Can a guy bang hookers while being engaged?

[Boner_Jones]

I know this guy who's engaged to be married, but he keeps going on sex vacations to the Dominican Republic and Brazil -- WTF??

He says it's ok because technically he's still a bachelor, but I don't know. I don't think he's really a husband type. Or even a father type. I mean, this guy lives to bang whores and date 18-19 yr old girls.

Can a guy like this still be a married man?

[ladislav]

Judge not ye, lest ye too be judged. Or something like this. There are all kinds of morals and logic, and we do not know all the circumstances. Does his fiancee know?
I have heard this type of logic before from an engaged girl in Japan. She banged me because technically, she said, she was not married. She did not tell me though until after the fact.
Again, I personally think we should not get involved too much into other people's personal lives.

[Boner_Jones]

Actually, she doesn't know, according to him. I've met her -- really nice, sweet girl.

Believe me, I know it's none of my business, and I am NOT condemning him as a bad person, but I can't imagine a marriage working out if this guy is banging whores on the side. I just want to know if it's even possible to be a father or family man with that kind of lifestyle?

[Winston]

He sounds like me. lol

Even though he's not married, he's still in a relationship so it's technically cheating.

The thing is, when you cheat a lot, she eventually finds out. Even if she has no proof, she can sense it with her intuition or sixth sense or through telepathy, through whatever force is interconnected in all things.

Even if she forgives him, it eventually sours the relationship and leads to mistrust and creates a wedge between them.

There are some relationships where the couple is open about their affairs, but that is rare and the quality of them tends to be low. If there is true love in the relationship, then it can't be a very open one.

This guy might be sowing his final oats before marriage, but only time will tell if his banging whores is an addiction or just a phase.

[Hero]

My brother's marriage was destroyed by this.

Honestly, why would a guy want to get married if he could just be a playboy?

[Boner_Jones]

My brother's marriage was destroyed by this.

Honestly, why would a guy want to get married if he could just be a playboy?

Maybe cause he wants to have it both ways. He says he really loves his fiance

[Adama]

What's the excuse he tells his fiancee' for the trip??


Doesnt she know that Brazil is a sex tourist destination?


Does he give her the phone number to the hotels where he stays (if he claims he is somewhere other than Brazil or DR)?


I have a friend who is married. He told me his wife would never let him go to Brazil with me. I said he could just tell her we are in Costa Rica. He said that wont work cause she'll call the hotel and realize it is in Brazil.


BTW. Dont say anything. It's not your business. Often the messenger will get killed. I know this from experience. It wont win you points with either one of them. And it will put you in the middle!

[gmm567]

so it sounds like winston is reforming himself. Wow.

[Boner_Jones]

What's the excuse he tells his fiancee' for the trip??

He doesn't tell her a thing. He and his fiance work in different states. He's a computer progammer so he puts in long hours, then goes off on these long vacations at the beach and blows tons of cash on hookers. I asked him why he's still engaged and he says he wants to see if he can give up his whoring and have a traditional married lifestyle.