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Asian American Man Burned out from Dating in the US

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Malcolm Z
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Asian American Man Burned out from Dating in the US

Post by Malcolm Z » August 22nd, 2013, 6:16 am

Should I just stick to international escorts from Eastern Europe, South America and Thailand? I know escorts will never provide "true love," but I have not been able to find this in the States (and certainly not for lack of trying); I can more than afford to splurge on high class escorts, but just wanted to see whether it's a wise idea to only go this route and completely close off any attempts at dating. I don't think a 5'4 Asian man like myself, no matter how interesting or successful he is, will ever capture a woman's heart, and I am a little burned out from trying.

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Post by Rayn » August 22nd, 2013, 7:05 am

Go to Thailand, but forget escorts. Focus on finding genuine love over there.

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Post by ladislav » August 22nd, 2013, 6:29 pm

As an Asian American who is 5'4" you might find love in Thailand ( although its a very materialistic society where you need to pay a bride price to parents and where many guys get cheated all the time and the concept of romantic love is not so developed- they are more into un-attachment) but do make efforts to learn Thai if you want to try it there.
Your better bet is VN- and this is where many Asian guys go for wives and few ever complain about the quality of women there. The people there are short in general and you will fit in, the girls are very smart and business oriented.
In the meantime yes, to satisfy the craving, you can go with escorts- it's a lot of fun just make sure you don't pick up some nasty stuff from them.
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Post by bennandsarah » August 22nd, 2013, 7:36 pm

my best friend sue is asian-american. her brother is in the same boat -- even asian women in america don't want asian guys. it's the same way for every average guy too -- one female i know said no nerd will ever get me. to her all guys except hollywood types are 'nerds'. very disheartening.
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Post by Malcolm Z » August 22nd, 2013, 9:34 pm

ladislav wrote:As an Asian American who is 5'4" you might find love in Thailand ( although its a very materialistic society where you need to pay a bride price to parents and where many guys get cheated all the time and the concept of romantic love is not so developed- they are more into un-attachment) but do make efforts to learn Thai if you want to try it there.
Your better bet is VN- and this is where many Asian guys go for wives and few ever complain about the quality of women there. The people there are short in general and you will fit in, the girls are very smart and business oriented.
In the meantime yes, to satisfy the craving, you can go with escorts- it's a lot of fun just make sure you don't pick up some nasty stuff from them.
Thank you. I can be a hopeless romantic at times, but I am also a realist and do not feel as though my life would be too empty if I replace love with just paid sex. I can actually speak some Vietnamese; I'm just hesitant to try and date Asian women just because of my experience in America, not just with Americanized Asian chicks, but also with the international students who only seem to like white men. I wouldn't want to go to Vietnam and just find myself only able to date the leftovers that no one wants. I also am not sure if Vietnam today cares about height as much as China or South Korea; I have heard from a cousin that the younger women are now getting much taller...

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Post by ladislav » August 23rd, 2013, 7:16 am

All people in America are Americans to one extent or another.They want to fit into the US hierarchy. People who are not in the US act according to the hierarchy of their country.
There are plenty of VN girls who are 5 '1''- 5'2''. You only need one. In Cebu, the Philippines, most girls are 5 '1''. Plenty for you to go around.
I don't think any people here actually want to go abroad. It's not about what you want to do, it's about what you've got to do.
Paid sex gets awfully boring after some time, trust me. And the heart wants to cling to someone and it starts clinging to these hoes. Sad after a while. Fun in the beginning but later becomes something like going for a massage or a haircut.
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Post by Banano » August 23rd, 2013, 10:48 am

Americans think if p4p was legal in US that all their problems concerning women would disappear

paid sex is bad substitute for romantic sex or love,


I got friend who goes to brothel every Friday when he gets paycheck and guy is miserable and drained, started drinking and he is not even 30 yet.

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Post by Teal Lantern » August 23rd, 2013, 6:11 pm

ladislav wrote:As an Asian American who is 5'4" you might find love in Thailand ( although its a very materialistic society where you need to pay a bride price to parents and where many guys get cheated all the time and the concept of romantic love is not so developed- they are more into un-attachment) but do make efforts to learn Thai if you want to try it there.
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Post by Winston » September 6th, 2013, 7:16 am

First of all, Thai and Filipina escorts or bar girls are not like Western ones. They are not all business unless they don't like you. They often will treat you like a real date, because they too are hoping to find true love. Many of them are also sappy and sentimental, not cold and hard, especially if they are new.

Second, most Filipinas are under 5ft4, so you should do fine there if you are a nice guy. I think the average Filipina is 5ft1.
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Re: Asian American Man Burned out from Dating in the US

Post by Taco » September 6th, 2013, 12:39 pm

Malcolm Z wrote: I don't think a 5'4 Asian man like myself, no matter how interesting or successful he is, will ever capture a woman's heart, and I am a little burned out from trying.
This is not true. You won't have any problems attracting women in Cebu I know that. Try meeting them on "Date In Asia" first and see what kind of response you get.

I was in the Immigration Office in Cebu city a week ago and saw this 5'1'', 55 yr old white guy with a really beautiful 25 yr old filapina wife, they had a kid too. His wife was taller than him.

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Post by kai1275 » September 6th, 2013, 2:22 pm

I also recommend Vietnam and Philippines as well. Vietnamese women are very hot and short enough. Asian women actually prefer an Asian man first and then a white guy second. Get on some dating sites, find some ladies, and make travel plans. Your biggest enemy is yourself.

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