theprimebait wrote:Children have no benefit these days unless you enjoy raising them.in the ages of yore they were your slaves on a farm,they cared for you in your old age.
they carried on your legacy etc
but what is the importance of a legacy?when your dead,does it matter?legacy is immaterial.1000 years from now youll be forgotten.
what can a wife really offer you?validation?
I think thats it.as Sex,food,maid can be bought.
its the need to ''feel loved''since most humans cannot love themselves,they need external validation.
a good website on marriage,family,society etc
also following the social script means very little in our atomized societies.
Good points. It seems that everything in society wants to tie you down and restrict your freedom. You ever notice that? This goes for all the basic things around you, such as:
- your family, spouse, marriage, children
- your job and work
- your house and bills
- contracts, subscriptions and leases
- pets you own
- people who want to sell you stuff and get you hooked on it
- your material assets, property and junk, which end up owning you as well
Have you noticed that? Everything around you wants to tie you down and obligate you. That's why sometimes I think it's better to just be alone and away from commercial distractions, at least for a while.
Btw, your link above made an interesting point about how you are allowed to say you love others, including your family and country, and even food, but if you say that you love yourself, it's a taboo and makes you look narcissistic. Isn't that odd? Why are you allowed to love others and other things, but not yourself? Here is why:
This brings us to a key and extremely important Forbidden Truth: Regardless of whether or not the "love", meaning positive attachment, that a person may feel for other living things or objects is in fact valid, society overtly instructs all human beings that they must not love themselves! This is amazingly perverse, but absolutely true! If a person declares: "I love my wife", "I love my children", "I love the Los Angeles Dodgers baseball team" "I love chocolate" "I love america", etc..., every single one of these declarations is met with approval by society. But if the person declares "I love myself", he meets with disapproval from society, he is labeled a "narcissist" at best, suffering from a mental dysfunction, or a selfish, perverse, evil person at worst. Do you creatures realize how utterly insane and diseased this is?? The only legitimate type of actual love that should exist within a sane person's mind, is love of self. Every sane human being should reserve this deepest, most intense emotional feelings of value and unconditional, positive embrace, for himself. Not for other living things, not for objects or foods or teams or countries, but for yourself! Society decrees love to be the deepest, most intensely positive emotion in existence, and yet at the same time, decrees that it's citizen-slaves must not love themselves, but instead must direct this deepest and most intense of positive emotions towards other creatures and even towards inanimate objects like chocolate, and theoretical concepts, like a "nation". This is part of a deliberate, malicious policy of ego-destruction, undertaken by all societies to strip all individuals of the precious, irreplaceable, incredibly valuable, intensely narcissistic "love" of self that all children are born with, that is instinctual in nature, and is a wonderful asset for all creatures, as they navigate through life. Narcissism is an extremely positive, valuable character and emotional trait to possess. It carries literally no drawbacks, for the individual himself. It does carry extreme drawbacks for societal leaders, since a narcissistic, self-loving person would defy all of the evil, destructive, malevolently harmful doctrines, literally hundreds of different doctrines, that every society is determined to foist upon it's citizen-slaves. The entire structure of society is designed to get citizens to suffer, to sacrifice themselves, their safety, their health, their freedom, their lives, for no valid or legitimate reason. The only way society can achieve this genocidally evil goal, is to strip all citizen-slaves of their self-love, and make them addicted to and dependent upon, the "love" of others, as well as to cause them to reject love of self, and direct this emotion, in a pale, invalid version, onto other people, creatures, objects, and concepts.
Perversely, societies enjoy remarkable success in achieving this goal. You literally will never hear any human being publicly declare: "I love myself", so demonized and stigmatized has this glorious, precious, perfectly natural and incredibly valuable attitude, been decreed by society. Because there are no public decrees of self love, individuals who are trying to build up, preserve and protect their precious emotional and character trait of narcissistic self-love, have almost no chance of keeping their self-love alive. Society teaches that it is wrong and bad to love yourself, constantly ordering all human beings to direct this emotion outward, to "give it away" to other creatures, objects, concepts, rather than to direct it inward, to give yourself the love that you deserve and that is pure, genuine, and so wonderfully empowering and nurturing. And so you creatures give it away, day after day, you throw this precious emotion away, on others, on things that are not even alive. Absolutely amazingly! And you grow to despise and loathe yourselves, you grow to perceive your own life and your own body as being worthless, disposable, expendable, exactly as your society wishes. Score yet another victory for your evil societies, as a result of your pathetic inferiority as individual creatures. Think about it, you fools! Why would your society overtly instruct you to "love" other people, animals, foods, sports, countries, etc..., but not to love yourself, while at the same time putting forth the definitional decree that "love" is the strongest, most important, most positive and necessary emotion in existence, that all citizens must experience and enjoy?? The only possible explanation for this, based upon sane thinking patterns, is the True, accurate explanation: Your society deliberately and with malice aforethought, wants to deny you the emotional and intellectual ability to love yourselves, and for the purpose of achieving this goal, demonizes all self-love by applying negative definitional labels such as "narcissist, to any and all humans who dare to try and defy societal efforts to strip them of their self-love. This societal demonization of both self-love and narcissism, constitutes one of the most pervasively brutal, harmful, and destructive of all societal policies, for all individuals, on a personal level. Not only is the person stripped of self-love, but they are also ordered by society to find invalid substitute creatures/objects to give this precious emotion to, which means they are ordered to care about, like, value, other living things as well as inanimate objects and concepts, more than they care about, like, value themselves. Again, this is because love is decreed to be the strongest and most intense of positive emotions, and society recognizes that it is far too dangerous to allow you creatures to properly love yourselves.
Therefore, if society orders you to love other creatures and things, but not to love yourself, the only possible message that this perverse decree can deliver to individuals, is that their own lives, safety, welfare, comfort, are of less importance than the lives, safety, value, comfort of other living things, of inanimate objects, and of concepts such as "national pride". This is how all societies get citizen-slaves to join their militaries. The hapless, pathetic citizen-slave is brainwashed into accepting the notion that he needs to "love his country", after he has been stripped by society of the ability to love himself. The natural, beneficial embrace of self-love emotion is stripped away, and society creates invalid substitute creatures, objects, and concepts, instructing and redirecting it's torture victim to apply and focus the emotion of love, onto these exterior, substitute venues. None of these exterior paths of love focus, have any legitimacy or validity, because the only proper direction that human beings should focus the emotion of love, is towards themselves. The primary method by which society gets individuals to direct "love" outward, is by stripping them of the ability to love themselves. This makes all subsequent outward directions of love, invalid, because an individual who cannot love himself, can never genuinely and in a rational, sane way, love anyone or anything else. All outward declarations and feelings of love that follow, are invalid, artificially induced and terroristically compelled by society. Lets consider an example: A woman gets pregnant, gives birth to a child, and is instructed by society to love their child. Most women who have children claim to love their children a great deal. A majority, if quizzed, will even declare that they love the child more than they love themselves. They will even declare that if necessary, they would sacrifice their own life to save the life of their child. Society praises and supports this type of an utterly insane attitude, as being demonstrative of proper "motherly love", a proper feeling and expression of love by the mother, for the child. But in reality, the attitude is utterly, completely deranged! Why would any sane person "love" another creature, more than they love themselves? How can a person adopt this ridiculous attitude? Why would a person adopt such a perverse philosophical mindset?? The person is saying that they value, care about, feel affection for themselves, less than they value, care about, feel affection for, some other living thing. The only reason they would feel this way, is because they have been stripped by society of the ability to properly love themselves, and coerced by society into agreeing to invalidly and harmfully transfer their "lost" emotion, onto another living thing. The insane mindset of being willing to sacrifice their own life in order to save the life of someone else, is a natural outgrowth of this brutal victimization. If you don't love yourself, then naturally your own life will have minimal value, to you. The person does not love herself, therefore the person will not value herself, her safety, welfare, or life, while at the same time the person has been terroristically compelled by society to invalidly apply love towards their child, or for that matter, their country/government, thus the person feels compelled to place extreme value upon the safety, welfare, life, of their child/country/government/spouse/etc...
This is the root goal of society, to get all individuals to hate and devalue themselves enough, to the point where they become willing to completely sacrifice their own happiness, comfort, safety, health, and especially their life, upon the command of societal leaders, in whatever manner society wishes. Once stripped of the ability to love himself, it is easy for society to create whatever "substitute objects and paths" it wishes, and to get the individual to embrace and direct an invalid, illegitimate form of love, towards these substitute objects and paths. Understand this folks, it is perfectly possible for some human beings to feel a great deal of affection, caring, empathy, for other human beings. Some mothers can care about, value, really like and feel protective towards their children, in a completely genuine manner. But only if they genuinely love themselves, and feel a stronger sense of affection, caring, value, towards themselves than they do for their child, or for anyone or anything else. This is why, in a sane society, all current definitions of "love" would be declared invalid, and a brand new definition would take their place. Love would be defined as: A powerfully positive emotion that mentally healthy human beings feel and direct towards themselves. The most powerfully positive emotion that exists within human consciousness. This definition would not only allow, but overtly encourage all human beings to embrace a narcissistic love of self, while at the same time allowing them to feel genuinely positive emotions, such as affection, empathy, caring, for other living things as well as inanimate objects/concepts. But never to the degree that any of the self-love that they feel for themselves, is sacrificed, compromised, or directed outward. All mentally and emotionally healthy human beings, in a sane society, would reserve the emotion of "love", since it is the most positive and powerful and valuable emotion, for themselves. They would direct it inward. They would value and embrace the gloriously narcissistic love of self, that they instinctually possess. They would recognize that no other creature, no object, no ideology, and no concept in existence, is worthy of receiving this most powerful of positive emotions. Yes, you can "like" your children, your parents, the people you have sex with, your friends, food that you find delicious, your car, your government, etc... You can like those people/things. You can value them, you can care about them, you can feel protective towards them, you can empathize with them, you can go to quite a lot of effort to try and protect them, keep them safe. Assuming that your True Reality so allows/dictates. But you must not "love" them. Because love is the most powerful emotion of all, and must be properly directed inward, towards yourself. I suppose some people who do genuinely love themselves, would feel the need to intellectually apply the word "love" to people that they really care about, such as their children. And this in itself would be okay, because "loving" other living things only becomes catastrophically harmful when combined with an inability to properly love yourself. So, if a parent wanted to "feel love" towards their child, this would be okay, as long as the parent has not been stripped of the proper ability to love himself. This means the parent could not love the child more than he loves himself, and the parent could not be willing to sacrifice his own life or welfare, for the benefit of the child. Both of these feelings/actions indicate and prove an inability to properly love yourself. You cannot love any living thing more than you love yourself, and you cannot place the life or the welfare of any living thing above your own life and welfare, unless you have lost the ability to properly love yourself.
The horrific consequences of being stripped of the ability to love yourself, are obvious to all sane and rational observers of the human condition. People agree to join nationalistic armies, because they have lost the ability to properly love and value themselves. People agree to enslave themselves to other people, because they want the other person to love them, as a result of having been stripped of the ability to love themselves. People create children, claim to love them, and yet viciously assault them via spanking, brutally torture them in thousands of different ways, sometimes murder them, because they have no genuine and legitimate concept of what love is, as a result of having been stripped of the ability to love themselves. People engage in desperate, futile, lifelong, obsessive quests to obtain the love of other living things, or they obsessively direct their love onto food, drugs, alcohol, sports, political movements, nationalistic movements, all because they have been stripped of the ability to love themselves. There are hundreds of additional negative consequences, downright horrific consequences, that I could list here. The bottom line is, every so-called "civilized" society on planet earth here in the early part of the 21st century, deliberately attempts to strip all citizens of their ability to properly love themselves, and to an extreme degree, with at least 99.999% of all citizens, society succeeds in accomplishing this malevolent feat. There are horrifically negative consequences, on a direct and personal level, for the vast majority of all human beings who have been stripped of the ability to properly love themselves. The life choices that these societal victim-creations make, and the life paths that they follow, are invariably inferior, perverse, irrational, harmful, deadly, and this a direct result of the fact that society has malevolently stripped them of the ability to properly love themselves.