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Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

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momopi
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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by momopi » August 16th, 2018, 3:30 pm

El_Caudillo wrote:
August 16th, 2018, 9:32 am
@momopi sure I agree with you he should get onto those things - making a list would be very helpful, I'm not a list guy but occasionally I'll do it and feel better when I get those things crossed off. However, this is not how Winston's psychology works - put it down to the wonders and marvels of the broad spectrum of human existence.
The purpose (of the list) is to force yourself to prioritize certain goals over others. If you want to do A then why are you doing B and C before A? What have you done today toward A and what are you doing tomorrow toward A?




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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by El_Caudillo » August 17th, 2018, 8:10 am

@momopi what do you think the chances are he makes such a list? And you're missing something, Europe is only something to fixate on temporarily until the next idea comes along. It's the mental fixation which is really important for W - action in the physical world is inconsequential.
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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by momopi » August 17th, 2018, 3:26 pm

El_Caudillo wrote:
August 17th, 2018, 8:10 am
@momopi what do you think the chances are he makes such a list? And you're missing something, Europe is only something to fixate on temporarily until the next idea comes along. It's the mental fixation which is really important for W - action in the physical world is inconsequential.
The passage of time and aging in the physical realm is merciless. The consequence of failure to prioritize and take action is on him.

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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by publicduende » August 17th, 2018, 3:49 pm

momopi wrote:
August 17th, 2018, 3:26 pm
El_Caudillo wrote:
August 17th, 2018, 8:10 am
@momopi what do you think the chances are he makes such a list? And you're missing something, Europe is only something to fixate on temporarily until the next idea comes along. It's the mental fixation which is really important for W - action in the physical world is inconsequential.
The passage of time and aging in the physical realm is merciless. The consequence of failure to prioritize and take action is on him.
That is precisely what I told him, too. Whatever opportunity window he might have, in Europe or elsewhere, is closing fast. If he stops thinking that taking shortcuts is a good (enough) avenue, he might as well start improving himself and grab a chance to find a stable relationship.

For how much you want to define him as a "cloud", clouds don't last forever. They eventually evaporate up or come down as rain...and they end up feeding the grass and the trees :)

This uber-libertine way of thinking is not doing him any good. And whoever is advising him not to steer away from it while he still has time (and not much left of it, IMHO) and continuing his merry-go-round on the web and on Fields Avenue, isn't certainly doing him a favour.

I might have been a bit too much on the rude & radical side when addressing him, but my point has been very clear: he needs to land back on the ground and start acting like an adult. Society demands it, women (any woman) demands it. If he doesn't at least find a compromise, he risks being lost for good.

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