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First I would like to say that I am newly registered with the site, but I have been reading the forums for 6 months or so.
In addition, I would like to thank everyone in advance for any advice they might provide.
Sorry for the long posting here, but I have a lot to say.
Let me give you a quick background on me, and then I will get to exactly what I need help with.
After being married to an American woman for 3 years who repeatedly cheated on me, the marriage of course ended in divorce. It hardened me against American women, and went several years of being single. I ended up joining a video match making service (17 years ago) and met a Peruvian woman through that company. After almost 16 years of marriage and two wonderful children (now ages 12 and 14), my wife filed for divorce. It was perhaps the worst day of my life. My divorce was final in September of last year (2014). I am not going to place all of the blame on her as it is very evident that neither of us asked the right questions before getting married. She is a strict Catholic and I am not, Latinas love to dance, and I am not into dancing, she rarely drank alcohol, and I like my beer, she does not smoke, and I have been a life long smoker, she was into extreme physical fitness and I am not, she wanted to be a socialite, and I prefer to be with my family at home or with close friends, etc. etc.. These are just a few of the things which I believe led to our eventually divorce. I might also add that I did support her in all of these things. Our children were baptized as Catholic and attended Church almost every Sunday (and I also attended church with her when our children were young), I did go dancing with her from time to time and encouraged her to go dancing with her friends even if I was not there. I could go on and on about the concessions I made with her and all the things I did to try and make our marriage work, but in the end, she wanted more.
So enough with my past and on to the future!!
Now being a single man, I started joining singles sites, both for American Women and women from other countries. What I found about the profiles of American women is that they read more like a job application than someone actually looking for a relationship. Quote: Must have good teeth, must have a bachelors degree, must make over $125,000.00 per year, must like going to expensive restaurants etc. I can see why American men are turned off by American women.
That being said, I am looking at taking the plunge to find another foreign woman, but want to be sure I am going to find the right one, or at least try and be as sure as I can be I find the right one, so here are my questions. Also, I do not plan to move overseas, but bring the woman here on a fiance visa to see how things work out.
I am looking at both Latin women and Asian women. What country in either Latin America or Asia would you recommend? I am primarily looking at Colombian women or women from the Philippines. I have already been talking with some women from the Philippines, and may talk to some from Colombia. I am 54 years old, and two of the ladies I have been chatting with from the Philippines are between 31 and 35 years old.
I am concerned about the following:
How can I be sure she is genuinely interested in a serious long term relationship and not our for a free pass to the U.S. The right things to ask and what to watch out for.
I have read that if they ask for money, that is a big red flag. One of the ladies I am talking to has never asked for money, nor inquired about how much money I make, but as said that she is having financial difficulty. Would you consider this to be a red flag, or just an honest woman stating the facts?
Although I like the dark completion of Filipino women, is there another Asian country I should be focusing my attention on?
For those of you who have knowledge/experience with Latin women, what country would you advise I be looking into?
Any advice on protecting my assets would be good as well. I have read that if I bring my new wife here, I am obligated to provide her with up to 125% of the poverty level unless certain guidelines are met.
Any general advice or recommendations are greatly appreciated.
Thanks again for anyone who can provide me good sound advice!!
Welcome to the forum wizard of oz
Sorry to hear about your bad experiences.
As others have indicated in this forum, it is not recommended to bring your lady back to the states, you have to move.
By insisting on that you are knowingly taking a risk again.
just my two cents, I hope the best for you.
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
Thanks for your input!
If it were not for my children, I would be willing to move overseas, but that is not an option for me.
I do understand that this forum is about "Happier Abroad", but due to the fact that I have children who live with me, and am not in a position to move overseas, any general advice on bringing a woman to the U.S. would be greatly appreciated.
You're probably better off finding somebody who is already in your own country. Try learning the language of the country whose women you like, then get connected with local communities.
Philippines is the right country for you.
Colombianas will be MORE demanding than Peruvianas on average, not less.
"Well actually, she's not REALLY my daughter. But she does like to call me Daddy... at certain moments..."
If you don't want a woman who likes to dance then I wouldn't recommend ANY country in Latin America, and especially not Colombia, since dancing is a big part of the culture in almost all countries there. There are always exceptions of course, I know several Peruvain women who don't like to dance, but they are not the norm.