Great advice on steps to expatriating yourself
Posted: October 26th, 2009, 12:57 pm
Some of you might remember DarkTalay. He was on long ago when this forum wasn't as active. Here is one of his best posts that contains lots of great advice about expatriating and what it takes. It's too bad he left here cause no one was answering his posts. He shared some real jewels.
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=12
I teach English here in LOS (Land of Smiles), it doesn’t pay much but the cost of
living is much lower than the States.
I managed to buy a beachfront condo in Pattaya on the Eastern Seaboard.
The first thing a potential expatriate must do to make a successful escape is to commit
and make a choice on actively exploring the notion of leaving one’s homeland.
He must commit to make as many field trips as he can to check out the country desired.
He must cease merely dreaming about living abroad immediately as that encourages procrastination.
He will instead visualize himself actually working, living and playing in the chosen country.
He will read all books on how to successfully expatriate.
He will research on the chosen country, learn something about the culture, history and
some of the language.
Once he is there he will connect with the expatriates already living there via the many expat clubs.
He will ask hard questions about the reality and ins and outs of living there and finding
work.
He will visit the local realty companies to check out condos and houses.
After he does all of this if he still is motivated he will make a decision and stick to it.
Everything he does from now on will support his expatriating.
He will get rid of that fancy car with its expensive monthly payments.
He will move out of that fancy apartment and into a trailer park to save money
or convert his property into a source of income.
He will cease useless hobbies that are a financial drain such as playing the horses or
going to lap-dance clubs.
So what if your family and friends raise their eyebrows, you are busy
engineering your escape to a better life.
He will make financial arrangements with his accountant for overseas
communication and tax returns.
He will start disposing of accumulated junk in his life that’s served its purpose but is
now a drag on his life.
Junk such as comic book collections, old love letters for exe’s, bowling trophies, etc.
He should be down to a suitcase and a carry-on by the time he departs.
He will set a firm date for moving out, if he doesn’t he will find more excuses for
inaction and never commit.
He will be very discreet about his plans to casual acquaintances especially Western women especially if he plans to move to Thailand.
He will find that doubters, mostly female will come out and try to discourage you.
They will cast doubt on your manhood ( “What’s wrong, are you threatened by strong
American women?�).
They will tell your half-truths about moving abroad ( “it’s dangerous, you’ll be
back in a month.�).
Do not depend on mainstream travel guide for information relevant to expatriating.
They are written for back-packers, wealthy couples, women, Gays and Lesbians.
“Lonely Planet� is very slanted against the single heterosexual male tourist and
is not to be depended upon..
On-line forums such as http://www.pattayasecrets.com are better and have less disinformation.
Putting up pictures of the country’s landmarks and post-it notes on bathroom mirrors
with encouraging phrases is helpful.
I have strong doubts that any of this is going to be listened to much less act upon.
Few Americans even have passports.
Most men are used to being wage-slaves and will block out any information or advice
from friends about becoming an expatriate.
Most will just read this, shake their heads, and declare that it’s a hopeless dream and return
to working at a soulless job with a miserable commute and a rancid nationwide dating
environment.
Thousand of expats live abroad, why not you?
DarkTalay