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Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby MattHanson1990 » Wed Dec 16, 2015 2:22 am

As we all know, if a guy doesn't have a car, then he's automatically out of the dating scene here in the US. On the other hand, many foreign women don't care if her ideal man owns a car or not. But I'm trying to find out which countries can a guy date the girls and not have a car, even though a car isn't a necessity to get around in most countries abroad. My ultimate HA destination is Latin America since I like Latina girls the most, especially mestizas, but I read this blog about Colombian girls flaking. In the comments section, one of the posters suggested to the OP of that post that having a car will drastically reduce the flake rate, and it was a Colombian girl. But I saw other posters commenting that it was mostly the fake girls in Medellin (the ones with breast implants and artificially enlarged butts) who flake out a lot. I did get on a different tangent for a moment. But I know that certainly in the Philippines, many of the women won't care if her man has a car or not. In Latin America, including Mexico, can an average American man still have plenty of dating choices and not have a car or will that severely limit his dating choices to low class girls?
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby Cornfed » Wed Dec 16, 2015 3:11 am

MattHanson1990 wrote:As we all know, if a guy doesn't have a car, then he's automatically out of the dating scene here in the US. On the other hand, many foreign women don't care if her ideal man owns a car or not. But I'm trying to find out which countries can a guy date the girls and not have a car, even though a car isn't a necessity to get around in most countries abroad.

I got the feeling that owning a car was indeed necessary in Korea. A girl who seemed to like me kept asking me when I was going to buy one. I never did so we never dated. In Cambodia a motor bike is good enough.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby WorldTraveler » Wed Dec 16, 2015 7:06 am

You don't need a car to date when visiting any of the countries you've asked about. Are you planning on moving there for good, then maybe a car would be necessary. I've never had a girl ask me if I had a car. You do have a car, it's in the USA.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby Cornfed » Wed Dec 16, 2015 9:46 am

WorldTraveler wrote:You don't need a car to date when visiting any of the countries you've asked about. Are you planning on moving there for good, then maybe a car would be necessary. I've never had a girl ask me if I had a car. You do have a car, it's in the USA.

The point is that if you are living in certain non-Western countries for any length of time, you do indeed need to have a car or transport to be taken to be taken seriously by many of the females there.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby MattHanson1990 » Wed Dec 16, 2015 7:23 pm

Cornfed wrote:
WorldTraveler wrote:You don't need a car to date when visiting any of the countries you've asked about. Are you planning on moving there for good, then maybe a car would be necessary. I've never had a girl ask me if I had a car. You do have a car, it's in the USA.

The point is that if you are living in certain non-Western countries for any length of time, you do indeed need to have a car or transport to be taken to be taken seriously by many of the females there.


Can one still take the bus or a taxi to be taken seriously by women, even for casual dates?
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby tjh14 » Wed Dec 16, 2015 10:35 pm

If they want you to have a car, dump them. They're golddiggers. It is stupid to own a car in a country with a decent transportation system. Besides some guys get into heaps of trouble if they have an accident. In China, you aren't allowed to leave the country until you have settled any claims against you. If you hit a car or even worse, a pedestrian, they will claim injuries whether they have them or not and you can't run away. You will go to jail if you don't pay. I think most countries are like this. Not worth the risk.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby Cornfed » Wed Dec 16, 2015 11:11 pm

tjh14 wrote:If they want you to have a car, dump them. They're golddiggers.

Not necessarily. It might just be that their social set requires dating men above a minimum social status, with owning a car being a marker of that status.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby tjh14 » Thu Dec 17, 2015 12:26 am

Well in China, that marker includes a car and a house. I suppose it's reasonable to look for men with some assets but where does that reasonableness end and gold digging begin? Hard to tell sometimes. Some Chinese guys with a car and house have taken to riding the bus on dates and telling the woman he lives with his parents so as to locate a woman whose heart is pure. I married a woman who didn't care about my wealth after many women to whom wealth was a priority. I think it's a red flag and so that was my strategy.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby Cornfed » Thu Dec 17, 2015 12:47 am

tjh14 wrote:Well in China, that marker includes a car and a house. I suppose it's reasonable to look for men with some assets but where does that reasonableness end and gold digging begin?

In the case of the Korean chick that seemed interested in me, I don't think she was trying to gold dig, as she knew my income and it was probably inferior to hers. She just had to justify dating a foreigner to her friends and family, and it seems she couldn't really do so unless I owned a car.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby gnosis » Thu Dec 17, 2015 2:06 am

tjh14 wrote:I married a woman who didn't care about my wealth after many women to whom wealth was a priority. I think it's a red flag and so that was my strategy.


She said she didn't care about your wealth, but that doesn't mean she didn't care about your wealth.

Women always marry up. There's nothing wrong with this, but that's the way life works. Let me guess: Your wife comes from the same social class you do or lower. She does not come from a higher class than you do.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby drealm » Thu Dec 17, 2015 5:23 am

This sounds like high school all over again, I think this is one of the biggest reasons I never had much social life.

I've never had the impression that a car was needed anywhere I traveled. My sense was that as a white American I could get a free pass where local men would be judged more critically. If you can afford a taxi that's the equivalent of a car. But I've never been anywhere long enough to try dating.

Supposing this is a real concern, I think you have two options. You can live in city where it's more common for locals to use public transit than cars. Nearly everywhere outside the US has superior public transportation. Of course this means being in metropolitan centers with more stuck up girls. The other option is you can be in the middle of nowhere, where people use a horse and buggy. I believe fschmidt mentioned some place in south east Mexico that's like this but I don't remember the name.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby MattHanson1990 » Thu Dec 17, 2015 6:52 am

drealm wrote:This sounds like high school all over again, I think this is one of the biggest reasons I never had much social life.

I've never had the impression that a car was needed anywhere I traveled. My sense was that as a white American I could get a free pass where local men would be judged more critically. If you can afford a taxi that's the equivalent of a car. But I've never been anywhere long enough to try dating.

Supposing this is a real concern, I think you have two options. You can live in city where it's more common for locals to use public transit than cars. Nearly everywhere outside the US has superior public transportation. Of course this means being in metropolitan centers with more stuck up girls. The other option is you can be in the middle of nowhere, where people use a horse and buggy. I believe fschmidt mentioned some place in south east Mexico that's like this but I don't remember the name.


In Guanajuato City, more people walk than they drive cars or take transit because it's a small city. In fact driving is not an option to get around. And this is why I would rather live there when I expatriate rather than some big metropolis like Guadalajara.
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Re: Dating foreign women and not having a car

Postby tjh14 » Thu Dec 17, 2015 6:23 pm

Women always marry up. There's nothing wrong with this, but that's the way life works. Let me guess: Your wife comes from the same social class you do or lower. She does not come from a higher class than you do.


No, I was an English teacher without much money. She owns her own apartment and has a middle class salary. Her family has much more money than mine. There are a lot of rich Chinese now. I had a colleague who married a girl and her parents gave them a superb penthouse overlooking the river in Chongqing. He's not the only one I know who seemed to marry up. China isn't the Philippines. Lots of people have gotten rich off of rising property values. But if she doesn't have a house already, she may expect you to buy her one.
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