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Use FaceBook To Chat With Overseas Girls Without Phones?

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Use FaceBook To Chat With Overseas Girls Without Phones?

Postby Jester » March 1st, 2015, 7:27 am

Do you think its advisable to use FaceBook as a place to funnel girls into -- girls whom you met in real life, or whom you met on a Cupid matchmaking site or CherryBlossoms?

CASE NUMBER ONE
Lets say that you were outside the USA, in a poorer country. Let's say you picked up a pizza and while there, met Big-Eyed Brenda, who was behind the counter. She really dug your act. But you know that she may not have a phone, and even if she does, she won't have minutes on it. And even if she does, she shares the phone with her mother.

Trying to make repeat visits to the pizza parlor in order to woo her is going to make you pretty tired of eating pizza.

So you COULD ask for her FaceBook. ALL these girls have FaceBook.

BUT ---- you have gone dark on FaceBook and wiped out your old (useless, pointless) FaceBook account. It is no more.

You could easily start a new account, just for the single purpose of using it as a way to text with eligible young ladies -- and learning about them and their lives. You could put up a profile of yourself with a few cool pictures.

ADVANTAGES
-- She wouldnt need a telephone
-- She wouldnt need Skype
-- You could control when you communicated, so that she couldnt contact you at all hours.
-- You could se her "status" (single or relationship, see her posts, see what kind of people her friends are
-- You could limit your FB friends to hot girls, so they got jealous of each other and you looked cool.

DRAWBACK
-- you would be starting from no or very few FB "friends".
-- As you added a lot of girls from one (different) country -- say Philippines -- that might look odd to Brenda in Ensenada Mexico.
-- Depending on settings, she could see what you posted on other girl's timelines, and what other girls posted on your timeline.



CASE NUMBER TWO
You join CherryBlossoms, get 65 indications of interest, and end up selecting and chatting with 3 interesting, cute girls. You want to move things forward a bit, so you invite them to your brand spanking new FB profile.

ADVANTAGES
--You find out who their friends are, and get more idea whether they are open with you or if they are hiding stuff.

-- You dont have to give them your Skype handle right away

--FB works with old desktop computers and low bandwidth. Skype doesnt. So you can reach out to the "common folk" easier.

-- You can try another Cupid-type site. Or InterPals. And also funnel prospects from there into FB. You can chat all with them without having to log in to multiple different sites.

-- You can drop your CherryBlossoms membership after a month, because you are already in contact with the selected targets via FaceBook.

-- it's easier to friend-zone them if you decide they're not Miss Right. they can still be part of the network you're building in the country youre planning to visit. They might make a good guide or wing-girl. Or her brother might be a guide or wingman...

DISADVANTAGES
Maybe there is an easier way to do this. WeChat? WhatsApp? Something else?







PS
Here's an old related thread, about MEETING women via FaceBook.
viewtopic.php?t=18599
But that's NOT what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about whether to use FaceBook (or another mechanism) for communication with someone you've met elsewhere.
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Re: Use FaceBook To Chat With Overseas Girls Without Phones?

Postby davewe » March 1st, 2015, 5:00 pm

This strategy worked for me so I would say use it. OTOH I was already active on FB so didn't have to start over.

However, there are some caveats. Despite being young, the girls are not all dumb. Some have multiple accounts or will show you what you want to see but hide the stuff she doesn't want you to see.

But overall I think it's a decent strategy for all the reasons you mentioned. It also worked well for one of my best friends. Because he was my FB friend some of the Filipinas I had friended began asking him to be friends. At one point he messaged me and asked, "How come these 23 years olds from the Philippines are friending me?" That led to a long series of discussions and a lot of beer consumed and now a couple years later - he's happily married to a Filipina.
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Re: Use FaceBook To Chat With Overseas Girls Without Phones?

Postby Jester » March 1st, 2015, 10:03 pm

davewe wrote:This strategy worked for me so I would say use it. OTOH I was already active on FB so didn't have to start over.

However, there are some caveats. Despite being young, the girls are not all dumb. Some have multiple accounts or will show you what you want to see but hide the stuff she doesn't want you to see.

But overall I think it's a decent strategy for all the reasons you mentioned. It also worked well for one of my best friends. Because he was my FB friend some of the Filipinas I had friended began asking him to be friends. At one point he messaged me and asked, "How come these 23 years olds from the Philippines are friending me?" That led to a long series of discussions and a lot of beer consumed and now a couple years later - he's happily married to a Filipina.


LOL

One reason I took down the account was that it had too many former gf's, friends of gf's, family of gf's, common acquaintances, etc to be useful for dating. I was self-censoring way too much.

Anyway, thanks, I will proceed with a new FB then.
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