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Post by Winston » November 8th, 2013, 2:55 pm

ph wrote:Hey Winston,

I was just wondering. Unless that was a personal question. I almost did join one at some point. But you have a point, it wasn't for me.
I don't know what you are referring to. Your post is vague.
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Post by QuestionMark » April 26th, 2014, 5:21 am

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Post by Winston » April 26th, 2014, 10:12 am

QuestionMark wrote:I just read your story and discovered this forum recently. I wanted to give you your props and congratulate you on your journey and creating this site to form a community and start a discussion about this for men like us. Mainstream americans are too stupid to talk to about this stuff. I had/have some of the same experiences and problems you had/have, except I grew up 90's, started college a little later than you, started travelling a little younger, and you at least had some luck with women in America.

If you have a wife and have a son in the Philippines, why don't you just stay there rather than keep going back to the states?

Would you recommend Western Europe for women and friends? Or is it mostly like America? I only ask because I keep hearing good things about Eastern Europe, SE Asia, and Latin America, but Western Europe gets mixed reviews.
I didn't say I was married. Having a kid with someone is like being married by common law only. I was in the Philippines for a lot of years. But the pollution, heat and humidity took a toll on my health. I can't live there long term. I also don't want to marry someone from a very poor family because it feels like lowering myself. And I don't have much romantic or sexual chemistry with her. And I'm trying to find a Chinese wife or girlfriend now and have been for the last two years.

I didn't even start my travel plans for 2012 yet. Murphy's Law and an invisible wall keep blocking me for some reason.

There is no one solution fits all. Some guys do well in dating in Western Europe. And some don't. Some even do well in Japan, Korea and Taiwan, even though those are not dating hotspots. You have to try and see. I don't know you and what kind of vibe you have, so I can't say. Everyone's vibe and personality mixes differently with each country. Everyone has a different karma and wavelength too. Some cultures naturally resonate with you and others don't.

All you can do is try and see.

Sometimes, you can use Astrocartography and divination like Tarot Cards or I Ching to get answers as well. They tend to be strikingly accurate in my experience. Astrocartography is using Astrology to find your compatibility with a certain location. We have a thread on Astrocartography in this forum with links to sites where you can use it for free. Do a search for it in the search field above.
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Post by eurobrat » April 26th, 2014, 2:35 pm

Why is HA such a scam?

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Post by Winston » April 26th, 2014, 4:16 pm

eurobrat wrote:Why is HA such a scam?
How is HA a scam? In what way? Why do you ask such dumb questions?
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Post by zboy1 » April 26th, 2014, 4:22 pm

eurobrat wrote:Why is HA such a scam?
Well, the idea of being "Happier Abroad" is not a scam; what is a scam is all the spammers and trolls that routinely invade and disrupt the forum; of course, when I tried to do something about, the whiners complained (with most of them being the troublemakers in the first-place) and whined to Winston--which undermined my authority as a moderator.

I got many positive pm messages and support from current and ex/HA members about my bannings and occasional house-cleaning duties, but, in the end, the majority of the HA trolls--and even some legitimate HA members like Rock, Fschmidt and E_Irizzary-came together and voted to unban the trolls; they didn't think strict moderating was in the interest of the forum. (Which is why this forum doesn't have a good reputation on the Internet... like RooshV or the NiceGuy forums have--in terms of how well-run and moderated those sites are.)

That, and I think, Winston, is hurting himself and the forums reputation by not doing what the forum is advocating: that is, being "Happier Abroad." Instead, he stays in the U.S. of Gay--unhappy and depressed, and not traveling at all!

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Post by QuestionMark » April 26th, 2014, 5:49 pm

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I didn't say I was married. Having a kid with someone is like being married by common law only. I was in the Philippines for a lot of years. But the pollution, heat and humidity took a toll on my health. I can't live there long term. I also don't want to marry someone from a very poor family because it feels like lowering myself. And I don't have much romantic or sexual chemistry with her. And I'm trying to find a Chinese wife or girlfriend now and have been for the last two years.

I didn't even start my travel plans for 2012 yet. Murphy's Law and an invisible wall keep blocking me for some reason.

There is no one solution fits all. Some guys do well in dating in Western Europe. And some don't. Some even do well in Japan, Korea and Taiwan, even though those are not dating hotspots. You have to try and see. I don't know you and what kind of vibe you have, so I can't say. Everyone's vibe and personality mixes differently with each country. Everyone has a different karma and wavelength too. Some cultures naturally resonate with you and others don't.

All you can do is try and see.

Sometimes, you can use Astrocartography and divination like Tarot Cards or I Ching to get answers as well. They tend to be strikingly accurate in my experience. Astrocartography is using Astrology to find your compatibility with a certain location. We have a thread on Astrocartography in this forum with links to sites where you can use it for free. Do a search for it in the search field above.
Yeah I'll just have to try and see. I read somewhere on here that was your wife.
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Post by eurobrat » April 26th, 2014, 7:41 pm

Winston wrote:
eurobrat wrote:Why is HA such a scam?
How is HA a scam? In what way? Why do you ask such dumb questions?
I'm not happier abroad. Then again I wasn't happy at home.

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Post by Winston » April 27th, 2014, 8:52 pm

zboy1 wrote: That, and I think, Winston, is hurting himself and the forums reputation by not doing what the forum is advocating: that is, being "Happier Abroad." Instead, he stays in the U.S. of Gay--unhappy and depressed, and not traveling at all!
Well then just pretend I'm in the Philippines or China right now, so you guys don't keep harping about that over and over again. It just deepens the wound. I'm not supposed to be here now anyway.
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eurobrat wrote:Why is HA such a scam?
How is HA a scam? In what way? Why do you ask such dumb questions?
I'm not happier abroad. Then again I wasn't happy at home.
Why not? Why don't you explain your problem in Italy and get advice then? Maybe you're in the wrong city, or you chose the wrong culture?

How come you reported that you had a great time there the first time you went?
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Post by eurobrat » May 5th, 2014, 6:10 pm

Winston wrote: Why not? Why don't you explain your problem in Italy and get advice then? Maybe you're in the wrong city, or you chose the wrong culture?

How come you reported that you had a great time there the first time you went?
I'm just bored, depressed and angry everywhere I go these days.

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Post by eurobrat » May 7th, 2014, 3:22 pm

Well Winnie? Where did you go...

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Post by jamesbond » May 7th, 2014, 4:00 pm

eurobrat wrote:Well Winnie? Where did you go...
Winston just posted on another thread that he is about to travel to New Mexico.
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Post by Renata » June 13th, 2014, 11:47 pm

Can I change my username ...
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Post by Winston » June 14th, 2014, 3:50 am

Renata wrote:Can I change my username ...
Yeah but you should PM me about it, not ask in a public thread. What do you want your new username to be?
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Post by Jonny Law » June 14th, 2014, 5:24 am

Sir Winston...

Do you know where to get the best ticket prices for flights to the Philippines?

Can you help me with posting opinion surveys and posts on your great site?

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