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Re: Ask Winston: Post questions for Winston here

Postby Winston » Thu Apr 28, 2016 10:47 am

starchild5 wrote:I agree about the soul vibe of the country very much. Happened to me in Philippines and Germany/Europe travel. In few hours to days, i found out Philippines was for me and Germany/Europe not. A country can indeed reject or accept you. Different countries have different soul vibes.


Yes but also keep in mind that just because a country's soul group accepts you or welcomes you, doesn't mean you belong there forever. Sometimes, the welcome is just temporary, such as a few months or a year. Then after that, you seem to have worn out your welcome, as if people seem tired of you. Even new people you meet seem to be "tired of you" as if they know you've been there too long. One carries a certain vibe when they're new that others can pick up on. Also, it could also be that once your karma or lessons in a country run out, you are meant to go elsewhere to continue on your journey, so the universe may give you signs that it's time to go somewhere else as well.
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Re: Ask Winston: Post questions for Winston here

Postby USA_luxury_prison » Sun May 01, 2016 8:14 pm

Winston wrote:Hi USA luxury prison,
Yes I'm sure he will. If he misses it, I'll just let him know where to find your question. You can address a question to him in one of your intro threads too, where I think you posted some similar questions. Or post in one of the topics in the Work Overseas board. For now, you can use the podcast thread.

I can't tell you what your right path is, because no man can know another man's destiny, no matter how wise or arrogant he is. I'm not one of those know-it-all types who likes to tell others what to do with their life about every little thing. Wise people try to stay humble, so the universe reveals more to them. Arrogant ones are the ones that look foolish in the end.

But yeah I understand you feel. Most of us do I'm sure. Your soul doesn't fit into America and all it's artificiality, toxicity and meaninglessness. Life in America seems meaningless and pointless. You work hard for NOTHING essentially. There's no love or connection or true friendship, and nothing to live for except making money and consumerism. In short, you aren't validated, and neither are your feelings, emotions and soul. That's definitely not a good feeling. And the social environment feels lonely and isolating. People are paranoid and avoid others and keep their distance from others. None of this is natural but you are told that it's normal, thus what America tells you and what you feel are at odds with each other. It's constant INNER CONFLICT in America, over and over and over again. You know what I mean? It all makes your soul sick. So as you say in your username, the US is a "luxury prison" alright.

So I guess your destiny may be to live abroad too, it seems. Have you seen my Happier Abroad checklist? Does most of it apply to you?

http://www.happierabroad.com/checklist.htm

Also you could definitely use our ebook "Expatriation Apocalypse" that I told you about. It's only a few dollars and will answer a lot of your questions. The author wrote a blog post introducing it too.

http://blog.happierabroad.com/2015/07/3-reasons-why-you-should-read.html

Hope all this helps.


Ok, thanks. I will post a question on that podcast thread for him then.

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I guess deep down inside each person knows what he/she truly wants and if he/she wants it badly enough then he/she will find a way to get it.

Yeah, I definitely know what you mean. No wonder so many people are stressed out but feel they have no other choice but to man up and tough it out. Your site is a life saver and gives us hope that there is an alternative to living here in this hellhole. Thanks for creating this site, all I need to do now is act before its too late.

I feel like my destiny really is to live abroad even though I don't have any relatives abroad. And yeah most of the things on your checklist apply to me. Especially this one: "You do not "live to work" like most Americans but "work to live" and are not a workaholic. You live to enjoy life, and to have adventures and rich experiences." But isn't working to make ends meet the same everywhere even abroad? I mean without a job you can't put food on the table. Or do people abroad work much less than in the US? Could you elaborate on working in the US vs working abroad and the differences between them if you don't mind?

And yeah, I will definitely buy that ebook.

Thanks so much. Hope you don't get tired of so many questions by so many people.lol
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Re: Ask Winston: Post questions for Winston here

Postby Winston » Thu May 05, 2016 9:13 am

USA_luxury_prison wrote:
Winston wrote:Hi USA luxury prison,
Yes I'm sure he will. If he misses it, I'll just let him know where to find your question. You can address a question to him in one of your intro threads too, where I think you posted some similar questions. Or post in one of the topics in the Work Overseas board. For now, you can use the podcast thread.

I can't tell you what your right path is, because no man can know another man's destiny, no matter how wise or arrogant he is. I'm not one of those know-it-all types who likes to tell others what to do with their life about every little thing. Wise people try to stay humble, so the universe reveals more to them. Arrogant ones are the ones that look foolish in the end.

But yeah I understand you feel. Most of us do I'm sure. Your soul doesn't fit into America and all it's artificiality, toxicity and meaninglessness. Life in America seems meaningless and pointless. You work hard for NOTHING essentially. There's no love or connection or true friendship, and nothing to live for except making money and consumerism. In short, you aren't validated, and neither are your feelings, emotions and soul. That's definitely not a good feeling. And the social environment feels lonely and isolating. People are paranoid and avoid others and keep their distance from others. None of this is natural but you are told that it's normal, thus what America tells you and what you feel are at odds with each other. It's constant INNER CONFLICT in America, over and over and over again. You know what I mean? It all makes your soul sick. So as you say in your username, the US is a "luxury prison" alright.

So I guess your destiny may be to live abroad too, it seems. Have you seen my Happier Abroad checklist? Does most of it apply to you?

http://www.happierabroad.com/checklist.htm

Also you could definitely use our ebook "Expatriation Apocalypse" that I told you about. It's only a few dollars and will answer a lot of your questions. The author wrote a blog post introducing it too.

http://blog.happierabroad.com/2015/07/3-reasons-why-you-should-read.html

Hope all this helps.


Ok, thanks. I will post a question on that podcast thread for him then.

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I guess deep down inside each person knows what he/she truly wants and if he/she wants it badly enough then he/she will find a way to get it.

Yeah, I definitely know what you mean. No wonder so many people are stressed out but feel they have no other choice but to man up and tough it out. Your site is a life saver and gives us hope that there is an alternative to living here in this hellhole. Thanks for creating this site, all I need to do now is act before its too late.

I feel like my destiny really is to live abroad even though I don't have any relatives abroad. And yeah most of the things on your checklist apply to me. Especially this one: "You do not "live to work" like most Americans but "work to live" and are not a workaholic. You live to enjoy life, and to have adventures and rich experiences." But isn't working to make ends meet the same everywhere even abroad? I mean without a job you can't put food on the table. Or do people abroad work much less than in the US? Could you elaborate on working in the US vs working abroad and the differences between them if you don't mind?

And yeah, I will definitely buy that ebook.

Thanks so much. Hope you don't get tired of so many questions by so many people.lol


Yes of course people work to make a living everywhere and to make ends meet. But the difference is that in America, work is considered the sole purpose of your life. It's meant to fulfill your soul. Without it, you have no function and are considered a loser. You are seen as incomplete without a job. A job is you and you are your job. You don't own yourself,nor do you define yourself. Your job owns you and defines you. This goes beyond making ends meet or working to pay bills and eat. You see what I mean? It's a culture and mentality and attitude towards work.

When Americans lose their job, they act like its the end of the world. See the movie "Up In The Air" with George Clooney, where he fires people and watch them self-destruct and lose it. That's what I mean. Or the movie "About Schmidt" with Jack Nicholson, where Nicholson retires from his company and then is bored as hell because he has nothing to do and no one to socialize with outside of work. His life has no meaning or purpose without his job and company.

America isn't the only workaholic country. China and Japan have workaholic cultures like that too. Thus if you don't "live to work" you may not fit into those cultures either, at least not long term as a resident.

Yes many countries have a lower cost of living. So you can earn and work less yet still pay the bills. For example, Rock's darling country of Taiwan, he says, is almost a first world country with a low cost of living, at least in the cosmopolitan capitol city of Taipei. Or take Thailand for example. It also has a low cost of living along with good infrastructure and good quality of goods and services. In these countries, you could work less as long as you have a decent job or business.

Asia is more of a workaholic culture though. Europe is not. Europeans really know how to enjoy life and have fun. They work to live, not live to work. So their mentality would be more similar to yours and mine. It's important to be in a culture and people that fit your mentality and wavelength, because in those cultures, you will feel more VALIDATED, which is important for your mental health and self-esteem. I'm sure you know that when you're with people that you CLICK with, you feel a lot better about yourself. You've experienced that right? It also gives you more energy and zest for life.

To compare US vs. Abroad is too broad. We gotta compare specific countries to be more exact. But you get the picture.

When you get Ghost's book, can you help him out by posting a review of it on Amazon.com? If so, that would be great.

Let me know if you have any more questions. Btw, i love your avatars. They reflect the HA theme very well. Where did you get them?

Have you always felt like you didn't fit in the US? Or is it a recent thing? Some things you feel early on in life, but you can't express or are afraid to, for fear of being seen as a loser, especially if no one else around you does.
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Re: Ask Winston: Post questions for Winston here

Postby USA_luxury_prison » Mon May 09, 2016 2:33 am

Winston wrote:Yes of course people work to make a living everywhere and to make ends meet. But the difference is that in America, work is considered the sole purpose of your life. It's meant to fulfill your soul. Without it, you have no function and are considered a loser. You are seen as incomplete without a job. A job is you and you are your job. You don't own yourself,nor do you define yourself. Your job owns you and defines you. This goes beyond making ends meet or working to pay bills and eat. You see what I mean? It's a culture and mentality and attitude towards work.

When Americans lose their job, they act like its the end of the world. See the movie "Up In The Air" with George Clooney, where he fires people and watch them self-destruct and lose it. That's what I mean. Or the movie "About Schmidt" with Jack Nicholson, where Nicholson retires from his company and then is bored as hell because he has nothing to do and no one to socialize with outside of work. His life has no meaning or purpose without his job and company.

America isn't the only workaholic country. China and Japan have workaholic cultures like that too. Thus if you don't "live to work" you may not fit into those cultures either, at least not long term as a resident.


Ok, all of that makes a lot of sense. No wonder I felt like something was missing and kept feeling insecure/pressured to look for work when I took 1-2 yrs off from college/work. It felt almost like a kind of whole community type of vibe saying "We're all working, why aren't you?" You know what I'm trying to say? It's a weird feeling. Almost as if there's no time to take a break from work, relax and enjoy life. I'm still not working and unfortunately am in the process of becoming a wage slave again.

I haven't seen those movies but now that you mention them I'm going to go ahead and watch them. That's crazy btw. It's almost like everyone in the U.S is programmed to work/go to school with no time to do nothing.

Yes many countries have a lower cost of living. So you can earn and work less yet still pay the bills. For example, Rock's darling country of Taiwan, he says, is almost a first world country with a low cost of living, at least in the cosmopolitan capitol city of Taipei. Or take Thailand for example. It also has a low cost of living along with good infrastructure and good quality of goods and services. In these countries, you could work less as long as you have a decent job or business.

Asia is more of a workaholic culture though. Europe is not. Europeans really know how to enjoy life and have fun. They work to live, not live to work. So their mentality would be more similar to yours and mine. It's important to be in a culture and people that fit your mentality and wavelength, because in those cultures, you will feel more VALIDATED, which is important for your mental health and self-esteem. I'm sure you know that when you're with people that you CLICK with, you feel a lot better about yourself. You've experienced that right? It also gives you more energy and zest for life.


That's good to know, I think I read something similar on one of your articles on here.

I think that's why I have my eyes set on traveling to Europe someday. I definitely know what you mean about clicking with people. It's almost like you're on the same energy level or wavelength as you say.

To compare US vs. Abroad is too broad. We gotta compare specific countries to be more exact. But you get the picture.


Could you compare the life of an average American vs an average Eastern European?

When you get Ghost's book, can you help him out by posting a review of it on Amazon.com? If so, that would be great.


I sure will, as a matter of fact I already got it(2 days after ordering it). I need to read it first though and then I'll review it.

Let me know if you have any more questions. Btw, i love your avatars. They reflect the HA theme very well. Where did you get them?


Ok, I will. I got my current avatar off google images.lol

Have you always felt like you didn't fit in the US? Or is it a recent thing? Some things you feel early on in life, but you can't express or are afraid to, for fear of being seen as a loser, especially if no one else around you does.


To be honest, I always knew something wasn't right since the beginning of elementary school. Not that I had a hard time adjusting to school, as a matter of fact I always got good grades. I just always hated the fact that I felt like I was forced to learn stuff I didn't want to learn and not only that but I always felt like teachers/principals and school staff were trying to change who I was. Does that make sense? It's almost like I was being forced to act/be someone I wasn't with all the school rules/policies and the trouble that comes with breaking those. Now that I've read many of your posts & articles it's all starting to make sense. It's true that school prepares us to become robotic slaves. I really love this article that you wrote> http://www.waltgoodridge.com/archives/winstonarticle.html

^A real eye opener yet disturbing to know once one gets done reading it because its the truth. And to be honest with you I'm a #4 all the way and its really hard to find your place out there(here in America). I've gone from job to job wondering where I fit in and can't seem to find it. But this site is a lifesaver.
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Re: Ask Winston: Post questions for Winston here

Postby Winston » Wed Jun 22, 2016 12:15 am

USA_luxury_prison wrote:
Winston wrote:Yes of course people work to make a living everywhere and to make ends meet. But the difference is that in America, work is considered the sole purpose of your life. It's meant to fulfill your soul. Without it, you have no function and are considered a loser. You are seen as incomplete without a job. A job is you and you are your job. You don't own yourself,nor do you define yourself. Your job owns you and defines you. This goes beyond making ends meet or working to pay bills and eat. You see what I mean? It's a culture and mentality and attitude towards work.

When Americans lose their job, they act like its the end of the world. See the movie "Up In The Air" with George Clooney, where he fires people and watch them self-destruct and lose it. That's what I mean. Or the movie "About Schmidt" with Jack Nicholson, where Nicholson retires from his company and then is bored as hell because he has nothing to do and no one to socialize with outside of work. His life has no meaning or purpose without his job and company.

America isn't the only workaholic country. China and Japan have workaholic cultures like that too. Thus if you don't "live to work" you may not fit into those cultures either, at least not long term as a resident.


Ok, all of that makes a lot of sense. No wonder I felt like something was missing and kept feeling insecure/pressured to look for work when I took 1-2 yrs off from college/work. It felt almost like a kind of whole community type of vibe saying "We're all working, why aren't you?" You know what I'm trying to say? It's a weird feeling. Almost as if there's no time to take a break from work, relax and enjoy life. I'm still not working and unfortunately am in the process of becoming a wage slave again.

I haven't seen those movies but now that you mention them I'm going to go ahead and watch them. That's crazy btw. It's almost like everyone in the U.S is programmed to work/go to school with no time to do nothing.


Yes, Americans are essentially controlled zombies that are programmed to "live to work". The culture contains deep contradictions too. For example, work is not meant to be fun and fulfilling, or else you wouldn't have to pay for it. Yet American culture says that work is the meaning of life and will fill your soul. So it is telling you to seek joy in something that isn't that joyful. Such contradictions create schisms in your mind and soul which lead to mental illness, because the mind has trouble reconciling so many contradictions, so it gets bruised and "f***ed up" That's why you see so many F ups and degenerates in the US.

To compare US vs. Abroad is too broad. We gotta compare specific countries to be more exact. But you get the picture.


Could you compare the life of an average American vs an average Eastern European?


Well I haven't been close with an Eastern European. And I am not one either. So I can't tell you what the life of an average Eastern European is like. But supposedly, Eastern Europe is economically depressed and more poor. So the people may suffer poverty and small wages, which lead to some misery and alcoholism among its men.

All I can tell you is that it's easier to approach girls in Eastern Europe and that they are more friendly and approachable and feminine and humble. Not as bitchy or entitled as American women. But Eastern European men will tell you varying things. Some agree with me, but others think American are easier to get than Eastern Euro women are. Everyone's experience is different I guess.

When you get Ghost's book, can you help him out by posting a review of it on Amazon.com? If so, that would be great.


I sure will, as a matter of fact I already got it(2 days after ordering it). I need to read it first though and then I'll review it.


I'm sure you will like it. It's very informative and easy to read. Have you read some of it yet?

Have you always felt like you didn't fit in the US? Or is it a recent thing? Some things you feel early on in life, but you can't express or are afraid to, for fear of being seen as a loser, especially if no one else around you does.


To be honest, I always knew something wasn't right since the beginning of elementary school. Not that I had a hard time adjusting to school, as a matter of fact I always got good grades. I just always hated the fact that I felt like I was forced to learn stuff I didn't want to learn and not only that but I always felt like teachers/principals and school staff were trying to change who I was. Does that make sense? It's almost like I was being forced to act/be someone I wasn't with all the school rules/policies and the trouble that comes with breaking those. Now that I've read many of your posts & articles it's all starting to make sense. It's true that school prepares us to become robotic slaves. I really love this article that you wrote> http://www.waltgoodridge.com/archives/winstonarticle.html

^A real eye opener yet disturbing to know once one gets done reading it because its the truth. And to be honest with you I'm a #4 all the way and its really hard to find your place out there(here in America). I've gone from job to job wondering where I fit in and can't seem to find it. But this site is a lifesaver.


Yeah school in the US, public school at least, is meant to be oppressive and prison-like. It's run exactly like a prison. This site can't solve everyone's problems in the US, but at least it lets you know that you aren't insane and that the problem isn't always you, but tends to be with the sick insane society you are in. See some of Erich Fromm's books as well, which I posted about in another thread. He explains very well the sick unnatural Western society as well with its false beliefs that leads to misery and emptiness ultimately.

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Postby livefreeordie » Sun Jul 03, 2016 11:40 am

What are your thoughts on having a fun holiday in the philippines, where to go, what to do?

Have you met any filipinas that you have had longer term relationships with, or would consider?

What are some efficient ways you have come across in meeting them vs just online dating?

Being someone who likes quieter natural areas like myself, what are such areas in the philippines that you like, out of say polluted and dirtier places like metro manila?

Being more of an expert on russians vs filipinas, which would you recommend for Australian young 30s entreprenial man to pursue for longer term prospects?

Have you noticed Filipinas getting more westernized/feminized/less loyal lately?

What do you think of Duterte the new president and how he will influence prospects in Philippines?

Do you think Philippines is good area for passion-focused business/enteprise, if so, what and where?

If you are a nature lover, but still want some amenities and infrastructure like wifi and shopping, where in philippines most ideally would you live, travel to?

What archetypes of men do you think work really well in philippines e.g. artist, bad boy, business men etc

Can you imagine having a playboy lifestyle in philippines, especially when the women seem to be so against 'infidelity'?

What do you think of longer term health problems/risks from living there? e.g. parasites, malaria, water borne diseases etc

Where in philippines do you think is closest to 'having it all' e.g. Single women, nature, business opportunities, infrastructure

What is faster more efficient route for visas rather than visiting offices once per month?

Would you consider buying a campervan/car/van and travelling around, being mobile for a while?

Are there methods for foreigners to eventually own guns or own them through their partners/wives for self protection or sports shooting?

Any shortcuts to getting citizenship you have heard of?

Anything else of relevance you think would be useful

Cheers!!!
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Postby USA_luxury_prison » Thu Jul 21, 2016 1:22 am

Winston wrote:Yes, Americans are essentially controlled zombies that are programmed to "live to work". The culture contains deep contradictions too. For example, work is not meant to be fun and fulfilling, or else you wouldn't have to pay for it. Yet American culture says that work is the meaning of life and will fill your soul. So it is telling you to seek joy in something that isn't that joyful. Such contradictions create schisms in your mind and soul which lead to mental illness, because the mind has trouble reconciling so many contradictions, so it gets bruised and "f***ed up" That's why you see so many F ups and degenerates in the US.


Sorry, for taking too long to respond back, I moved away to another city(tourist location) 3 hours away to try out a different environment. That's kind of crazy and messed up. I've noticed many F ups and degenerates everywhere I've been in the US. It's kind of sad to see so many screw ups, too bad most don't know its the culture we live in.

Well I haven't been close with an Eastern European. And I am not one either. So I can't tell you what the life of an average Eastern European is like. But supposedly, Eastern Europe is economically depressed and more poor. So the people may suffer poverty and small wages, which lead to some misery and alcoholism among its men.

All I can tell you is that it's easier to approach girls in Eastern Europe and that they are more friendly and approachable and feminine and humble. Not as bitchy or entitled as American women. But Eastern European men will tell you varying things. Some agree with me, but others think American are easier to get than Eastern Euro women are. Everyone's experience is different I guess.


Ok, that's where I was planning on traveling to because I thought the cost of living is cheaper but I guess it's not a good place to live in if it's economically depressed. I guess going there for the women is still a positive. Do you think it's still better living there compared to here in the US?

I'm sure you will like it. It's very informative and easy to read. Have you read some of it yet?


I've read the first chapter I think and it really is a good book to get one started to leave this country.

Yeah school in the US, public school at least, is meant to be oppressive and prison-like. It's run exactly like a prison. This site can't solve everyone's problems in the US, but at least it lets you know that you aren't insane and that the problem isn't always you, but tends to be with the sick insane society you are in. See some of Erich Fromm's books as well, which I posted about in another thread. He explains very well the sick unnatural Western society as well with its false beliefs that leads to misery and emptiness ultimately.

viewtopic.php?f=23&t=30918


I know, I've noticed that it's just like a prison being in there. As far back as elementary I still remember how things were set up. Everything is tightly scheduled and controlled, even recess(free time to go outside). Even during lunch time, everyone has to get in line and wait their turn to get something to eat, not many meal options to choose from either. It's crazy now that I think about it and compare everything to what you say in this website. Its all true and depressing. It's almost like we're all programmed to live a certain way here in the US. Do you think that's why so many people lose hope and stop caring about their physical health and self-esteem? I mean there's so many people that are out of shape and seem to not care what other's think. They don't even dress in clothes that match or fit them.
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Re: Ask Winston Q&A: Post questions for Winston here

Postby Novel » Sat Sep 24, 2016 5:39 pm

Hello Winston. How are you?! Hey I'm having trouble using the 'search feature". I type in a topic to search for and it more times than other keeps saying that my words are too common???

I'm trying to find a topic on best ways to meet Chinese Women. A little bit about me...

I'm a Black American. Sick and tired of seeking women here. I'm a nice guy. A patient guy. But I'm not a push over. I simply show complete respect to you until you give me a legit and logical reason to second guess you. There-in, most American women play constant games. And they feel like I should play their games and accept their bad habits, bad behaviors and bad mindsets without thought. Maybe I tolerated more in the past but that was before I knew I could seek options else where. Meaning, outside American soil.

Ok being new to seriously trying to find happiness abroad, I've been focusing on China. That is my country of interest. That is my preferred woman of interest. I've been using Chinese focused dating sites. And the results have been pretty lousy. I know dating sites are a terrible method, but I don't know of any other way to find and meet Chinese single women. I'm not looking for the hottest most smokin' Chinese women! Attractiveness level is relative. Meaning, I'm simply looking for: A cute, good-hearted, genuine woman who likes to laugh and have some fun. And I've seen MANY of them in YouTube videos with expats experiencing China. I always point, HER and HER and HER... that's what I want. She's what I've been searching for!

If you could give me some much needed advice on how else to and where to connect with Chinese women, I would GREATLY appreciate it. Some examples, should I stop using and paying for dating sites and invest in PenPal type sites? Or am I better off finding my way to China? I am determined to find my happiness. Ok, looking forward to hearing back from you. Thank you Winston!
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