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it is very hard dating any american women today...improving your game doesnt help either.....i have been rejected HUNDREDS possibly even thousands of times and hav not had 1 american girlfriend.....anyone who has gone overseas will tell you that is ridiculous. something i hav just realized is that with Facebook every attractive woman in america has been given supermodel status......having sometimes hundreds of guys leaving her comments......and for the average guy it is impossible to get a woman with that kind of status.....the women here are not even worth it.....it is literally easier to relocate and go overseas than get a woman here in america
You don't need to be in a frat to get laid in college. And I don't think you can learn "game" from a website or a self-help book. What you've got to do is get comfortable in your own skin and confident about yourself. If you are stressed out, nervous about talking to women, etc... then you've got to figure out a way to chill. Now you can use the bottle to accomplish that (but that can make you fat, f**k up your skin, etc) or you can try exercise (just going for a jog even) to chill you out. I'm not suggesting being a gym rat as I'm sure not, but those are the only two ways I know to get your stress levels down. I skip the sugars and go for a run.
Now as far as getting women, you are still a teenager. I'm finally looking to settle down at 30 years of age. So the first thing you need to do is pump the breaks. You need to start dating and figuring out what you like. Down the road you might consider taking some trips to Asia. If you want a Latina or a Slavic chick you might have more work cut out for you, but certainly other Korea Americans date outside their race.... so why can't you?
I wish the best of luck, but you don't need to be in a frat to get a girl. In the west the more you care and stress about this the harder things can be for you. Once you take a chill pill, focus on yourself, and stop giving a crap about getting/pleasing a female... the easier dating will be for you. Don't take it personally if some girl flakes out on you or turns you down. Who cares? Go chat up some other chica and you'll soon forget about her anyways. All you really need to take away from this... is to chill out.
I have other reasons to move away, because I have found out how toxic even the upper middle class and upper class people operate here in America. I don't mind waiting an extra 3 years to finally graduate and start gaming girls and I am actually rather fine other than the fact that I still look like a boy after 3 months of lifting. America is simply a culturally toxic place and the only thing its good for is money. So why not make my money, then leave? And I understand you have never visited my college so you will never understand my situation. Thats fine, just dont make preemptive assumptions that i never tried. I did.
If you win an American Woman you still f#cking lose. Because you are stuck with an American b!tch who will take your house and everything from you when she decides to divorce you.
Stay far away from PUA types and anyone who will talk about "game" and "alpha, beta and omega". Read about it all you want, and if you get any inspiration or ideas from it then more power to you, but don't take it too seriously.
If you want women, all you need to do is not want women - while simultaneously being seen as a 'catch' by said women. Success guaranteed.
Right, so I have such a crushing dilemma right now because the disparity in compensation is so high between America and Europe. Working in Microsoft in Seattle nets you over $100k (Close to $120k even) and yet my jaw dropped when I found out that French and German wages are like 40k euros, so like barely passing $50k. Is it because of the vacation schedule or is it because the workers are less competent?
I just don't understand when you put two similar cities in terms of cost of living and yet the disparity is more than twice as much. Or am I missing out on perhaps what the big tech firms are for Germany and France? Google, Microsoft, and the other firms that are big in America seem to pay so little in Europe and it just boggles me why this is so. I mean let's admit it, you are in a different status when you are no longer in the top 5% of earners but instead only in the top 40% and that will affect your chances with women.
How much will you pay in taxes for a $120K salary in the U.S.? Don't get mesmerized by the dollar signs. Daddygov needs some money, honey.
Make the most of going abroad while you still can.
Oh yes, and remember that mother Europa extorts a lot more money than daddy U.S. government. So it's a double whammy, except for the free healthcare. I guess I'll just have to make enough in the US to live off dividends... Then I go to Europe.
Remember, when I had first gone abroad, I used to think the same thing. I used to think that "Oh wow, I'm only making 300 USD-convertible bucks a month.....this sucks!". The only thing that sucks about that is trying to get a R/T ticket to the US and back on that salary, but as for living WITHIN that country, the cost of living just might suffice. This encourages me to stay in that country because it's LITERALLY not worth nor affordable to go back to the US of Gay to visit. I like how that system of "checks and balances" works.
I don't know how Europe works, but can anybody confirm that he would need to be in the top percentile ranking of income just to get 8.5's and up?
It's time to expatriate to evade your fate; it's time to expatriate before the barn door permanently closes on "US" sheep.
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You don't need that PUA crap. Gaming is for weak men.
Real men don't need game because women always seek out men. So first off, I would focus on becoming a balanced person.
Stay healthy and strong.
Take care of yourself.
Control your sexual energy. Avoid pornography and casual sex. Don't be afraid to reject women.
These are basics of human nature. Once you are balanced and in control, then you will have choices in women.
Always use your brain first. Don't let your ego destroy you. You should be fine.
Yes, it's true. Men have lost control of their sexual energy. They want to be drained by women all the time. It's pretty crazy.
Stop focusing on GAME. It's useless. That's why it doesn't work for 99% of men.
Get your energy levels up. Try yoga, weight lifting, running and a better diet.
Eliminate porn. Porn is an energy killer.
Lastly, stop approaching toxic women. Here's a good tip: the next cute girl you lock eyes with, just say "hi".
You can do whatever you want to American women. Though I would advise you just avoid them entirely.
For foreign women I think the main selling point is that you don't need game. Stressing yourself out with trying to act a certain way defeats the purpose entirely for me.