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It's hard not to be bitter when you have to deal with lots of shit in your life. I admit I was quite bitter at a stage in my life then I realised the only person I was hurting was myself so I changed by trying to be more positive and not to dwell on the negatives. I can be quite cynical still at times but I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing.
I was extremely bitter during most of 2013 and 2014. However, I learned in late 2014 I should try to be more at peace so I am. I would still say I am bitter but I am no longer letting it consume me or damage my health. I still have a lot of hatred and that has increased but that's not something I focus on much anymore either.
I decided to focus more on positive things and take some steps to change my life. They are slow but that's because of money.
Money is what allows a person to do things in life, make more money (the rich make the most money because they're rich meaning they have a lot of money), and money is what allows a person to become powerful and influential.
I don't think of myself as bitter. I am not one of those people who says that all western women are bad, either. I do think a man has to be extremely selective in choosing a wife. My wife is Indonesian, but I didn't go find a wife in Indonesia out of bitterness toward American women. I'm also in Gen X.
I'm not bitter toward women, but I'm a bit bitter about how so much of my life has gone. There were things I screwed up on, sure- but there was a lot of "environmental influence" kind of precluding me starting a life or having a less barren one. Everything being about work, not really having much value for the quality of life, expecting someone to get something without the means to do so, blaming the victim (especially when they turn the tables & become the vicTOR)- these things block a lot of life from taking place.
I don't like a culture that's always trying to be "the wellspring from which you flow." All that "playing demon" (as I call it) is something that gets you to not wanting to bother with the society very much & so is the whole "talking one way & acting another" thing. The style of inaccuracy, unfairness, and simply trying to succeed by failure while promoting these failing strategies to others (sabotage, basically). Ever since kindergarten or first grade, they've been preaching bullshit & acting in a way that matches their own bullshit instead of what actually occurs.
There is no bitterness in me. I simply count my blessings and feel quite content. There is absolutely no negative feelings in my heart towards Western women, that cannot be applied to Western men and modern society in general as well.
Maybe you didn't, but you knew at a minimum that your chances of finding an American woman suitable for marriage were poor.
And let's say you had married some white American woman. How badly burned do you think you would have been?
I can imagine very badly. And I'm sure you can too.
But who knows. Maybe you would have lucked out. After all, I too am not one of those people who think all western women are bad. But then, I don't know anyone who has ever said that all of them are bad.
All I know is that you married an Asian woman from Asia who had retained traditional, feminine virtues that are effectively non-existent in America and the West. And the reason they're non-existent is that western societies do not foster or strengthen feminine virtues, but instead knock them down.
So you're very fortunate not to be bitter. Probably most men would love to trade places with you. I'm sure many of them, like you, thought that not all American women are bad. Except, unlike you, they took their chances and actually married one, and then got their teeth kicked in.
Bitter is my middle name. This world's been f***ed to hell and back, and it's can be damn near impossible to find any peace and goodness in it.
I've been called bitter before.
I've lost my country, my future, my hope.
Yeah, I'm bitter.
I was much more bitter in my late teen years. I would bang my head against the wall out of frustration at times. Never did pass out though. I still get feelings of bitterness at times, but I have a job and bills to pay, so I kinda just "push thru it" so to speak. I imagine if I had more free time, I'd probably be somewhat more bitter. you just have to keep yourself busy to keep those thoughts outta your head. Maybe go to the gym or pickup a hobby to pass the time when you feel it creeping up on you.
I struggle with periods of feeling despondent. Almost everything seems screwed up to me. A few older people I know (baby boomer generation) are really positive about the future, but those people enjoyed advantages I never will.
One of the few things I feel positively about is that I don't have any student loan debt. I made the right choice not to take out loans and finish the biomedical engineering program I was in several years ago. Instead, I completed a much cheaper program without debt.
If I had taken out loans and finished biomed engineering, there's a good chance I would be jobless and struggling to pay off loans. A lot of biomed engineering undergrad majors cannot find work in biomed engineering now. They're also too specialized to find work in other branches of engineering.
It's a really sad world where doing the right things is no guarantee of success, or even the chance to live a decent life. So many young guys have been screwed, screwed, screwed by trying to do the right things.
The universities just lie to people and try to sell them dreams.
I have a deadend job now, and I'm trying to line myself up for better opportunities, but there are no guarantees.
I'm rarely bitter. If there's a problem in my life I fix it. If I'm around toxic people, I remove myself from them.
There are plenty of great jobs out there but you gotta go search out the opportunities. For example, I was reading the free newspaper on the train home and there was an advert about an open day for medical jobs (paramedics and stuff).
You don't need a degree for everything either. I'm now in insurance, and no degree is required. It helps, but you can also start as office junior do your exams and work your way up to a niche underwriter (which can pay 60K+ gbp).
I quit my boring cubicle slave job and now I'm Happier Abroad...
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Funny when we were PM each other we had the same position that not all western women are bad but yet you PM saying that I should "put or shut up". What a punk.