Winston wrote:swincor__ wrote:Winston:
how the Christ did your folks come up with such a British name for you?? The only "Winston" I know is Churchill, a historical figure. I've never run into anyone in America named "Winston." Hell, I don't even think too many British guys have that name either.
Cause it sounded like my Chinese name - Wu Wrin Gzung, and it was unique.
I could just as well ask what makes THEIR opinion more valid than mine, and what "credentials" THEY have, other than the fact that they're female. The only difference is that they told you what you wanted to hear, which in your world makes them "objective."
Guess what, Winston? Women flatter men with a lot of empty praise: it's called "being nice" to them. You really have to stop being such a needy sucker for female approval, Winston. You also have to start getting better thinking skills, especially when it comes to self-evaluation.
Cause I know those girls, saw them, and could gauge how sincere they were. Why is it hard for you to believe that SOME girls think I'm good looking or handsome? Even other forum guys here do not doubt that or have trouble believing that. It's not an extraordinary claim.
Why is it so hard for you to believe that a chick's flattering comments about your looks don't matter
if you're not getting physical with her? THAT'S the way to gauge how sincere she is.
But what does it matter if I'm good looking to you or not? I'm not trying to date you swincor.
Your fallacy is that you assume that everyone agrees with you about my looks.
So in your book, if someone says I'm good looking, they are being polite, but if they say I'm ugly, then they are being honest? lol
Your fallacy is that you keep placing too much value on a girl's empty, polite compliments instead of her actions.
I've said this before: if you're not boning a chick,
it doesn't matter what she says about your looks.
And yes, I do assume most people agree with me about your looks, because 1) physical attractiveness isn't totally subjective, and 2) because I know what is attractive and what isn't.
Sorry but that's more about chemistry and culture. All honest Taiwanese guys told me that it's not normal for Taiwanese girls to talk to strangers or guys who approach them. Even young tall skinny Taiwanese guys, like that engineer I met a few days ago, said that and agreed with that Taiwanese girls are not open to male strangers without a proper introduction through mutual friends. It's common knowledge here. I'm tired of repeating that to you. Try to be objective for once.
And if this is the case, then why do you keep visiting Taiwan? Your decision to go there makes no sense, especially since you're into dating local girls.
Sure, chemistry and culture are in the mix. But rule of thumb anywhere is: if you want to meet cuties, and you're a stranger, you better make a striking first impression. And usually, it's looks that get your foot in the door. Not saying good looks are enough, but chances are she will at least pay attention and wait to see more.
It's not about my looks, cause in Europe and Russia I am not considered that good looking either, yet 50 percent of girls stop and listen to me when I say "excuse me miss". Even in America, some girls will talk to me if I say "excuse me". Thus another factor must be at work here, rather than my looks. It's simple logic.
Well, yes, there's another factor at work: saying, "excuse me, miss" is just a polite way to get a girl's attention for reasons that might have nothing to do with seduction/building attraction. They may not suspect anything in your motives beyond a polite, non-sexual request. So naturally, they're just being polite in turn, and your looks wouldn't matter at all.