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I've been in China for two months. The girls are generally pretty reserved and I rarely see public displays of affection. Hand holding sometimes, and kissing more rarely.
You shouldn't monger nice girls anywhere. Just do p4p for that. If you do it in China, you'll probably get your ass kicked or worse. The girls here can be immature gigglers but serious at the same time from what I've seen. And I've seen some Chinese girls in relationships who are very controlling. But they seem to be very faithful themselves.
Public displays of affection are rare and only young ones do this. In general it is frowned upon in public. They also know that laowai like stuff like that, so they probably will ignore you if you do that, but they still wont like it.
On the other hand, in private, that all goes out the window. They can be closet freaks, but not like an American Woman, but just hungry appetite wise.
My advice is flirtatious talk with them is okay, saying things like what you wanna do to them when you get the chance, etc.. but keep your hands off for the most part, until you guys are alone.
Hand holding though is VERY VERY common in China, usually with younger people, so you can always do that.
Foreplay is a tough one to gauge because some Chinese women can suck the color off your dick and some are deathly afraid to even look at a penis! Some can handle getting their p***y eaten out and there are a few that may cry and whine. Many have no experience at all, so the important thing to focus on is whether or not she is open minded enough and can be taught! Just because she is scared and inexperienced, does not make her not worth the trouble, just makes her potentially a blank canvas you can work with !!! Many are virgins and can or will bleed even if they are not, especially if your penis is 6+ long and you have decent girth. You should lead on foreplay as a general rule, until you guys have been together awhile then she will be giving it to you and being more comfortable. The way I see it, if you are good at sex with AW, you can easily make one super addicted to you, so be careful with that.
I forgot to say that, some of them have watched western porn movies and have some knowledge of sex stuff, but some have never seen anything and just basically will lay down on their back, unless you are patient and willing to teach in a positive manner. Make sure you talk to them well enough to know you can even touch them intimately before trying. It is not very common, but if they scream and freak out because you touched them wrong and they claim rape, you are f***ed. Not because you are a male, but because you are a laowai. Just make sure you guys are kinda on the same page. Don't try to get intimate with a woman you cannot communicate with at all language wise. That is just risky and stupid for many other reasons.
Courting a Chinese woman is tooooo easy. IF YOU CAN COMMUNICATE! They keep shit very simple and practical. If you do not like what you see or hear, make sure you understand it clearly, and make a quick decision yourself. Move on to the next one or keep it moving with her.
She says she would give me "massagi" if i went to Shanghai. Maybe that's a starting point that may escalate. I will just try to first establish physical contact like hand holding or high fives which I can escalate to kissing as time goes on. Anyways thanks a lot for this insight man. You've been the most helpful when it comes to Chinese women. The rest of the dudes here(Asian ones) are probably mad cause a black male is with their women.
I bet maybe 1 or 2 might be, but I doubt it. I actually catch hate from other black males, white males, and Asian women more than any Asian guys. Most Chinese men with a nice wife like me alot usually because I understand their culture and they think their women are awesome too, even if they never tell them that. This tends to be older ones, a little less likely for the younger ones. They have a funny saying I forgot the specific words, but basically it means that Chinese men's best exports are now their daughters, lol.
Thanks for the feedback, just keep working on doing what you are doing, and that is the best payback I could ever get. Lazy and whiny HA guys are killing me.
Just be alpha and when she starts showing good signals, complete the deed.
Be wary of clingy girls though, if she's not the one, don't drag things out.
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