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Do you mean if you approach girls in NYC they will talk to you? Really? Using cold approach? Like in the movies? You don't need connections, you can just cold approach like they show in the movies? Do you mean American girls or immigrant girls? Do they flirt back? Aren't they more real and direct? How exactly do you chat up girls there?Herbalist wrote: ↑August 1st, 2013, 7:51 amI disagree with Bane on some points.
However, I think you most definitely do not need to be extroverted to be successful here. However, you must be willing to socialize. I recently moved to NJ from NYC after having lived there 13 years. At the moment I'm thinking of moving overseas to teach English for a year. Before leaving I will without a doubt buy an apartment in the city.
That's how much I love it.
When you get here, yes people have the don't f*ck with me face on. But that's just a front. It's very easy to meet people. Especially women. I randomly start conversations with people while waiting in line at a cafe. Waiting for a light to change. At the bank. Every time I leave the house I meet people. I am very much an introvert. New Yorkers are incredibly friendly and helpful.
Even the off duty cop who just caught you finishing a joint while walking down the street on the LES. For the most part people are cool. Are there assholes? Yeah, some times I'm one of them. A cabbie tries to run the light while you're crossing. Smack the damn hood and tell f*cking watch it next time. You have to be able to stand up for yourself here or you'll get crushed.
My best advice is to start bartending. Just go to a few hundred bars or restaurants over the course of a week or so. You'll get a job. Working 4 days a week you'll clear $800-$1200 a week. Move in with a roommate while you scope out different neighborhoods. Before signing a lease make sure to live in the neighborhood with a roommate first. After a month or two start looking for a "real" job if that's what you want.
In your first 6 months don't turn down any invitations. Birthday party, bat/barmitvah....doesn't matter. Go out. Go easy on the drugs if you're into that scene. Try not to really get involved with the strippers. As a bartender you'll meet a lot of people. Leverage it for all it's worth.
For dating and sex, go to museums and especially art galleries. Most guys sleep on this. You'll be outnumber by women easily. Plus there is usually free booze. If you don't drink be prepared to have people look at you kind of strange. Drinking is a huge part of the social scene here.
If you straight make friends with a couple of gay men and lesbians. Also hang with people from other countries. Get a hobby. Learn Salsa or Bachata. Lots of hot single horny chicks. If you're in your 20's or 30's make friends with a couple people in their 40's and 50's. Initially you want your social network to be really wide. In the second year you can start diving deep.
Any questions about it let me know. It helps if you're driven. But I know and have met enough people who just punch a clock and enjoy their lives. Oh...almost forgot about the parties. The Met Opera has a Young Patron's Program. So does the NY Philharmonic many other such organisations.
Join at least 3. You don't have to do it all at once. Maybe stager it over a few months. This helps with the renewals. You won't have to lay out a few grand all at once. The parties they throw are awesome. The networking opportunities are also incredible. Don't go for the networking. Go to learn something new if you're not into it now. The social contacts will follow later. Just be real chill about it. Also, once ever 2-3 months. Organize a few friends together for an outing. Nothing that requires you to lay out lots of cash. Could be to screen a new movie. See a performance. A gallery opening or a night of dancing. It almost doesn't matter. Go for drinks and food after. You do this and people will extend the same courtesy to you. As a single guy stay away from the bar scene. Make friends with promoters for the club scene if you're into that.
Plus you're bartending....everyone will love you....just remember to wear condoms. And if you get thrown out of a place for having sex in the bathroom. Wait a week or so and go back alone. Any issues apologize.
You can always blame it on the alcohol
What bunch of fantasy nonsense from Herbalist... New York City totally sucks and everything he said is the opposite. If it was that easy then Winston and others would have not written hundreds of threads why America sucks.Winston wrote: ↑May 9th, 2023, 3:23 pmDo you mean if you approach girls in NYC they will talk to you? Really? Using cold approach? Like in the movies? You don't need connections, you can just cold approach like they show in the movies? Do you mean American girls or immigrant girls? Do they flirt back? Aren't they more real and direct? How exactly do you chat up girls there?Herbalist wrote: ↑August 1st, 2013, 7:51 amI disagree with Bane on some points.
However, I think you most definitely do not need to be extroverted to be successful here. However, you must be willing to socialize. I recently moved to NJ from NYC after having lived there 13 years. At the moment I'm thinking of moving overseas to teach English for a year. Before leaving I will without a doubt buy an apartment in the city.
That's how much I love it.
When you get here, yes people have the don't f*ck with me face on. But that's just a front. It's very easy to meet people. Especially women. I randomly start conversations with people while waiting in line at a cafe. Waiting for a light to change. At the bank. Every time I leave the house I meet people. I am very much an introvert. New Yorkers are incredibly friendly and helpful.
Even the off duty cop who just caught you finishing a joint while walking down the street on the LES. For the most part people are cool. Are there assholes? Yeah, some times I'm one of them. A cabbie tries to run the light while you're crossing. Smack the damn hood and tell f*cking watch it next time. You have to be able to stand up for yourself here or you'll get crushed.
My best advice is to start bartending. Just go to a few hundred bars or restaurants over the course of a week or so. You'll get a job. Working 4 days a week you'll clear $800-$1200 a week. Move in with a roommate while you scope out different neighborhoods. Before signing a lease make sure to live in the neighborhood with a roommate first. After a month or two start looking for a "real" job if that's what you want.
In your first 6 months don't turn down any invitations. Birthday party, bat/barmitvah....doesn't matter. Go out. Go easy on the drugs if you're into that scene. Try not to really get involved with the strippers. As a bartender you'll meet a lot of people. Leverage it for all it's worth.
For dating and sex, go to museums and especially art galleries. Most guys sleep on this. You'll be outnumber by women easily. Plus there is usually free booze. If you don't drink be prepared to have people look at you kind of strange. Drinking is a huge part of the social scene here.
If you straight make friends with a couple of gay men and lesbians. Also hang with people from other countries. Get a hobby. Learn Salsa or Bachata. Lots of hot single horny chicks. If you're in your 20's or 30's make friends with a couple people in their 40's and 50's. Initially you want your social network to be really wide. In the second year you can start diving deep.
Any questions about it let me know. It helps if you're driven. But I know and have met enough people who just punch a clock and enjoy their lives. Oh...almost forgot about the parties. The Met Opera has a Young Patron's Program. So does the NY Philharmonic many other such organisations.
Join at least 3. You don't have to do it all at once. Maybe stager it over a few months. This helps with the renewals. You won't have to lay out a few grand all at once. The parties they throw are awesome. The networking opportunities are also incredible. Don't go for the networking. Go to learn something new if you're not into it now. The social contacts will follow later. Just be real chill about it. Also, once ever 2-3 months. Organize a few friends together for an outing. Nothing that requires you to lay out lots of cash. Could be to screen a new movie. See a performance. A gallery opening or a night of dancing. It almost doesn't matter. Go for drinks and food after. You do this and people will extend the same courtesy to you. As a single guy stay away from the bar scene. Make friends with promoters for the club scene if you're into that.
Plus you're bartending....everyone will love you....just remember to wear condoms. And if you get thrown out of a place for having sex in the bathroom. Wait a week or so and go back alone. Any issues apologize.
You can always blame it on the alcohol
Are the bartenders in NY like in that Tom Cruise movie "Cocktail"? That movie made NY look very wild. But it was over the top.
How come movies always have the protagonist living in NY as if everyone lives there? lol. Is it really the center of the world?
No, New Yorkers are not more real, sociable and friendly than the Americans on the West Coast. They are just as same as the people in the West Coast. New Yorkers are rude arrogant backstabbing obnoxious a$$holes. How do I know? Because I live near the City and visit there to serve clients for my company.Winston wrote: ↑May 9th, 2023, 3:19 pmI got a question. Is it true that New Yorkers are more real, sociable and friendly than the Americans on the West Coast? Some of my friends said I would like NYC and East Coast USA better. One girl told me that NYers don't flake on you and if they say they want to hang out, then they will, and they aren't passive aggressive like people in Seattle are. Is that true? If so, then wouldn't they be easier to connect with and relate with? If so, why haven't you guys told me that before? You guys say that the whole USA sucks. Is that true? If so then NYers are like Russians right? More blunt and honest and direct. That's my style. Why didn't any of you tell me that before?
Even in the movies, they show characters saying that New Yorkers are more real than LA people. Therefore, I'm sure the people in NY will also say that they are more real than people in LA right?
New Yorkers from what I've heard are more direct, assertive, and brutally honest than people from "laid back, cool" California.Natural_Born_Cynic wrote: ↑May 9th, 2023, 6:28 pmNo, New Yorkers are not more real, sociable and friendly than the Americans on the West Coast. They are just as same as the people in the West Coast. New Yorkers are rude arrogant backstabbing obnoxious a$$holes. How do I know? Because I live near the City and visit there to serve clients for my company.
No they are not.. where you hear that? Some are and some are not. However, New Yorkers are universally known to be rude, arrogant, and not laid back. New Yorkers are more like your "Your not that guy video". I don't understand why all the sudden Winston have fascination with New York and the East Coast... They are all the same part of America except different environment.kangarunner wrote: ↑May 10th, 2023, 1:23 amNew Yorkers from what I've heard are more direct, assertive, and brutally honest than people from "laid back, cool" California.Natural_Born_Cynic wrote: ↑May 9th, 2023, 6:28 pmNo, New Yorkers are not more real, sociable and friendly than the Americans on the West Coast. They are just as same as the people in the West Coast. New Yorkers are rude arrogant backstabbing obnoxious a$$holes. How do I know? Because I live near the City and visit there to serve clients for my company.
