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RE: How to arrange a first meeting outside of the Philippine

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RE: How to arrange a first meeting outside of the Philippine

Postby Guest » Thu Sep 27, 2007 10:56 pm

I have heard that some guys preferred to meet their Filipina (for the first time) outside of the Philippines. They advised getting a "non-refundable airline ticket" sent by UPS. I imagine this is tricky and risky. I would like to hear from anyone who chose this route, how they proceeded and how it turned out. Because of a family illness, I am not able to travel abroad for an extended period at the present time. Any good advice is appreciated.
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Postby ladislav » Fri Sep 28, 2007 2:52 am

I am not sure about that but I would advise that you post this question on:
forums/groups that are on these sites:

www.cebuliving.com
www.livinginthephilippines.com

They have thousands of expat members with all kinds of advice.

I would also advise that you post on groups.google.com

http://groups.google.com/group/alt.cult ... ics?lnk=sg

This group is almost dead now but you may still get some answers from there.

Generally, many younger usually virgin Filipinas will not go abroad to meet you outside because their families would not allow them to do that. Now, older and more professional ones may. I may think that you may have a good chance with Filipinas who are in HK or Singapore. These already have passports and know how life is abroad and many are happy to meet an American. You can find them on filipinofriendfinder.com- just check Hong Kong where you chose countries.

Plus my question is also this: where outside the Philippines do you want to meet them? You know, Filipinas have hard time getting visas to come to the West.

Also, you will be surprised to learn that there are many thousands of Filipinas in North America already who are quite lonely and without a bf. There are also many in Europe and the Antipodes.

Many are nurses and what not and some are living out in the boondocks somewhere where guys aren't that refined and cosmopolitan as they are in LA or NY. So they are looking.

Where to find them? filipinofriendfinder.com- sign up, do a search and check US and Canadian locations. Then, it is up to the law of probabilities. If you email a few hundred, you will be drowning in responses.

Admittedly most do not look as "fresh" as the Filipinas in their own country, but hey, maybe that is not important after all.
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Postby ladislav » Sat Sep 29, 2007 5:29 am

I dont know why this is happening. Perhaps because California has more men than women and also perhaps because they got the "racist" bug where they are. One should try the Filipinofriendfinder.com and see what happens. Many are scattered among redneck states and they may not be happy campers there.
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Postby Sholan » Sun Sep 30, 2007 12:10 am

Hmm, I checked out that filipinofriendfinder thing...

I signed up for it and basically all you can do is browse for thumbnails of girls and you can't even look at their pictures or message them without having to upgrade/pay for a gold/silver membership.
So, not much luck with this unless you want to spend some money on this membership.
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Postby ladislav » Sun Sep 30, 2007 7:57 am

It is some $30. A price of a dinner for one? A one fill up of a car? Cheaper than flying to the Philippines, staying at hotels there, and then bringing a lady from over there ( guess who pays for the airline ticket?), sponsoring her and supporting her while she cannot work and all that. Then add all the immigration/interview fees. And guess who will be paying for those as well?

Plus a Filipina from the Philippines may not find a well paying job for a long time while the one already here probably has one already.

Savings of many of thousands of $$$$. Or tens of thousands of dollars, perhaps?
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Postby momopi » Mon Oct 01, 2007 8:36 am

Are you in California? I grew up in Southern CA and had several Filipino friends from Cerritos area. Some are indeed racially inclusive and prefer to date/marry other Filipinos. But if you can befriend one and have her take you to (Catholic) Church to meet her family & friends, they warm up to you very quickly.
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Postby momopi » Tue Oct 02, 2007 4:49 am

gordan wrote:Yes. Northern. The question is then, how do you befriend one? Even if I met a good woman, is marriage a good idea in the USA? The idea of marriage is complicated when your own life is not in too good order. Some people advise to bring one from abroad and then have her become a helpful person in your life and that would theoretically improve it in a financial and emotional way. Whether this is doable or even realistic I don't know, but marriage is a scary idea in this country no matter to whom it is. I tend to lean towards someday being able to leave this country (alone) since it's been nothing but a pain in the arse for me.



If you want to meet and befriend Filipinos, put yourself in a position where you can meet them. i.e. if there's a large Filipino community in certain parts of North CA, check demographics of local community college and go take some classes. School is an easy environment to meet people. Or, if you're Catholic, you can simply attend Church with Filipino members. If you're not Catholic and intend to hook up with a Pinay, it helps if you learn some Catholic customs. If you find yourself asking "why is there cigarette ash on her forehead" on Ash Wednesday , you probably won't get very far with her.

If your life is not in good order, I'd suggest fixing that first before getting hitched. Importing a wife will cause some financial strains so you should be prepared first.
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Postby momopi » Tue Oct 02, 2007 6:10 pm

gordan wrote:First off, I don't want to give the impression that I'm after filipinas specifically. I like women of any background who is pleasing to me. As I get older I realize what is important in finding a woman and the traits she should have. It's all subjective, of course, since the one you choose should be someone who is compatible with your tastes, needs, and values. Race plays a role sometimes, I know, since some races display certain favorable traits. It's my impression, for example, that Asian women would probably make better wives than most based on some traits that they have.


Well, you gotta have a goal or target and go after it.

If you think about it, people go to the Philippines to get a Filipina GF, and to Russia to get a Russian GF. So in effect when they travel to a country, they already made that decision and hope to be successful.

I've dated across racial/ethnic lines since high school, but when it comes to finding a wife, I'd prefer a girl from Taiwan (1st gen or 1.5 gen), where I was born. But having this preference doesn't mean I'd automatically exclude others. One of my favorite ex's was a 1.5 gen Vietnamese girl.

On subject of schools, I think it's easier because most college kids are kinda poor, so economics doesn't play as big of a role. It's OK to take a college-girl on a date to In-and-Out for a burger and shake. She's not expecting you to drive a BMW and take her to dine at the Ritz.
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Postby tom » Sun Nov 11, 2007 11:27 pm

You must go there in person. If you are unwilling to travel you should not consider this option.
For one you don't truly know if the person is what you think they are until you meet them in person.
Some will be actually better looking in person and some not.
The will all try to pin you down. Don't marry the first girl that puts out. Take your time and get to know them and choose later. IT IS NOT LIKE HERE. You have so many choices. My Filipina friend who lives in California said “Its a free country hereâ€￾ she was referring to the Philippines and “there are so many girls here you don't want to get marred just have fun.â€￾ She understands that America is not free when it comes to dating options.
Having a girl come to you is not feasible unless you have a lot of money. Chinese businessmen do this and have mistresses flown over on a business visa. But unless you have tons of money this is not an option.
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