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How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Inter2002 » May 4th, 2015, 6:47 pm

I don't know if anyone here has realized here that it's just not that men in America aren't able to find dates, but also MAKE TONS OF REAL TRUE FRIENDS as well. As a Hispanic American my dad was from Argentina, and said that people in Latin America spend most of the time outside in the street socializing and can easily find friends.
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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Yohan » May 4th, 2015, 7:10 pm

Western society is a lonely society, with everybody mistrusting everybody, especially between men and women, in USA also between the races.
Broken families everywhere. To find contact with reasonable people is not easy.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Inter2002 » May 4th, 2015, 8:18 pm

Yohan wrote:Western society is a lonely society, with everybody mistrusting everybody, especially between men and women, in USA also between the races.
Broken families everywhere. To find contact with reasonable people is not easy.
Do you know if that would be the case with Eastern Europe?

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by chibolo » May 4th, 2015, 9:15 pm

Inter2002 wrote:I don't know if anyone here has realized here that it's just not that men in America aren't able to find dates, but also MAKE TONS OF REAL TRUE FRIENDS as well. As a Hispanic American my dad was from Argentina, and said that people in Latin America spend most of the time outside in the street socializing and can easily find friends.
Yeah that's true. People in Latin America hang out in the streets, playing "futbol" (soccer), drinking together, etc. People are much more social there.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Ghost » May 4th, 2015, 11:49 pm

There are really only three places in America where you can make friends: school, work, and church.

Having lived in the third world where it would be uncomfortable to stay inside all day, I saw how people were outside so often: playing, laughing, walking, relaxing, eating. It's hundreds of times more social than the first world where everyone is inside their houses glued to their phones.

The bigger issue perhaps is finding anyone worth being friends with. I have only a handful of examples in my own life, and all happened by chance. Actually, I count 4 real friends in my entire life.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Inter2002 » May 5th, 2015, 2:03 am

Ghost wrote: The bigger issue perhaps is finding anyone worth being friends with. I have only a handful of examples in my own life, and all happened by chance. Actually, I count 4 real friends in my entire life.
Do you mean by that taking place here in America?

Do you ever hear this very often in which "your real friends will be there for you no matter what even during tough times", whenever a person is going through a tough time that's when one realizes WHO THERE TRUE FRIENDS REALLY ARE. Unlike having tons of pseudo friends and whenever you need them they all just disappear.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Ghost » May 5th, 2015, 9:42 am

Inter2002 wrote:
Ghost wrote: The bigger issue perhaps is finding anyone worth being friends with. I have only a handful of examples in my own life, and all happened by chance. Actually, I count 4 real friends in my entire life.
Do you mean by that taking place here in America?

Do you ever hear this very often in which "your real friends will be there for you no matter what even during tough times", whenever a person is going through a tough time that's when one realizes WHO THERE TRUE FRIENDS REALLY ARE. Unlike having tons of pseudo friends and whenever you need them they all just disappear.
Yes, in America, but anywhere really. Making friends abroad is really hard as well, since there are natural barriers to that. Making male friends anyway. Finding good male friends is virtually impossible, and I've never found one when I'm trying. It just happens via circumstance. Abroad, you have to be careful about making friends with strangers because you have to make sure you aren't being used.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by QuestionMark » June 7th, 2015, 10:04 am

And all this time I thought it was just me.

You know, now that you mention it, many of my real friends in the past were from other cultures. People in the west are so ingenuine, selfish, fake, shallow, and backstabbing. There have been people here who I started out as friends with, then later on they betrayed me somehow.

Americans can't handle deep conversations about things that matter in life. People are impatient and have short attention spans to the point that they're very particular about who they talk to and listen to. The first problem is people don't like to listen, or they only listen to those they consider to be cool and attractive. If you're someone who's real and deep, they label you as boring.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by fschmidt » June 7th, 2015, 6:13 pm

How do you define "true friends"? While Argentines are much more sociable than Americans are, they are both completely untrustworthy.

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Re: How to get REAL TRUE friends

Post by Inter2002 » June 8th, 2015, 6:18 pm

fschmidt wrote:How do you define "true friends"? While Argentines are much more sociable than Americans are, they are both completely untrustworthy.
Well did you have that experience with Argentines who live in the big cities especially in the capital who are completely untrustworthy? As for me Argentines are friendlier in who live in the provinces instead of the capital.

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