousand of expats live abroad, why not you?
Thailand is different from Malaysia.
Malaysia is mostly Muslim, Thailand is mostly Buddhist.
My itinerary would be to spend a couple of days in Bangkok.
Bangkok is crowded, dirty and polluted but is incredibly
alive, dynamic, fun and fascinating.
Then I'd go up-country to Chiang Mai and see the Golden Triangle.
Perhaps a side trip to the Isaan region to see Khorat and then down to the
resort of Pattaya.
That will give you a generally good idea of what Thailand is like.