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I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by Tamingstrange » January 20th, 2016, 11:29 am

I've been wanting to go abroad for at least two years now. So far, I've managed to save about $3,000 for the occasion. Eastern Europe and South America have peaked my interest.I'm starting to reconsider it however. I fear that it will be a waste of my time and money. The reason I say that is because I fear that the people from other countries, the women especially will be e exactly like in the US: Arrogant, cold, unfriendly, rude, phony and approachable. I've read some posts on here that have said that women are the same EVERYWHERE, in other words, they are all stuck up b!tches. I've heard Mexican and Brazilian girls are just like American women. This is apparently coming from guys who are from Mexico and Brazil. If that is in fact true, then I don't want to bother with wasting my time and money going abroad. This is also making me suspect that this whole site is just a lie. That regardless of what country I go to in ANY part of the world, women are going to hate me and not give me the time of day.

Is it really too much to ask, to go to a place where people, women in particular are approachable, kind, genuine, down to earth, accepting, feminine and less picky or judgemental? A place where there is human connection and meeting people, getting dates and making friends is easier and alot more natural?? Where you can cold approach a women without being seen as a creep?

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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by Yohan » January 20th, 2016, 12:25 pm

Tamingstrange wrote:I've been wanting to go abroad for at least two years now. So far, I've managed to save about $3,000 for the occasion.

I've read some posts on here that have said that women are the same EVERYWHERE, in other words, they are all stuck up b!tches.

This is also making me suspect that this whole site is just a lie. That regardless of what country I go to in ANY part of the world, women are going to hate me and not give me the time of day.
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USD 3000,- is by far not enough for 3 years.

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The worst kind of women I saw in USA.

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This website has a tendency to exaggerate - but it is true that the situation you face in other countries is often rather different from what you see daily in the States.

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I do not regret even one single USD or Euro I spent for overseas travel, I am from Europe, living in Japan and just came back to Tokyo after spending 3 weeks vacation in Thailand. - It makes sense to get on an airplane, believe me.

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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by fschmidt » January 20th, 2016, 12:54 pm

Why don't you use online foreign dating sites and talk to women from other countries and see what you think? This is a cheap way to at least get some idea.

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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by Adama » January 20th, 2016, 3:50 pm

If you don't have enough confidence to be able to introduce yourself to strangers, and to converse with strangers, especially women, then going abroad would be a waste of time. It would also be extremely helpful if you know how women communicate. Those are the two main things you need to be able to get women anywhere.

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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by xiongmao » January 20th, 2016, 9:21 pm

I don't regret the time I spent in China, Thailand and Spain. I had some amazing experiences.

An alternative is to test the waters of the dating scene back home. That's my plan for 2016. So far: Tinder (junk, especially for longer term relationships), PoF (idiotic spam filters keep deleting my account), medium sized niche dating sites (think ethnic, vegetarian, other shared interests) - early days yet but looking promising. It's hard work though, but more because I have so little time because of my job.

Also if you have a good idea of where to go abroad, then prep up by going to language school, stockpiling assets and dumping junk.
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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by Yohan » January 21st, 2016, 12:41 am

Adama wrote:If you don't have enough confidence to be able to introduce yourself to strangers, and to converse with strangers, especially women, then going abroad would be a waste of time...
Not really. To travel abroad is the best way to find confidence to introduce yourself to strangers. - About women, they will show up and introduce themselves too. Foreign men are often welcome.

The most difficult country to introduce yourself to women is USA, just my opinion. UK is also pretty bad.

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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by Winston » January 21st, 2016, 5:45 am

Tamingstrange,
Well would you reconsider back to going abroad again if i guarantee you 100 percent that your fears are TOTALLY WRONG? And i give you my word on that?

Keep in mind that america brings out the worst in you, and others as well. It turns women rotten, wicked, fake as hell and paranoid too, while it turns nice guys into shy awkward pussies. And it brings out your worst fears because america preys on keeping you in a fearful paranoid state of low vibration and energy.

But many foreign countries will do the opposite in bringing out a better side of you so that you can talk to girls more naturally, comfortably and with more confidence. Thats the great truth youre forgetting. And thats our message to you. Dont let your inner demons keep you from truth, they prey on your fears after all.
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Re: I'm reconsidering going abroad :(

Post by travelsouth » January 22nd, 2016, 4:06 am

I'm going to assume you are from the USA. If your life savings is 3000 you should not be traveling to Europe. If you want a warm woman rather than a cold one you likely should not be headed to the FSU.

I'd say the reality is you have a lot of researching and planning ahead. You likely need to educated yourself better rather than rely on some of the loudest typers that really don't know all that much.

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