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Great advice on steps to expatriating yourself

Postby Winston » Mon Oct 26, 2009 7:57 pm

Some of you might remember DarkTalay. He was on long ago when this forum wasn't as active. Here is one of his best posts that contains lots of great advice about expatriating and what it takes. It's too bad he left here cause no one was answering his posts. He shared some real jewels.


http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=12

I teach English here in LOS (Land of Smiles), it doesn’t pay much but the cost of
living is much lower than the States.

I managed to buy a beachfront condo in Pattaya on the Eastern Seaboard.

The first thing a potential expatriate must do to make a successful escape is to commit
and make a choice on actively exploring the notion of leaving one’s homeland.
He must commit to make as many field trips as he can to check out the country desired.
He must cease merely dreaming about living abroad immediately as that encourages procrastination.
He will instead visualize himself actually working, living and playing in the chosen country.
He will read all books on how to successfully expatriate.
He will research on the chosen country, learn something about the culture, history and
some of the language.

Once he is there he will connect with the expatriates already living there via the many expat clubs.
He will ask hard questions about the reality and ins and outs of living there and finding
work.
He will visit the local realty companies to check out condos and houses.
After he does all of this if he still is motivated he will make a decision and stick to it.

Everything he does from now on will support his expatriating.

He will get rid of that fancy car with its expensive monthly payments.
He will move out of that fancy apartment and into a trailer park to save money
or convert his property into a source of income.
He will cease useless hobbies that are a financial drain such as playing the horses or
going to lap-dance clubs.
So what if your family and friends raise their eyebrows, you are busy
engineering your escape to a better life.
He will make financial arrangements with his accountant for overseas
communication and tax returns.
He will start disposing of accumulated junk in his life that’s served its purpose but is
now a drag on his life.
Junk such as comic book collections, old love letters for exe’s, bowling trophies, etc.
He should be down to a suitcase and a carry-on by the time he departs.
He will set a firm date for moving out, if he doesn’t he will find more excuses for
inaction and never commit.
He will be very discreet about his plans to casual acquaintances especially Western women especially if he plans to move to Thailand.
He will find that doubters, mostly female will come out and try to discourage you.

They will cast doubt on your manhood ( “What’s wrong, are you threatened by strong
American women?â€￾).
They will tell your half-truths about moving abroad ( “it’s dangerous, you’ll be
back in a month.â€￾).

Do not depend on mainstream travel guide for information relevant to expatriating.
They are written for back-packers, wealthy couples, women, Gays and Lesbians.

“Lonely Planetâ€￾ is very slanted against the single heterosexual male tourist and
is not to be depended upon..
On-line forums such as www.pattayasecrets.com are better and have less disinformation.

Putting up pictures of the country’s landmarks and post-it notes on bathroom mirrors
with encouraging phrases is helpful.

I have strong doubts that any of this is going to be listened to much less act upon.

Few Americans even have passports.
Most men are used to being wage-slaves and will block out any information or advice
from friends about becoming an expatriate.
Most will just read this, shake their heads, and declare that it’s a hopeless dream and return
to working at a soulless job with a miserable commute and a rancid nationwide dating
environment.
Thousand of expats live abroad, why not you?

DarkTalay
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Postby Winston » Mon Oct 26, 2009 7:58 pm

Here he lays out the big picture of what you face in the US long term if you stay behind and don't go abroad. It's a good motivator.

http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=3958

Let’s see, climb the corporate ladder, work over-time doing things you hate for people who look down on you to pay for a house you can’t afford and a fancy car that depreciates as soon as you drive it off the lot.

Getting a measly two weeks of vacation time while Euros get months.

Slave away at this job only to have the company down-size or get taken over and have your position made obsolete and find out that you are unemployable since you are middle-aged.

To bust your ass trying to please American women and get their attention.

Marrying your sweetheart only to see her turn into a nagging fat shrew.

Working at said job and finally retiring when you are too old to enjoy your freedom, consigned to watching “Oprahâ€￾ at the senior center, playing canasta on Saturday nights and havingâ€￾ Senior’s Nightâ€￾ at Denny’s your weekly thrill.

No thank you!

Most men are indoctrinated from birth via the schools and the mass media into becoming enslaved for life to this treadmill.

Men become so preoccupied with covering up his ass at work (meeting quotas) and playing the political game while desperately trying to meet suitable women.

American society has changed radically over the past century before WWI most Americans worked at agrarian jobs, born, raised, marrying and dying within a few miles of his birthplace.
He probably went to a church which was a place where all the community met.
He knew and was known by all of the females from childbirth having gone to school and to the same church as they attended.
There were matchmakers, barn-dances, ice cream socials to allow singles to meet.

Finding a mate was easier as women were expected to find a decent husband and were raised to respect men.

The Industrial Age and WWI changed all that as farm-boys went to war and
were suddenly exposed to fighting in a foreign country, growing up very fast and being exposed to a alien culture.
The mass-marketing of the automobile and the creation of the Intercontinental Highway system made America a mobile society.
Now people can live in a neighborhood and scarcely know their neighbors.

Feminism has destroyed trust between genders and now men are seen as predators/criminals/fools.

Mass communication is cheaper and easier than ever with cell-phone, internet, VIOP and chat-rooms yet people are more isolated and out of touch than ever.

There is no real effective way for singles to meet nowadays as men are working overtime to make ends meet and have little time to socialize.
But that is what they were told to believe in and it makes them great wage-slaves who can be easily manipulated.

Personally I tried singles groups, singles ads and partner-danced for years with
little result.

I have friends who haven’t had a date for years and are unlikely ever to meet a decent woman.

Those relationship “expertsâ€￾ are like the American Cancer Society, they are not interested in helping you but to rake in cash from desperate people dying to meet a partner.

A few men have found the courage to get off the treadmill and find their fortunes
Overseas.
It’s not easy, some men have fallen on their faces but most have succeeded.

Dark
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Postby Contrarian Expatriate » Sun Dec 06, 2009 3:59 pm

I agree with most of his advise, but I do not believe a budding expat should seek out other expats in the country of choice. Most other expats hang in expat bars and with gangs of like-minded expats who are little different than the people back home.

The whole reason for expatriating is to get away from all that. One should be hanging out with the locals and getting their opinions on things, not the expats who'll want to drag you to the local Irish Pub and steer you into a community of little America. No thanks.
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Postby Winston » Mon Dec 07, 2009 7:03 am

There is truth on both sides. Yeah a lot of expats are losers and psychos, and not only that, but they act like "know it alls" and give a lot of misinformation. For example, a lot of what they tell me about the locals and their culture turns out to be false. Sometimes I feel like the only sane person among them.

But you can meet nice decent ones too that can turn out to be good friends. You just gotta be good at reading people. Mr S, for instance, can talk and look at an expat for less than a minute and tell if he's a loser or someone worth knowing. His years of experience coupled with a natural sense of human psychology, feeling vibes and seeing through people's masks, gives him such an ability.
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