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I'm just a bit curious on the matter so I can get a general idea of where some of you guys are coming from when you post. How many of you are married or divorced? How old are you, and how many times have you been married or divorced? You can even expand on the answer and give me a brief description of what you learned from the experiences of being married/divorced. Please try to stay on topic in this thread, thanks.
Been married once and divorced once. Been single for four year now. I'm 38 and learned when married that people change with time as do their expectations. Once those expectations change into a desire for full control over you it isn't the place for any self respecting man. I couldn't let that situation be the example for my son of the way things work between a man and a woman. I payed for the best situation I could have and am now living it. I do not regret the choice...
"Never underestimate the predictability of stupidity"!!!
Have fun when your about 60-70...
American women are also thinking the same thing. Not just American men.
LOL people like him crack me up, so many beautiful women huh? Struck with one huh? Most men live in the same place for a long time, drive cars for a very long time, wear underwear for a very long time (or it gets too many holes in it) and you're saying its a bad idea to marry one woman and be stuck with that? Newsflash despite what you heard, what happens today will not happen tomorrow.
As long as developing economies improve the fewer and fewer chances you'll have to be of advanced age and hook up with women half or more your age. That's why I said have fun when you hit about 60-70 and knowing that most White Men (assuming your White) don't age too well (especially if you party, drink and smoke). I don't know if you'll want to keep chasing women when your 50-60 years old....
Yeah, you will - lol!
Me? Late 50s (very late) been married and divorced twice; total of about 20 years marriage; 2 kids.
One of the falacies of getting older is this notion that OMG, you will be alone. Much better to be older and alone than with someone horrible. OTOH, I can definitely see myself marrying again, but unlikely to happen with an AW.
- divorced once, no kids
What I learned
- marriage is more stressful than being single
- being married to a an American woman is a no win situation(for the husband)
- theres a million things that can go wrong in a marriage(high risk investment), sometimes you don't see it coming
- filipinas, as a group, are the best wives on this planet, I don't care what anyone else tells you
- I would still like to get married again, but only to a filipina in a non-western country
I will turn age 48 at this Coming January 7th. 2012. I am Never Before Married & No Children.
For there was All That Time nobody available for me to Date at my very own Local Area. All the
Women I knew at My Local Area from Back during my day as A Younger man in my 20,s were all either
dating Somebody else or They were Just Simply not Interested in me.
Also I was going to travel to Russia Back in either 1996 or 1997 to Search for a Wife There but it was
too Doggone expensive for me Personally.
Also this I Know God does not Make Mistakes But I now feel that I was placed at the wrong Country (The United States.)
Social wise back when I was Born on January 7th. 1964.
For If it were up to me then I would Have been Placed at either Russia or Brazil or any one of the Eastern Bloc Countries Like Hungary or Slovakia or the Check republic where I Might have
( Just Maybe Mind you.) Found & Married My Future Wife at both sooner & faster That way.
Again this Stupid Country The United Socialist States of America.
Thank you guys for all of your answers.
local_madness - What you describe for "insanity, insecurities, problems, and bullshit" would be a high maintenance bitch. None of us would want to commit to that so I know where you are coming from. However, if you met a girl who is low maintenance and has minimal problems, then why not commit to a girl like that if the opportunity is there?
dogboy86 - what kind of expectations are you talking about?
falcon - hehe I don't doubt it. Since most American women are taught from a young age these days that career is better than family, that is until reality smacks them in the head when they get older.
djfourmoney - good points. who would want to chase women at the age of 60? No thanks. As far as the white man who doesn't age well, I can neither confirm nor deny what you say. That comes down to a matter of perception and is irrelevant to this thread.
davewe - I'm guessing your first two marriages were with AW. Ouch! What did you learn from it? I'm guessing the ex's won custody of your kids.
taco - can't disagree with you on what you say, but I have to ask why you think filipina's make the best wives?
greetercb - that is quite the story. That sucks that you didn't get to go to Russia. You probably would have found the wife that you've been looking for. I agree that God doesn't make mistakes, but perhaps you were placed here to grow in order to find a good foreign woman who can appreciate who you are? The hard part is just getting over there.
Nope, we have joint custody.
As Dr. Phil once said, "I would rather be single and lonely, than married and miserable."
I have never been married but would like to someday to young, good looking foreign woman!
"When I think about the idea of getting involved with an American woman, I don't know if I should laugh .............. or vomit!"
"Trying to meet women in America is like trying to decipher Egyptian hieroglyphics."
[quote="Guyver"]taco - can't disagree with you on what you say, but I have to ask why you think filipina's make the best wives?[quote]
What I love about filipinas
- they can cook and sew and like doing it
- of all the women I've met they love me the most and I'm just an average guy, even women half my age
- filipinas work harder at maintaining their marriage and family than any women I've met
- filipinas are just fun to be with, you can just be yourself around them, theres no pressure
- filipinas have small asses and small vaginas(I'm an ass man)
- most filipinas are nymphos
I could probably list more things but those are the main points.
I was married once. The marriage (to an AW) didn't last, just 2.5 years. I got my divorce papers last spring, and I consider myself lucky because I got away clean with
no support payments or major loss of assets (we divvied up everything right down the middle, more or less). While I was separated from the ex, the only time I ever heard
from her was the day she phoned me to ask if it was time we got divorced, and then threatened to get a lawyer if I wouldn't give her some money. I called her bluff by telling her to go ahead
and get a lawyer. The doom and gloom she said was coming my way never materialized. While I had to pay for the divorce, I filed all the papers myself, and no trial was ever held.
Best $500.00 I've ever spent.
I'm finding now that I have little appetite to remarry. However, I still would like some female companionship and can't find it in my area. No, the women here all think they
are too good for 99% of the guys out there. So, time to look overseas.
I was married to my practice wife (AW) for 7 years. Got a divorce and married my current wife. Nevertheless I'm MUCH happier the second time around.
First time I made the mistake marrying her. Don't get me wrong, she's a very nice girl and we still talk now and then. But like many others, I reached my early 30s and thought to myself, "hey it's time to get married and settled down." Too many people fall in love with the idea of getting married which can get you into trouble fast.