@ Think Different
Think Different wrote:
I agree that there are some people on here who feel it is their sole duty in life (apparently they have nothing else to do in life but sit on HA all day) to antagonize other members, put words in others' mouths, and piss people off. It shows a very low intellectual maturity and is one of the first things that will turn off a foreign woman.
Very well said.
Think Different wrote:
I've come close to leaving several times simply because it's a major drag having to sift through all that bullshit, but I stick around.
I'm trying to find a different forum that has the same theme (helping people move overseas to find love) because of how annoying the endless attacks are.
Think Different wrote:
Winston tries to take the high road with this issue, but we've already lost some of our best, brightest, and most interesting and well-traveled people on here, due to idiots attacking them.
Right but then how is it the high road to let the forum bullies keep attacking? I mean, that would be like a city that had a mayor that instituted a policy of being very lenient and only giving warnings to criminals. Eventually, the city would just be taken over with violence and all the good people would move elsewhere.
@ Winston
Winston wrote:
I agree with everything you said and your analysis. I also did not know that there was an unspoken rule here that said that you had to contribute to the forum first before asking questions. lol I don't know where that rule came from.
Well I do think it makes sense to create an expectation that if you are going to take from the forum (that is, request answers to questions) that you also give something back. The forum can only work if people are giving as well as taking.
Winston wrote:
But it appears that some people here don't want to follow such etiquette. What can we do? Start issuing more temporary bannings? You can't please everyone.
Winston, you've got to be more strict with people. Remember in high school, the deans and others who were supposed to discipline people would almost always just let bullies go with warnings or minor punishment, right? Unless of course you were lucky enough to go to a rare school that actually punished bullies. Because of the leniency, the bullying continued, didn't it? By being too lenient, you are letting the forum bullies ruin your forum. Look at how some of the forum bullies attacked momopi and Sexter today. What if we lose them? Momopi posts some of the most useful information and I wouldn't be surprised if he just got sick of all of these attacks and left.
boycottamericanwomen wrote:momopi wrote:boycottamericanwomen wrote:Momopi and Sexter both share the same mangina attitudes. Maybe you can jerk each other off? Let's not turn this thread into a mangina-fest, as Sexter already attempted to do.
Specifically, which part or statement from my post above did you find disagreeable?
your cocksucking mangina attitude, sir. Now please get the f**k out of here, and take your Sexter friend with you. You both obviously cannot see the horrible reality of American women, which lends me to believe that neither of you have any real experience with American women.
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Think about it this way, Winston. Lets say you owned a mall and some of the customers would wait at the entrance and attack people. Depending on whether or not they liked the look of the person, they would say things like this to some of the people who wanted to shop there:
well-informed wrote:
Lol you have no hope troll, Why ask for something that specific one month after you joined. Hmmm, you must think we're really that dumb.
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What do you think any reasonable businessman would do in that situation?
Winston wrote:
Would you like to be a moderator, LarryLaffer, so you can help give warnings and enforce etiquette and bans? I don't have time to moderate every discussion.
I'll PM you about this. I would do so but only if certain conditions are met.
@ well-informed
well-informed wrote:
Also look at whats happen at Rio, Dominican Republic, etc. too many simps make women feel like god.
You may want to ask other members of the forum, especially those who are experts in finance, the real reason why it is getting more difficult to succeed abroad. The real reason is both our declining prestige as well as the declining value of the dollar. You see that things are getting more difficult and think that the reason is because of increased competition from other expats. But that is not the real reason. A few hundred people from the HA website are not going to have any noticeable effect. That is not what is happening. Do you understand how tiny 300 or even 3000 is compared to the 500 million or so young women that live overseas is? That is like a few parts per million at the most.
The real reason is the fact that
the value of the US dollar has been plummeting over the past several years, that is why things are harder than they used to be.
Look at what Contrarian Expatriate wrote in this post:
Contrarian Expatriate wrote:
While you will certainly find women in that region more friendly, don't think that they are looking to find a rich American to latch onto in a pinch. The world's perception is no longer that Americans are rich, it is that we are ignorant of other cultures and economically depressed at the moment.
I suggest you travel to the regions of the world where you find the women attractive and expect to have to raise your game to pull the interest that you will want. These women are sophisticated, and if they are going to hook-up with a man who has devalued dollars, you will have to impress them beyond income and perceived wealth.
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@ Jackal
Jackal wrote:
Perhaps it should be a rule that a new member's first post should be in the Introductions subforum. Many other sites have that policy and this might appease the grumpier, long-time members here, as well as making it more obvious who the spammers and trolls are.
Maybe. But there are two problems with this:
1. Some people have introduced themselves only to be attacked because they didn't understand the purpose of this site. Like some black woman came on, not understanding that this site is for guys. Rather than simply explain that the site is for guys she was mercilessly attacked.
2. Who would want to introduce themselves when there are so many bullies on this forum. I know I sure as heck don't want to give out any more personal information than I have to. By introducing oneself, they reveal information about themselves and open themselves up to attack.
davewe wrote:
I am a professional writer and it does annoy me that I cannot honestly write about my personal experience or ask a question without looking over my cyber shoulder. I will still post but perhaps more carefully.
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Like many new members the hostility on this forum makes him uncomfortable posting personal information.
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