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Rock, you're being too harsh. OP is not ugly. He is just average. When I was in college, there were plenty of guys like him. Not all of them were dateless, they just dated women way uglier than themselves. I am not suggesting OP to do the same. He is average and should get average women at the very least. The problem with no dating prospect lies with the women, not him. In a parallel universe, he would be a caring dad now with two kids.
You need to just accept your age. Right now, you look like a geeky teenager. I say it's better to look like an attractive man in your twenties, then to look like a geeky teenager. Especially since you are ultimately NOT a teenager, and teenagers will sense something "off" about you. You cannot hide your age, Peter Pan is a fairy tale, stop this Michael Jackson nonsense brother and embrace your true self, while accepting your limitations.
No matter how many operations you will have, you will never be Nordic looking. You will look about as Swedish as Michael Jackson looked like a white American man, and you will have wasted thousands of dollars on expensive operations by then, as well as years of your life of what should have been your prime.
If you are approaching thirty and want to hang out in a group of teenagers, but wish to remain youthful looking so that you aren't seen as old... it sounds to me like you are planning on hiding your age\lying about it? Dude, you won't just look like a creep, you kinda are a freak.
I stand by my original advice, for you to get real, start working out, change your diet and try to change your appearance through natural means by exercize and with a better sense of style. And please, please, for the love of God, change that horrid haircut. Put some gel in it, comb it, whatever, but do SOMETHING. All that would help massively, and increase your chance of success with any age group. A 19 year old girl would sooner go for a handsome man in his late twenties, then for a man who looks 18 when pushing thirty. Baby-faced guys command no respect and are not taken seriously.
I'm not saying you are ugly, brother, but you have zero sex appeal right now, and plastic surgeries won't fix that. Lifestyle changes, however, will.
No, they are immigrants from maybe India or nearby, as their language is similar to Hindi and Persian.
Their looks are not European either, and their life-style is not that what most Europeans appreciate.
They are nomads, they are moving around, occupying some land, and finally moving on again and expect locals who are living near to them to clean up after their departure. Negative stereotype, what else do they expect?
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Do you mean that I just look like a "mixed Mestizo", or just a "Mestizo"?
Well the reason why I'm so obsessed is because I feel that I need to look more white/European in order to be able to date beautiful white girls.I remember feeling insecure about my race/ethnicity as far back as in 6th grade, that I would pretend to be some southern European(Italian, Greek, Bosnian,Macedonian) when asked about my race. I hate to admit but I was ashamed to associate myself with having some "Indian/Aztec", during my years at high school I would search online how to lighten my skin. One time I asked twice in high school what were the ways to lighten up my skin and there response would be "why don't you ask Michael Jackson?", "aren't you satisfied?". I feel and think that being white and of course good looking, you would feel more confident face less obstacles especially when asking any white girl if you could date, plus white girls would be more approachable. I guess this comes down to feeling foreign, inferior, low self esteem, insecure about my appearance especially my race, really shy especially when socializing. I have little or no social skills due to not having a social life for the past 10 years.
So I see that your saying that we have to be realistic including yourself that you wont get an absolute hottest 10/10 girl. What's your race/ethnicity, and height?
Why is it impossible to date/get laid with a hottest white girl?
Marcos and Rock are spot on, you're absolutely clueless man.
The least of your problems right now is your ethnic make up. First take care of that lousy haircut, ill fitting shirt, and pot belly.
And for christ's sake stop pedestalizing blonde chicks, yeah everyone would like to try one since they're so exotic, but it looks pathetic just longing for those; look at asian a and latin girls as well, they're ridiculously hot. Especially since you still have a lot of time, you can try a variety while looking for what you like most or what not.
This also reminds me of Winston, refusing to accept that the pot belly has a huge effect on your attractiveness. I don't have a six pack myself, but at least i look flat with a shirt on.
I understand your situation man, if you're stuck in some suburb in the states, you reach a state of mind where you start micro-judging every little feature of yourself, thus the crazy ideas of fat-grafting etc. I've been in that kind of state.
You just have to improve yourself, plan, execute and get the hell out of dodge, period.
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
What do you mean that fat grafting only has a downside for someone with a face like mine?
Can you tell me what my dress style should be like of that of an 18-20 year old guy?
You mean my whole body by "that total package"?
I've been told by my therapist that I have a monotone voice when I talk that people sometimes confuse with having an accent. I some Aspergers/pdd-nos tendencies due to having OCD. According to my psychologist people with OCD are 7 times more likely to display symptoms of pdd-nos/Aspergers. I feel clumsy whenever I socialize, and I've been told that the solution is to socialize more and practice.
I guess I have or used to have "self hatred", have low self esteem/confidence, poor self image, and struggle with insecurity. I feel like I'm a dark Indian guy wanting to date beautiful white foreign girls, but can't because of my looks.
OP reminds me of one of these guys who attend PUA seminars
Get in shape, lose fat, get haircut and hopefully you will get somewhere but I doubt you ll get anything decent no matter where you go.
Even Russian women want strong mean who can lead them and you look completely hopeless
Well as of now I have started on a diet to loose weight. What do you mean that you doubt that I'll get anything decent no matter where I go?
Now you all tell me if a guy that looks like this can get get dates with foreign white girls?
Also this person who's Hispanic and one of my Facebook friends. This picture was taken back in 2005 when he was like 21. and here's another picture of him Now would you consider a Hispanic guy that looks just like him being able to date foreign white girls?
In other words do both of these guys stand a better chance than I do if I where thin, changed my hair style, the way that I dress?
Mestizo = mixed race, amerindian + European. You have a bit of both in you. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mestizo
Your main problem is that you have self esteem and social anxiety issues. And of course things would be easier if you were a 10/10 handsome white guy, but you aren't. Accept it and move on. Focus on other things that you CAN change. And like droid said, stop obsessing over white girls like they are the only attractive women in the world.
This is the sort of Hispanic that would do great with white chicks:
But I've seen the short, stocky Mexican gangbanger type with pretty white girls too. Because both the stocky Mestizo and the handsome tall Hispanics have one thing in common: they usually are suave. Are you suave? Do you have a brooding look, a masculine and (heavily) accent voice, a relaxed attitude and decent dance moves?
White girls won't like it if you change yourself into a white boy, they are surrounded by plenty of wide boys after all. And those actually speak their language, belong to their communities, and tend to be taller and more handsome then you. How can you compete with those? The only way to compete is to be DIFFERENT. As in: embrace being Latino, rather then try to be white (which is absolutely pathetic and bound to fail). They like guys who are different. Being different gives you the "exotic" factor. Why try to lose the one thing that sets you apart from the crowd? Think, man, THINK!
I don't know you, but i venture to say that this is the f*n problem, you don't need a therapist, you just need to get the hell out fast.
Many dudes in America suffer from social isolation and become weird and fall into the mainstram BS of ending up under a therapist etc, when in reality all they really needed was a better environment. I rarely see these artificial "asperger" guys overseas.
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1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
Did I say he's ugly??? I said he doesn't have his shit together BUT his base look is just fine (what God have him). I was pretty much like that in college too. It's NOT about his inherent looks (the stuff he can't change without surgery) like his facial proportions, symmetry, etc. It's about his expression, dress, shape, and attitude - things he most definitely CAN change.